what do i do if I'm being emotionally abused by my parents?

Question

they never consider my point of view, what i think could solve a problem or what i like/dislike. they control my every move it seems like. so i hardley never talk to tem anymore because im afraid of being shot down again

Answer 1

tell them to **** off

Answer 2

That doesn't really sound like emotional abuse, just like typical parents doing the best they can to raise a teenager.
Shutting down will not help. You need to tell them how you feel and that you think you're responsible enough now to make some of your own decisions.
It's hard for a parent to let go of their children, especially when they become teenagers. You want independence because you think you've reached adulthood. They want to protect you from making wrong/bad decisions because they still see you as a child. There IS a happy medium, though. It starts with approaching your parents like an adult and telling them, in a mature way, how you feel. Avoid the accusatory "you," "never," and "always" statements ("You never listen!" "You always do that!"), as that will put anyone on the defensive. Basically, if you want to be treated like an adult, you need to act like one.

If you really are being emotionally abused, meaning that your parents call you stupid, horrible, ugly, etc. then you need to find some family counseling. Begin by asking your guidance counselor at school for advice and the number of a good family therapist.

Answer 3

How controlling are they? There is a difference between over-protectiveness & abuse.

If they are just being over-protective, and looking at you as a child, this is something you may be able to overcome. Start by acting very mature. Use logic in your behavior. If there is something you want, present a coherent "argument" for it.

If they are verbally abusive & put you down, that is a different matter. If that is the case, talk to a school counselor.

Answer 4

It's probably a good thing to do, not offer up your opinions so much. But you might consider talking to a school counselor or a therapist to help you come up with better ways for you to deal with your parents controling behavior and be able to develop healthy behaviors that will serve you through adulthood.

Answer 5

HOW OLD ARE YOU ? - Have you considered ASKING ? Not talking, will never solve a problem. I ran away from home twice before I was finally able to put my point across ONCE I STARTED TALKING = My running away was the most stupid thing I ever did / - Must make them sit down and talk !!!!!

Answer 6

I don't think they are emotionally abuseing you. all I see is that your not getting your way in the house so you won't talk to them anymore. Why don't you ask them if you go into big sister or big brother program you need somthing because you think they are controling you. there your parents of course they are to keep you out of trouble and I bet you talk back to them too. But they should talk and listion to you do I think you just want time with them and ask them for there time.

Answer 7

Try to speak with them again.. just let tell them that you need to speak for 15 minutes at least and they are not allowed to talk. Parents think they're doing the best for their kids and sometimes thats not the case. I wish you well. good luck

Answer 8

Well, I was physcially, emotionally and mentally abused by my parents. I got the hell out! I lived with my 'nice' grandma and it was better for me. I would be in a mental institution right now if I didn't leave.

Answer 9

thats not being emotionally abused, thats being treated like a kid. my parents did the same thing before i turned 18. just tell them how you feel about how they treat you and your opinions. if they still do it, then dont voice your opinions anymore to them.

Answer 10

I know how you feel, my parents are like that too, hey just believe in yourself and the things you do. Dont listen to anything that they say. This is your life not theirs, they cant control you, if they get overboard go to a Shink or thearpy it will help you. I hope it helps.

Answer 11

You need to know the difference between emotional and mental. Then you need to figure out whose food you're eating, who electricity you use, who pays the bills. Sounds like you're trying to just put your say into something they're discussing when it's really none fo your concern.