A Sad Story About Adoption.....What do you think?
Does this sound real too you? Well I know a once young women in college who had a baby with her boyfriend and then the boyfriend died before the child was born.The women gave it up for adoption,but a relative in her family adopted the child.Explain your thoughts here please. The mother's side adopted the baby.The father died very sadly and unofrtuantley.The women's cousins adopted the baby from birth basically.And haven't even told her yet!
The women sees the girl only as a cousin though.If im not mistaken the child doesnt even know yet and shes 13 and the moms 30. i know this b/c im a friend of the girls. what do you think?
2006-09-06 13:59:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well. that is weird,but cool. i think you should tell your friend and she will know the truth.
tash
ps: i'm adopted to...
2006-09-06 14:04:49 · answer #1 · answered by tash 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not seeing anything wrong with this picture. A woman who was not ready to have a child gave the child to relatives who could raise her in a loving family. As far as knowing who her biological mother is, maybe the child isn't ready to understand that. I think that it is none of your business and you should keep out of it. It is up to the biological and adoptive parents to decide when and if the child should be told about the adoption.
2006-09-06 14:15:27 · answer #2 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's sad is that you know this critical piece of information about your friend that she doesn't know about herself. Have you thought about gently telling your friend's parents that you know this piece of information about her and since you know it's a given that somehow, someday, at the worst time your friend will find out this information by accident. Encourage your friend's parents to sit down with her and tell her first. It's so tragic that so many adoptees find out from people other than their parents that they are adopted. That leads the adoptees to feeling like their parents are ashamed of having an adopted child or that there must be something wrong with the adopted child's birth parents morals or genes... which could lead an adoptee to wondering if that means their is something wrong with them too. Openness is healthy... secrets however never stay secrets forever!
2006-09-08 04:32:15 · answer #3 · answered by genxmum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it rather is an fantastically exciting question, i've got faith the subject count itself isn't black and white, precise or incorrect. first of all, i've got no longer supply an new child up nor have I been accompanied, which ability I have not have been given any theory how those human beings experience. I see in many solutions how the bio-mom who supplies up her new child is going by an outstanding grief era, i've got faith it incredibly is real. Now, no person forces those women human beings to grant their toddlers up for adoption, and that i might anticipate that's a decision that isn't made in one day. I do experience for all the toddlers who're accompanied, as i'm able to purely think of the point of loss they experience (no count if that's rational or irrational that's not appropriate) i'm able to purely think of the experience of loss they experience, even even with the undeniable fact that the accompanied mothers and dads are outstanding and the youngster did no longer prefer for something, they are nonetheless devoid of their delivery mothers and dads. Having mentioned all that, adoption is taken under consideration necessary, for that's rather not a appropriate international and youngsters want families and ladies human beings choose for to grant their new child a greater appropriate existence ( i rather have faith that's what those women human beings think of, and that i won't fault them for it) that's painfully obvious even with the undeniable fact that that the adoption gadget is in want of variations.
2016-09-30 10:12:44 · answer #4 · answered by sashi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not look too sad for me. The family is willing to support and take care of this little girl. The mother is near and can see how her child is growing.
2006-09-06 14:15:15 · answer #5 · answered by mfacio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually-it's not real sad-at least your friend is alive and surrounded by a loving family- she could be in an orphanage or could have been aborted-sometimes you gotta step back and look at the big picture.
2006-09-06 14:08:02 · answer #6 · answered by boilerrat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The woman gave her baby up..she has no right to impose herself as the childs bio mom.
If the kid knows he/she is adopted, and wants to someday know who her parents are - then yeah I think she deserves to know the truth.
It's a familiar story believe it or not..
2006-09-09 05:27:43 · answer #7 · answered by jtxn170 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That still doesn't explain why you know, and your friend doesn't. If you're asking if you should tell her, I'd say- No. That's up to her parents.
2006-09-06 14:05:39 · answer #8 · answered by sdraterasbil 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think she should confront her and know she did what was best for her and will always be in her heart its best to let her know
2006-09-06 14:06:28 · answer #9 · answered by jay y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋