that is destroying her reputation. People are talking. What should I do? She's 24, depressed and suicidal.
2006-09-06 15:02:58 · 26 answers · asked by lavenderbluelassie 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The only reason I bring up her reputation is because of her state of depression. She hates criticism by other people, yet she is making poor decisions that only worsen the situation. For those people who tell me to take her to church: You can't make a 24 year old go to church. If you figure that one out, let us know....
2006-09-06 15:27:13 · update #1
get her in couseling, sounds like she is seeking attention!
2006-09-06 15:04:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't normally use terms like counseling, but in this case perhaps there is some merit to it. But I'm wondering whether you mean "risque" or "risky." Because risque is style, and there are definitely circles where that is quite acceptable. Risky, on the other hand, would involve such things as danger of disease or damage.
She's 24, and people are talking. If she was not depressed and suicidal (and are you sure this is really the case?), I'd say she'd chosen her style, and let her live with it. But depressed and suicidal indicate someone who may not know how to change something she nevertheless does not like. Is there someone she can trust, that she is willing to talk to about what's depressing her? Because you know, most depressed people have a lot of anger and dark stuff generally inside, but are too depressed to talk much about it. Still, talking about it with someone who can and wants to help can do a lot of good.
I wish you and your daughter the best of luck with this.
2006-09-06 15:13:54 · answer #2 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer isn't easy. I'm not comfortable talking with my mother about anything so it depends on how close the two of you are. Counseling is a great option and the doctor can decide what is best from there but if you and your daughter are not close, then getting her to wilingly see a clinical professional may be difficult. Also, try involving her in other activities. If you go out for an event invite her along. Depression can stem from simple boredom as random as it sounds. But I know i feel much better when I am outside and doing something purposeful. I love to volunteer with children and it keeps me out of trouble and active which solves a lot of my problems.
2006-09-06 15:10:14 · answer #3 · answered by freshndaktchn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she's suicidal, then you're obligated to report the behavior. Have specific evidence in mind, and prepare for her to be very angry at you, but if it saves her life, you're doing the right thing.
If she's not really suicidal, then you should be there for her and make sure she knows about resources available to help her. At the same time, because she is an adult, you can't do as much.
The suicidal tendencies are the biggest issue -- more so than the sexual behavior.
2006-09-06 15:11:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
when a guy is promiscuous, society doesnt really say much but pat him on the back. when a girl does it-its not the actual sex that shes doing it for. theres more deeper physcological issues to be dealt with. unfortunately, there are more serious consequences to her actions than just a damaged reputation.
2006-09-06 18:59:12 · answer #5 · answered by xtal6872 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not a mother im just a kid but being able to stop 23 teens from being sexualy active i think i can help
stop and talk to your daughter let her know that you care about her then tell her about the roads that she will see if she continue with this behavior
before breaking all this down you might want to tell her what you here and let her tell you her story first
2006-09-06 15:17:00 · answer #6 · answered by toni 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
reputation is the least to worry about! Don't worry about what others think! But being suicidal she needs therapy!
2006-09-06 15:08:54 · answer #7 · answered by monroe1172002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's 24 she doesnt need her mom holding her hand through this be her freind be there for her but if she doesnt awnt you aand i know this is hard cause you are her mother but you just have to stand by and be there to pick up the peices....remember when she was little and she got into stuff and you'd have to tell her and then if she still did it and fell down or something you just had to watch? well this is the same thing...you just gotta be there to pick her up when she falls...goodluck
2006-09-06 15:07:19 · answer #8 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about what she's going through and let her know you are there for her no matter what. Maybe get her into counseling if you can afford it and if she's depressed get her to see a doctor who can help.
2006-09-06 15:05:29 · answer #9 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
does she takes medicine? maybe its the meds or its her way of feelin loved or somewhat important from bad relationships in the past. so maybe u can talk to her but its not really much u can do becaus she is a grown woman
2006-09-06 15:09:19 · answer #10 · answered by lilbaby194u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is 24, there is nothing you can do except love her and gently explain your concern for her. If she doesn't want to hear it, don't press the issue, that will only make her push you away.
2006-09-06 15:05:50 · answer #11 · answered by sexyheater 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋