Should I tell my ex girlfriend how I feel about her?

Question

I was dating this girl for about four months. Things were going great between us. Then all of a sudden things when south. She was having to work major hours work and having to cancel plans that we would make. The thing is that this didnt bother me a bit because I knew how important work was to her but it bothered her though. She started to act extremely closed off around me and then one day I finally had enough of that, so I had to talk to her. Then later that evening things ended between us. She told me that she doesnt want to have to feel bad because of work. This is why things could not work between us.

Then about two weeks later we started to hang out again and things were going great again. Then one night we were suppose to hang out and then she couldnt because of work. Then she freaked out again. The only reason that I am doing any of this is that she is the most amazing person that I have ever met. I love everything about her. I have never told her how i feel.

Answer 1

aaw thats so sweet u know wat u should tell her when yall out right in the middle of what your doing like a movie of a dinner at you house of coures and spill and tell her u cant live with out her and u would never nevr hurt her .... ect

Answer 2

It sounds like neither of you wanted to break things off but more or less had to because of her work schedule. I see my girlfriend, who I've been with for over 4 1/2 years now, just on the weekends and we live 15 minutes from each other. I work during the day, but she sometimes has to work evenings and on the weekends. I try to keep myself occupied until I see her and we make the best of the time we have together. If your feelings for her are that strong and you just love everything about her, she's worth it. Go after her and tell her your true feelings. Don't let her work interfere with what could be a very magical relationship. You're going to have times when you can't be together a lot, but make every minute count. It'll all work out if you guys are willing to make it work. Good luck.

Answer 3

Only if she asks. LOVE is not wanting a person to fulfill an empty/undeveloped part of you. These are great learning tools--be alone with yourself and ask yourself what love is. LOVE is letting go of expectations that another person is somehow going to fill those empty spaces you feel. First you have to get to know yourself and begin to answer why do you have the feelings that you do. It might 2 or 3 or 10 or 20 times to look at that mirror that is inside of you. Don't sweat it, small steps--quick peeks through your fingers that are shielding your face with. By and by the pieces start to fit or they don't--toss 'em and try on a new pair of jean's. Sounds like now is not a good time for you and she to try to get together. There may never be a time. It's like being a chrome ball in a pin-ball machine, sometimes you get points when the ball does something totally unexpected. None of what you are going through is easy for you or anyone else. Each micro-second allows for unexpected action. Be honest with your own feelings. There is a whole world of women out there to get to know. You are getting very firm messages from a part of your brain that is heavily focused very near your waistline. Think with your frontal lobes, the part of your brain above your eyes, they serve as your bumper guards, allowing you time to think before. Be good, have fun, we live in the USA, a lifestyle unimaginable by most of the world's population. Aloha Jethro..........CeT

Answer 4

She sounds high maintenance to me. I don't know it's really up to you what you want from this relationship. So what's so amazing about her that your willing to give up your time for her. She not doing it for you. Come on your smarter than that, stop believing that she's the only amazing person in this big world. Do you think telling her how you feel is going to make a difference? Sounds to me like she might FREAKED OUT. Dump her and move on, you can do better.

Answer 5

ok i know someone that went through this and if u tell them it wu\ill be weird if they don't feel the same leave it alone and try to move because then it makes the break up even harder than what it already is maybe later on in life tell her it is like that show friends ross loves rachel but can't tell her and they end up togetther in the futre. i no a bad example but don't tell her it makes it hurt soooo much more. well good luck and think about it and i hope u have a good life.

Answer 6

Try to talk to her about it. I would recommend some couples counseling. The counselor might help determine if there is some other, deeper issue at play. If she (girlfriend) is putting in a lot of extra hours, she might just be stressed out and stretched too thin to have couples time. Try not to push though, you may push her away. Best to be a friend first, priorities can always change. Mainly, try to be supportive of her. Good luck!

Answer 7

if your meant to be things will work itself out but in the mean time you should tell her how you feel because you never know if she feels the same about you and i hope things work out for the best between the two of you

Answer 8

You need to have a long talk, although it sounds like you might have already. Tell her everything you feel and be completely honest. Say you understand about her working and you just want to be with her and will do what it takes. And good luck!

Answer 9

DO what ur heart tells u 2 do. LAME. But do what u got 2 do. Or if u want my advice nnnnoooooooooooooooooooo, if u are the 1 who called it off, she is going to tell her friends (see i knew that he was going to come back) and its going to sound bad, comeing from her

Answer 10

Yes if you feel strongly about her you, have to sit her down and talk about the situation or else she'll never know how you feel, I mean who knows maybe she has little sparks of feelings for you... Don't make the mistake I did, cause after that you don't get another chance.

Answer 11

You better tell her how you feel about her right away for your own good.This may be the reason she's freaking out as she thinks you don't care enough about her and couldn't care less about how long she has to work away from you.