i need your help asap. thanks!
2006-09-06 15:45:52 · 12 answers · asked by xyster8 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
i need a specific response. thanks!
2006-09-06 15:51:27 · update #1
My friend was diagnosed two years ago, went through chemo for a whole year and last year was in remission. This year acutally a few months ago it came back but in a different area. The best response to your question is to let her know You ARE THERE FOR HER! Through thick & thin. Some people seem to remove themselves from the situation, but believe you me it means the World to them to have somebody by their side. I've been their for my friend and alot of times thats all it was just being there, we've had lots of quite moments, and we have even more now cause he is really sick. Your friend trusts you enough to tell you and she needs you to lean on and to be a pillar of strength to hold her up. God keep both of you as you travel down this road with her! I'll be praying for both of you.
2006-09-10 15:22:48 · answer #1 · answered by Starla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, of course, tell her you are sorry. Then let her talk about it. She wouldn't have told you if she didn't want to discuss it with you. Then ask how you can help, what you can do. You know, unless the ilness is terminal, she will be a survivor after the necessary treatment. Offer to take her to radiation or chemo treatments if that is what is going to happen. Offer to babysit if she has children. Send her some meals or just dessert a few times. Just be there for her-to listen-whatever she needs AND when she recovers, don't give up on the visits and talks. She needs you just as much when she is a survivor as she did when she was fighting to survive.
2006-09-10 18:51:28 · answer #2 · answered by rhymer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, this is a very good question as I have been the patient and in situations with doctors and health care technicians unrelated to my treatment such as dentists and dermatologists. The main thing is to show concern while maintaining a professional attitude. Do the small things to comfort and maybe go a little out of your way to do something extra like being friendly and making them feel a little more special. You do this everyday and are aware of what a little extra attention does for someone who is ill.
Take the time to listen and do not be uncomfortable.
2006-09-06 23:06:31 · answer #3 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to be sympathetic to what they have been diagnosed with, and also be sensitive to their feelings about what the road in front of them is going to entail. I know. I've been there. Was diagosed with ovarian cancer last September.
Your patient will need to know that you fully support them in whatever decisions that they make and that you are there for them and will do whatever it takes to make them comfortable or help them through this phase of their life.
2006-09-06 23:29:45 · answer #4 · answered by TxCatLuvr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be encouraging! It's not an automatic death sentence!
Let them know that there are many people who survive cancer and that if the patient follows through with treatment they will beat it.
2006-09-07 04:05:51 · answer #5 · answered by BlueChimera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was diagnosed with cancer last year and no matter what, never say im so sorry!! or i feel awful!! or anything like that,, the last thing i wanted to hear was people feeling sorry for me.....sound kind of amused by the subject! be like wow how do you feel..then go staright to "do you know what kind of chemotherapy you're taking yet?" what kind of cancer is it? ask questions about it cause i liked sharing.
2006-09-06 22:56:31 · answer #6 · answered by lauren 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Offer to help her out with anything she needs. Just say I am here for you and leave it at that.
Dont show pity. cancer pts hate that.
2006-09-06 23:33:09 · answer #7 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
empathy... but i have to sayu that I am not an empathetic person because most ppl i know want sympathy and empathy from me and try to play for sympathy so I have become somewhat cold in the empathetic dept.
2006-09-06 22:52:55 · answer #8 · answered by Dragonflygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've received a newsletter sometime ago about "Helping some one with cancer". They give good tips what to do, you may want to chekc at this website.
http://www.yourcancerguide.com/newsletters-200306.html
2006-09-07 01:24:29 · answer #9 · answered by myNickname 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell the pt(sorry patient) i am very sorry to hear that! is there anything i can do?
2006-09-06 22:52:20 · answer #10 · answered by anie467 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋