It seems when people arrange weddings that they tend to do what people expect of them and not what they truly want to do, eg; if you invite one person you must invite another so they don't feel left out etc. I don't see the point in spending that much money on keeping everyone else happy. I wouldnt want any of that, I'd rather something very small and private involving our children.
2006-09-06 12:59:06 · 11 answers · asked by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I totally agree with you; I was going through the same thing with my mom. I was going to get married in Jamaica, but her wanting to argue about who was coming , where they were staying, when they were leaving, what they were eating has really taken it's toll on me and my fiance. My fiance and I decided to call the whole thing off and go to the courthouse b/c my mom wants a BIG HUGE show for everyone (and she was paying for NOTHING) but to me the only thing that I really want is my mom, my sister,2 nieces, my son, and the man I want to spend the rest of my life with to be there. It didn't matter to me if we got married in a courthouse or a outhouse (LOL) the most important thing is that you have people there that you love.
2006-09-06 13:10:13 · answer #1 · answered by Ms. Hot Chocolate 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes I agree with you. You can still celebrate your wedding in the most intimate way. chose the people you intend to invite very wisely. A smaller number of guest will make your wedding more memorable than a bigger one like a festival of something. I have heard a lot from people having big wedding, they dont even remember who came or not. and didnt had the chance to talk to each one of them.
With a smaller wedding like I had, every moment was special. We had talked, had fun with all our guests. And everyone else was saying how special the wedding was.
So, as a piece of advise..... do what will make you happy it is your wedding not your friend not your family but only YOU... dont worry too much about what other people will say. your happiness counts.
Goodluck and congratulations.
2006-09-06 20:04:54 · answer #2 · answered by spam 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you mean completely as I am in the same situation. I have found that its all about family and not wanting to offend anyone. But that is where the trouble comes in when you have to invite folks just because they are your mother's family. Right now I am just gonna invite the people who my fiance and are close to and the family that I want to share my special day with. I know that there are people that are gonna be left out and they will talk, but what you can. If you try to please everyone, you will end up disappointing someone and it just might be yourself.
2006-09-07 15:36:33 · answer #3 · answered by martini_40727 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My brother and his wife got married on the beach with ONLY family attending and then a family only get together afterwards. A few weeks later they had a big party for all their friends. Asked if they would do it that way again they both said yes. After all it is about getting married not the wedding
2006-09-07 02:24:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Who's getting married? You or your friends? Come on, you have children so that means you are old enough to do what you want. People will get over it, and if they don't, who cares?
Do what YOU want. This is the first day of the rest of your life together, don't spend a moment stressing about other people.
Congrats!
2006-09-06 22:29:52 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Everyone pile in the car and drive to Vegas, You can get a marriage license 24/7
2006-09-06 20:01:00 · answer #6 · answered by tanya 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
IT THE BEST WAY SOMETIMES.... TO ME IF YOU AND YOUR MATE WANT TO HAVE A WEDDING WELL THEN I SAY PLAN YOUR OWN WEDDING SO THAT NO ONE CONTROLS NOBODY. HAVIJNG OTHER PEOPLE CONTROL YOUR WEDDING SOMETIMES WILL LEAD TO ALOT OF STRESS, MONEY, AND ARGUMENTS.
2006-09-06 22:01:31 · answer #7 · answered by UNKNOWN 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
We planned our own wedding..paid for everything...did what we wanted to do..and if those who didn't like what we were doing..they didn't have to come...it's your day...ENJOY IT!!
2006-09-06 20:52:07 · answer #8 · answered by just me 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever you want to do. If you pay for everything yourself, no one else can tell you what to do.
2006-09-06 21:30:19 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Finally someone with sense, you go and enjoy YOUR day
2006-09-06 21:09:27 · answer #10 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋