I feel really lonely. I attend a prominent medical school. I want to have a girlfriend. Yes I might be shy, but the girls I've asked eithet told me thay they are seeing someone or decline the approach after originally agreeing to go out on a date. I am not ugly. Yes my field requires alot of time committment. I have come to a point in my life that I really would need a companion. What should I do? If you want to help, please give your input. If not please completely disregard my email. Thanks.
2006-09-06 15:04:29 · 23 answers · asked by hey101 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just wait for the right time. Just wanting somebody doesn't make it happen. it'll happen when it happens. You can't control it. That may sounds a bit crap, but it's true. Just relax and enjoy your job and enjoy your friendships. If you're happy and enjoying life, someone will come along who likes you. It's usually when we're most relaxed and secure in life that we meet somebody, because that's when we're most attractive. Don't feel like it has to happen NOW....just give it time.
I'm in a relationship now....but I feel lonely right now 'cause I'm not with him...it's no guarantee of happiness being with someone (tho it's nice! I'm not complaining :) )
2006-09-06 15:08:39 · answer #1 · answered by Cina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What should you do....hmmm....well....I'm not trying to be stupid about it, just typing the first thing that comes to my mind. I'm a divorced/single mother for 12 years. I'm lonely also. I work at a Medical Lab Technician. Being a single mother and working full time takes a lot of commitment also....I have the same problem as you do with the exception a that I am NOT shy. Most of the time the men who want to date me, don't want to date "my kids", in other words, they are only interested in SEX and not in companionship. I think maybe you should realize that most people in college are not really looking for full time companionship, when I was in college I partied a lot, I'm amazed I made it through school...ha! Anyway, I wish I could help you, but I wanted you to know you are NOT the only one who suffers loneliness or lack of companionship. Good Luck and I hope there are some great answers on here that can help you!
2006-09-06 22:10:15 · answer #2 · answered by gr8_gal_in_ok 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have done well to get the courage to even ask girls out being shy. In your search for a girlfriend set your eyes on someone that you really have an interest in other than in a physical sense. After finding a young lady that you really have an interest in, be real. You are a young man, treat her like a lady. Does she like coffee? Invite her to Starbucks. Don't try to move to fast. Any lasting relationship takes time. Break the ice with a card inviting her to join you for lunch. When you meet talk and LISTEN!
2006-09-06 22:33:15 · answer #3 · answered by christopher t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone needs companionship - if you are lonely, look around you, there are people there to talk to - the guy at the store where you always go to buy your bread, the girl at the video place where you rent movies, the barista at your favourite coffee bar.
The first conversation doesn't have to last hours, it can be minutes. From there, friendship grows, as you find more to talk about. And don't limit yourself - find friends of all ages, and they will all be thinking (I know a girl that YOU would be perfect for...) Trust me - that's how most people meet.
2006-09-06 22:13:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, concentrate on your studies--that's more important. If you are lonely, then join a committee, club, or support group. At this point in time, you don't really need a girlfriend but just a friend. Later when you are finished medical school, there will be plenty of women running after you!
2006-09-06 22:08:42 · answer #5 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are getting out there and approaching girls so that is good. Maybe you are approaching the wrong girls, maybe talk to a girl that you wouldn't think is your type. It is always good to meet a girl from a friend or family member. Maybe try to get to know a girl first and be friends and then ask her out.
2006-09-06 22:12:14 · answer #6 · answered by lukafoo74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude its the new age where careers can be demanding and people dont have a lot of free time to socialize. Use the internet to your advantage. Match.com or eharmony.com or one of those other dating sites. Its a new era and a lot of women are into it, look for it Im telling you you'll be surprised! Then I promise you can go on dates and you'll have your choice of not settling for anyone. Believe me thousands even millions are doing it.
2006-09-06 22:10:07 · answer #7 · answered by Murfdigidy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you try asking someone that attends the same medical school that you do? Maybe you should give in a try. At least you'll have something in common.
2006-09-06 22:08:04 · answer #8 · answered by Tonya W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try online dating services
2006-09-06 22:06:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try an online dating service. Maybe they can match you up with someone compatible. Good luck.
2006-09-06 22:06:53 · answer #10 · answered by Cherry 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋