If you find urself in a situation u or ur partner is pregnent and one really dosent want the child what should u do?
2006-09-06 12:13:11 · 15 answers · asked by lz_owen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
love the child no matter what........i hate it when i hear cases where children arent treated well by their parents. if your young you just have to keep doing what you do but with much more effort and have more responsibility and never quit.
2006-09-06 12:25:41 · answer #1 · answered by Christina G. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, The First Thing Would Be To Talk To Ur Partner. If You Decide You Don't Want The Child Either A.) Abortion, or B.) Adoption. I Kno Of Alot Of Couples Who Want Children That Can't Have Them, And I Kno They Would Be Happy To Take The Child. Please Never Consider Abortion It's Cruel And Wrong!...If You Didn't Want To Get Pregnant, Then Why Have Unprotected Sex, Well Why Have Sex At All. Hope I Helped!
2006-09-06 12:23:35 · answer #2 · answered by *Proud Mommy Of 2* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you are pregnant, what you want and dont want doesnt matter anymore. What matters is what is best for the baby.
If the mother doesnt want the child, she has 3 options: abortion, adoption, or giving the child to the father (she should still have to pay child support just like the father would if the mother kept the baby). If the father doesnt want the child, unfortuantly, he doesnt really have many options. He does however have to sign a release if the mother chooses to put the baby up for adoption.
I was 17 when I got pregnant and I know how hard it is and how confusing the chooses you have to make are but they have to be made and they have to be in the best interest of the child. I would recommend making a list of the options you have and writting pros and cons for each one to help decide. Good Luck and Take Care
PS: Peoples opinions usually do change once the baby is born. My parents were so angry with me for getting pregnant and tried to force me to have an abortion. Obviously, I refused and the moment they saw their beautiful granddaughter they both cried. They apologized many times for treating me the way they did. They couldnt image wanting me to have an abortion now that my daughter was born.
2006-09-06 12:26:18 · answer #3 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not the childs fault that one parent does not want it. The parent who does should go ahead and do the best thing they can for their child, the other parent whether they are in it's life or not will still have to face up to his/her responsibilities. The other parent may also change his/her mind when the child is born and they see the little life they have created together. Whatever you do, put the child first it has a right to have a good life with or without it's parents. If someone is not ready for the responsibility that parenthood brings they should not be having sex and/or making sure they practice safe sex.
2006-09-06 12:20:25 · answer #4 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get counseling first. Talk it over & over & over with your partner.
If you want the baby and the other doesn't, then part ways and raise the child alone. If you do that, the non-participating partner will owe financial child support for 18 years. Make sure that happens.'
2006-09-06 12:20:57 · answer #5 · answered by Bluealt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my wife and i had a a baby boy the shortly after she started to loose the weight she found out she was pregnant again. we have two boys that are 13 1/2 months apart. we didn't want the baby but we are glad he is around watching them together is the neatest thing. if we would have gotten rid of him i would have a void in my life. now he is 11 months old and is a handful he is walking.
2006-09-06 12:24:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya know sometimes it just seems that people haven't quite figured out that if you have sex then you can get pregnant.... so if you have sex and get pregnant, deal with it.. you knew what you were getting yourself into..
When I was younger and I became sexually active, my first B/F said I don't need to use a condom..HAHAHA whatever, I put that ***** on, I used spermicidal lubricant and I was on BC... Take every precaution that you can!!
2006-09-06 12:22:38 · answer #7 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well abortion is way out of the question! u made the mistake, u control it! now u have to get a job and help raise this kid! its ur responsibility now!
2006-09-06 12:21:16 · answer #8 · answered by boicarazi12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
raise the child and take care of responsibility and deal with cosequenes.
2006-09-06 12:16:18 · answer #9 · answered by Suzy Suzee Sue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a counselor. that way while the couple are discussing their feelings to come to a decision, there's a neutral mediator who can help reach a conclusion that best suits the couple.
2006-09-06 12:18:42 · answer #10 · answered by Amy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋