how can i talk to my mom?

Question

she always leaves on sundays and doesnt come back until like thurs. i am only 13 and i always have to take care of myself if i need help with my homework shes not their or if i need a paper signed for school ialways get Fs on it cuz shes not there to sign it. & i always have to make my own meals all day. & everything else. then when she comes home she yells at me for not doing my chores. shes never tthere to help me with important stuff so i dont feel like doing stuff around the house for her/ how can i talk to her about this. everytime i try to talk to her she doesnt take it seriously and makes jokes about it. is there a way i can let her kno wut shes doing w/o her joking about it?!

Answer 1

Sweetie, you're WAY too young to be left alone that long? Does she have to go away for her job or something? Where is you father or grandmother? Try talking to you school counselor or someone from your church (if you attend), tell them what is going on and that you need help. Please ask someone for help! You're entering into, in my opinion, one of the toughest stages of life right now. You need someone there to guide you and help you make the right choices. Next time she leaves you alone that long, call 911 or Child Protective Services (their number is in your phone book) and tell them that you have been left alone. Maybe then she'll get the message. Don't be afraid to do it, this is the beginning of the rest of your life, please don't waste it. God bless you and keep you, be careful and you are in my thoughts and prayers......

Answer 2

Melissa, sometimes the best approach is a simple one - Mom notes - leave sticky notes all over everywhere - about all the little things you wanted to say or ask, or a signature that was needed and she wasn't there - and I miss you notes on her pillow and the bathroom sink - Do the chores - and leave notes in the accomplished task - wish you were here to share life - I'm too young to already be living on my own - if these don't open some doors to communication, then you're going to have no choice but to go to a school counselor or other adult who can see to it that you are getting adult protective care. My heart breaks for you at this time - but maybe a houseful of notes will catch her attention - and if you do it with love and sincerity - maybe she'll realize it's not a joke to leave a 13 year old daughter home alone all week. Good luck Melissa.

Answer 3

I would advise speaking with a school counselor. I know its scary to talk to a school counselor but it may help quite a bit. For some strange reason adults tend to not take the words of younger people seriously. If you have your counselor speak to her she may take it more seriously. Another thing to note is that your mother should not be yelling at you about chores and such if she is away so much. Take what your saying here to other adults you know. They can help you get what you need. Do not feel bad if a few others do not take you seriously. Simply keep telling adults you know. Among the best choices are teachers, counselors, coaches, even the principle. One of them is bound to hear you out.

Hails to the saint of hearts,
Silence

Answer 4

I was like you. My dad wasn't' home except the weekends. He even stopped paying the bills. So we had no heat in February, no hot water (so cold you're head would freeze when you'd wash your hair), and of course groceries weren't that important. This began happening when I was 15. When I was 17 I dropped out of school, and began paying the bills. Ask your mother if this is what she wants for you. I also had to take care of my 12 year old brother. You are only 13, and by the sounds of it, are on your way to flunking if you don't drop out first. Sweetie, you need to find somewhere else to go. Perhaps you've got a friend with really great parents. Maybe a family member, even if they aren't close to you now, will be willing to help you out. Bottom line is that you need to get out of there. She's obviously not concerned with your well being, or your healthy development. She's going to scar your mind by acting this way. Tell her to smarten up. In the meantime, find somewhere to go.

Answer 5

I am horrified that a responsible parent would leave their child alone at all! You're only 13 for crying out loud! Please know that those exclamation points are not for you but for your mom.

I would advise that you talk to a teacher or school counselor and/or Child Protective Services (you can find them in the phone book, I believe) and tell an adult that your mom leaves you for days at a time. This is *not* right and something should be done about your situation.

Another way you could go would be to talk to one of your friend's parents about your situation, and ask someone else's parents if they would be willing to shelter you when your mom is not doing her responsibility. I'm sorry, but this just makes me angry. It's not right.

I hope this advice helps.

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Answer 6

if your fathers a better care giver, maybe you should go live with him. or anyone else that can care for you better. talk to you dad. or school councilor. i know you don't want your mom mad at you for expressing how you feel but she needs a major wake up call. i hope you keep yourself safe while your alone. you should not be alone that long. i'm sorry you have to go through this. my daughter complains that i help too much. lol. the school councilor might be your best bet.
is your mom working all this time away from you? or is she out partying? if she's out partying then she needs to grow up and realize that you are more important than her social life.
i hope i haven't said anything to make you mad but sometimes you need to get mad to get things done. any one of a million things could happen while your alone that long. it's not right. you need better parenting than that. even if your mom was working you still should not be left alone like that. does she call? do you talk at all while she's gone? there are so many questions that i know you can't answer like this. talk to your councilor. please.
stay safe.

Answer 7

Tell her you have an important thing to say to her. Tell her how you feel and ask her if she can make time for you. And I bet if you did all your chores she would be so proud. I'm almost 13 and I had a simaler problem with my mom. If your mom jokes about it tell her your serious or write her a letter she can read on the go. I really hope you and your mom can reconnect. I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 8

Who's taking care of you during the time that your mom is away between Sundays and Thursdays? Go to that person to have your papers signed and get help with homework.

If no one is taking care of you and you are alone, you need to call a family member to come and get you. You are a minor and should not be left alone without a responsible adult to take care of you.'

Answer 9

Hey Sugar
I'm sorry to hear that you're not getting help from your mom like you should be. If you have tried talking to her and it didn't work try talking to a teacher or counselor at school or maybe even some other family members. You shouldn't deal with this alone. Tell someone.
Good Luck!

Answer 10

Try to get help from your teachers or a school counsellor,please.some parents work hard and do not make time or really have not time free,for talk with their children.Talk with a teacher, that you know can help you.But can be better; if you talk with a counsellor for get help.Do this as soon as you can.Good luck.