We've been together for 2 years and I've talked to her about it many times and said what I need. I've been open to her about how i need to have her initiate things too. i do all the time and she never seems to actually WANT to have sex. She never initiates. I've been very vocal in an unagressive way and have nowhere else to turn. Please, any help may be a bigger help than you think. Thanks
2006-09-06 13:22:37 · 23 answers · asked by outofoptions 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes when a guy keeps talking about it then it just turns girls off more. Trust me I know my guy did the same thing. In most cases people only want what they cant have. So try to play that angle. Just act like you don't want it and don't say anything about it. First she'll ask what's wrong and you just say nothing like you have no idea what she's talking about. And eventually she will take the initiative. Trust me.
2006-09-06 13:28:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might feel unsafe that you will leave her after, but if you are engaged or married invite her to your house if you live alone. Let her watch tv while you shower, then come out with a towel and shirt unbottoned. Go on top of her without touching anything and just SLOWLY bend down to kiss her neck. If she looks frightened its ok even if she gently pushes you its ok too just gently hold her hand down but NOT BOTH of them, but if she pushed you a little hard and runs off then apologize immediately and tell her i told you this. I dont know if this will work but sometimes girls are shy and you just have to start first.
2006-09-06 20:30:24 · answer #2 · answered by Keiko h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm the say way as your chica sex isnt a big deal -i think though that maybe if you stopped nagging and were very sweet about it she'd change her perspective be very romantic with her and just explain that its something you'd like to explore- it could also be that she may not just feel confident so she doesnt want to be aggressive cause shes nervous so just pay her lots of compliments be REAl without being a pain in the *** and she'll want to do it because she loves you and you've given her confidence that she is sexy and beautiful and thats why you want to be with her and you want her to know this and be more assertive
2006-09-06 20:27:32 · answer #3 · answered by desireddisease15 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being very honest, if that is what she is like today, just think what she will be like later on in life? It only goes down hill after the wedding so better to find someone with your same likes now rather than having to go through life not knowing what it was like.
2006-09-06 20:27:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make her feel secure, comfortable and confident. Spoil her with compliments, and once she feels good enough she will intiate it. This is only of course if you are actually making her want sex AKA pleasing HER! once she has an orgasm she will want to have sex alll the time.
2006-09-06 20:24:48 · answer #5 · answered by tustudent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try setting the mood. Find out what pleasures her. Make her feel beautiful. Light candles, try some vidoes and most of don't forget the FOREPLAY!
2006-09-06 20:26:21 · answer #6 · answered by tmb6714 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't talk about it. . .as you know, it doesn't work. . .someone said that if the brain switches on, the body switches off. Just seduce her-slowly, a little bit more at a time. Don't "jump" her!
2006-09-06 20:26:43 · answer #7 · answered by Hermit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to seduce her over a period of weeks. Flowers, music, candlelight dinner, something that the both of you love, communication....
Try to talk to her and see what is up with her. Maybe she's pregnant?
2006-09-06 20:24:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Generally women are passive and you have to take the initiative.Try innovative ways of laying her so maybe she might want to try something new herself.
2006-09-06 20:26:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant tell you the right answer!
maybe she doesnt want to tell you - as a hasbund - what if she has a best friend .. her best friend can sit with her and she tell you whats the problem ,
then try to solve it
2006-09-06 20:26:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋