Since i've come to Australia to study I haven't done anything to make my parents proud of me, I already have a cert IV, diploma and a degree (which I got in 2 yrs 6mths), but when I see my friends who finished their studies and are earning 50-60k p/year and I can't do the same, coz i'm only 20, too young to enter a firm! The worse part of this is that my friends parent's come over to my house and boast how well their kids are doing in Australia and unfortunately my parents can't say the same for me. I kinda feel guilty inside, is this feeling right or wrong? should I care less about my friends and focus more on my future?
2006-09-06 15:34:12 · 8 answers · asked by bchboy_998 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
u dun need to worry about letting ur parents down.
u need to focus n worry about letting YOURSELF down.
ask urself wat u have done for urself that make u proud of urself? it'll make u feel better.
i'm not saying that u dun have to care about ur parents' feelings. but c'mon u're still young. mayb the opportunity havent arrived yet. u just have to be patient.
i'm 20 this year, i got myself a diploma n i'm yet to get a proper full time career. i know my parents are disappointed coz they ' think' i'm not trying. but I AM TRYING HARD now.
u just need a big break. an opportunity to come. i'm in the same shoes as u. cheer up! u're not the only one. :)
as for myself, i'm still doing part time administrative jobs now. i'm not worried about getting a career at the moment. instead i try to learn as much as possible everyday when i come for work.
do urself a favour n dun try too hard to succeed just so ur parents can brag about u to others.
do it for urself. :)
good luck.
2006-09-06 15:56:41 · answer #1 · answered by keira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your doing well!!!! Congratulations. When I was a little younger I used to wonder how much my parents loved me because they never SAID it. My aunts and uncles raved about how well my cousins were doing (turns out they were over exaggerating all of that time). I always achieved a lot myself so I knew that my parents must have been proud but they rarely SAID it. If I were able to be young again I would tell my parents that I loved them FIRST and that I was proud of them for doing such a great job with me :) They just don't KNOW how your feeling. I mean who would NOT be proud of a child that has done what you have so fast.
2006-09-06 16:29:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always felt like I wasn't "good enough" for my parents.
In the long run, I turned out more financially secure, with a more solid marriage and better adjusted kids. However, I still have to hear about how wonderful a sibling did with this or that or how the other grand-kids are so incredible or whatever.
Eleanor Roosevelt (I believe) said "No-one can make you feel inferior without your consent". Believe that - live that, cause it is so true.
Sometimes parents brag to their friends and other family, but never say anything to the person who needs to hear it the most about how proud they are. I have found myself doing that with my daughter and I try really, really hard to make sure she hears it first now.
2006-09-06 15:43:36 · answer #3 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was never the better one out of the group. My parents had no stomping rights, at least not with me.
but, that was then.
NOW, My family always gently brag about me and how far I've come, in life, career, family, etc....
I took my time, wanted to know what was out there, wanted to sow my wild outs, so to speak. And, it payed off. I worked on a career choice, have been in the same field for 17 years now, and have job security. Found the love of my life, took my time doing it too!!Have a beautiful home, and all the headaches that come with it :)
So, take your time, work out a game plan and go with it, just know that no matter what you do, your parents will always be proud, just because you are their kid and, they will always love you, no matter what, that's what parents do....
2006-09-06 15:57:54 · answer #4 · answered by Torri * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 45 & am back in college...there wasn't a day in her life that my mom was not proud of me. Please understand that it never matters to a parent what you do as long as you try...it's yourself you have to convince.
My daughter is growing up very quickly & I was proud to be her mother from the moment I saw her. I don't care what she does with her life because I know & trust her decisions, I only want her to be happy at what she chooses.
Be proud of yourself...your parents are!
2006-09-06 15:47:36 · answer #5 · answered by Ivyvine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes focus on your future .Besides I bet your parents are proud of you you have accomplished so much in a short time who wouldn't be?
2006-09-06 15:38:21 · answer #6 · answered by Lilly K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the time.
2006-09-06 15:57:22 · answer #7 · answered by S K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, all the time...
2006-09-06 15:37:20 · answer #8 · answered by aemi 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋