I do have a man, who is very disappointed in me about some of my choices. But that's beside the point, let's generalize this. Men, would you get involved with a woman who had a slight problem with drugs? Though the woman is responsible, intellectual, going to college to get a degree, able to hold down a job, talented, creative, and beautiful? I know a lot of those things don't sound realistic, but these are the circumstances I'm giving you. What would you do?
2006-09-06 15:06:41 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Depends on how you define "problem". For example, Ive been known to "dabble" in some substances on an infrequent basis (maybe once or twice ever 2-3 months max.) Ive still got a good job, I know for a fact Im not hooked, because I never feel cravings or the like, Im still studying and passing university, Im still an aware, and informed member of society etc. etc. etc. So, from my point of view, I KNOW I dont have a problem, but some people (ill informed) might think I do.
My point being, the definition of "problem" is such a wide net to cast. What I dont see as a problem, others might, and so, it's hard to say, because I dont know how YOU define problem.
Anyway, to make a VERY general statement, I would say this: If her habits got in the way of her life, in the sense that she couldnt work, couldnt think about anything but "gear" etc. Then, no, I wouldnt get romantically involved with that woman. Id probably stick around, and try and help her out, but I wouldnt get involved. If her "habits" were more social types, and didnt interfere with the rest of her life (It seems this describes yourself from the details in your question) Id stick around, because I dont see it as a problem.
2006-09-06 15:20:21 · answer #1 · answered by azza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were him I'd let you do anything unless either of 2 things happened. If either of them happened it'd be a deal-breaker between us. 1) the drugs cause bad things to happen to yourself or 2) your drug problem enters my little world in a way I don't want and can't deal with emotionally. I'd feel the same about anything you do, not just drugs. I realize it'd be tough all the way around.
2006-09-06 15:26:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no such thing as a slight drug problem hun, you are whats known as a functional user, asking this question tells me you at least see a problem as well, you sound like an intelligent woman. step back, take a look into your own heart,(only you know your self wealth) if you don't like what you see, well, the only person that can fix you is you. sounds like your on the right track though, never give up on yourself. luck
2006-09-06 15:41:26 · answer #3 · answered by cycodad69 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she wanted to change and asked me to help her come off of them and work it out together yes, that would be fine.
To be in a relationship with somebody who insisted on doing drugs? I could n't handle that, I wouldn't want to be with somebody that allowed themself to be controlled by a chemical, I would feel the same about being with an alcoholic.
2006-09-06 15:14:38 · answer #4 · answered by Bohemian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell you, "It's me, or it's the drugs. Choose right now." Either you want this guy, or you want to do drugs. If you want the drugs, I'm sorry for you. I've known, and lost, some really good friends to that poison.
2006-09-06 15:17:13 · answer #5 · answered by eyeque195 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
everyone makes their own choices ut in my opinion if u were a girl i would want to marry then id be worried what if you wanted kids just think about it I'm not tryen to say what u do is bad but it may have bad results
2006-09-06 15:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by ocairde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are handleing it yourself no big deal. Addiction is defined by concequences. If you continue to do it even if it cost you your job, bf, friends, family, etc etc. If it doesn't then you are fine.
2006-09-06 15:10:25 · answer #7 · answered by USMCstingray 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he really love you, he will stick with you all the way. He will help you to all the problems in your life. He should give you confidence to fight all thsoe bad vice. If he really love............those things should be ignore, instead help you to change your life. If he really love you.........
2006-09-06 15:13:01 · answer #8 · answered by SNOWMAN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep running her, and just make sure her "Hobie" doesn't have a negative affect on her health. If he loves u he will stay, if he doesn't he is a fool!!!
2006-09-06 15:20:14 · answer #9 · answered by ladsout 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i was dating u i would tell u to get off the drugs now!! the drugs r bad for u
2006-09-06 15:09:27 · answer #10 · answered by steven_mohrman 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋