help i feel lost i am down alot of the time and just want to sleep?

Question

i love my job but not who i work for but i do more tham am asked to do but if i dont do extra 1 day they say i don't do that much whick i do more that anyone and i am olde and fater than most of them. I love my family but my husband he has not worked in 12 years but he is sick and can.t go to a real job which is fine with me ( no bad jokes or comment some people can't work) but i wish he would help with the house . that does make me crazzzy at times he also will help friend who is working on house went throught katrrina will someone give me a hand or know of anything am on anti deps. thank you for true help

Answer 1

I know exactly what you are going through. Different circumstances, but same feelings. You are definitely depressed and need to talk with someone.

First off start with your Doctor, if your medication isn't working for your depression, let him know so he can either change the dosage or the medication. There is no reason you should have to go through life feeling like this. The med my Dr. put me on (Lexapro) took 2 weeks to work but it did work great & that worthless, I can't imagine myself ever being happy again feeling atleast went away, and that was a huge help.

Next ask him about a support group or therapist you can go to depending on which you are more comfortable with. Some people like to talk things out with a group and hear that other people face similar problems and there are bound to be plenty in your area due to Katrina, and the other advantage with a group is that you get more support and advise than if you got to a therapist who mainly just sits there while you talk and then offers their advise.

Talk to your husband about how you are feeling. Assure him that it's not his fault but there have just been too many things going on and they've taken there toll on you so you could use some help around the house.

As for the job, unfortunately, you need it so there isn't much you can do there. Just be glad that you love the work even if though you don't care for the boss. Most of us get stuck in jobs where we hate both so you are at least ahead of us there.

Most importantly, don't let you depression take a hold of your life! You realize there is a problem which is a great step toward healing so don't stop there.
Life can and will be happy for you again it will just take a little extra effort from you for a while.

And never be afraid to ask others for help and support.
I wish you the best of luck and if you ever need someone just to vent to, feel free to contact me through my profile anytime.

Answer 2

I'm truely sorry to hear about your issue.

You need to get some help, make an appointment with a counselor. You seem to be carrying the weight of your household and get your husband in there too he is not being very nice to you.

Your husband can't work? but if he was able to travel to help a friend out with the aftermath of Katrina, then he can do some chores and more around the house.

You cannot allow him to do this to you and the best way to resolve this is with counseling, if he doesn't want to go, go by yourself and you will be shown the light and see things looking from the outside in and know what we all see.

Answer 3

You sound stretched too thinly. When you're overfaced, even antidepressants don't work. You should first talk to your husband about what's going on in your life and ask him to help out around the house - that's usually what stay-at-home spouses do, male or female. Then I would talk to upper management at your job (your boss's boss, e.g.) if it's just lower management that's a pain in the rear. Otherwise, whatever job you're doing, I'm sure you could do with a different company, one that would treat you better. If none of that helps, I would talk to a personal counselor and consider marraige counseling.

Answer 4

Well, I can relate. I've gone through several periods of that in my life and have been hospitalized for suicide attempts 7 times. The thing is, you have to try to look at the positive and try to ignore the negative thoughts you are having. It sounds stupid, but it really makes a big difference. You might feel silly at first, but just humor yourself, fool yourself, whatever you have to do to look at the bright side and stop focusing on the negative. Life can really suck sometimes, but you're here on this earth so you might as well make the best of it! You may also have a chemical depression, where your neurotransmitters in your brain aren't supplying wnough serotonin. try taking vitamin B complex and Omega 3 fatty acids (Fish oil pills), get pletny of sunshine, exercise and even try yoga. try a new hobby. and talk to your husband about helping with the house, since you are the one working!!
Good luck and take care

Answer 5

I think if he can help someone else out with their house then he should be able to help around your house. You could try just asking him if he'd (Example;) load the dishwasher or run a load of laundry. It sounds like you are suffering from depression. I'm on antidepressants too. I feel down a lot and when I'm really bad all I want to do is sleep. It just takes too much energy to get up out of bed and even shower and dress. Hang in there better times are around the corner.

Answer 6

Maybe you should find another job doing the same thing, just with another company. Your size and age shouldn't matter, but if it matters to you, then they will pick up on that. Have you sat down and talked to your husband about helping you out and telling him how you feel? Maybe he can work on the internet with some company, there's plenty out there. Talk to a friend or specialist if you need too, but try not to use the pills, its so risky sometime.

Answer 7

When you feel so sad all you want to do is sleep you need to seek professional help. Visit your primary care physician and discuss your situation as soon as possible.

Answer 8

It's a form of depression. See a doctor.