love after your first love?

Question

My and my ex (first love) broke up after 8 years just recently. Just wondering about other peoples stories of love after your first loves. Is it true it really does get better cos right now im not so sure.

Answer 1

Yes things do get better, and it's all for the better. I was with my ex for 7.5 years and it took me a long time actually to get over him. But I think that is because we didn't have a good break up, plus he was my first love. Of course that person will always be on your mind or certain things will remind you of her. Time WILL heal your wounds. It sucks right now, but all you can do is go on with your life. Things will get better, good luck.

Answer 2

It does. my first true boyfriend just ended up not being right. And I do still love him as a person. But, if it didn't work out- there are reasons. Even if she broke up with you. It does get better, even if it feels like it doesn't. Happily married now and expecting. And I moved to Germany and travel Europe. Moving to Iowa would have been a lot more boring I think. Best advice I can give on this- with future relationship- the ones that aren't meant to work don't really hurt in the end. And the ones that are will make you forget the old pain for the most part and youll be happy to have felt it. Patience is a virtue- the right person is out there, and she might be at the end of your nose.

Answer 3

I feel for you! I broke up with my first love of 4 years about a year and a half ago. He was my best friend, my security, basically everything. I moved on quickly, partly to forget him, partly because I met someone that was right for me. We are still together but there was a time that it was so hard for me, I would wake up crying at night. Now, he has moved in with his new girlfriend. That was very hard for me too. We have mostly the same friends and he still won't say hi to me.

Eight years is a long time. Lots of ppl say that you should give yourself at least half the amount of time that you dated to heal. I deal with it better now but you won't ever forget someone like that and I think there will always be moments when I hurt b/c he's not in my life anymore. Good luck, try to find other interests in your life.

Answer 4

You are probably feeling bummed and depressed, been there, done that. Spend lots of time with friends and family whomever makes you feel better. I know when I was going through a time like this, my sister was really there for me and we had alot of fun like we used to when we were kids, laughing our a s s e s off and goofing around. I found laughter to really help me heal. Time is your friend and right now it feels like your enemy because it is not speeding up the healing process. But try to focus on things in your life that make you happy right now. Make goals for yourself, write them down on paper - having stuff like this in your life, like setting goals and achieving them will really make you feel better. You'll start to feel stronger and more independent when you do this, that way you won't think about it so much and you will feel like you don't need anyone to make you feel good because you can do that for yourself. As for your first love, look at what they lost 'a great person' and that is what you need to focus on, how good of a person you are. Things will get better even though they don't seem like it right now.

Answer 5

love love love ove love such a beautiful thing.yes you can love again after your first love, we were all blessed with the gift to love unconditionally which does not border on ant one person.ur first love will always be that no one can take that away from you but after learning to love someone and then things go sour you may think ha i`ll never love again. that thought in itself is being selfish. you can move on you can take your situation and make urself abetter lover. u`ll always love that person but love has no boundaries and it will hit u without notice.when it hits don`t ignore it and try to push it away let flow freely an accept it is just to wonderful not be in love doesn`t matter if ur gonna be in love amillion times heck there will be a million people who will appreciate it and cherish it and believe me you would be surprised tho know how many lives you impact upon just by loving someone . just love if you feel it.it`s too sweet to beat darling.

Answer 6

It will get better because even though that was ur first love and she maybe was ur everthing. but there might also be somone better out ther like how whatever reason yall broke up if it was because of her you might find someone out there you wont have that same problem with.

Answer 7

My ex (1st love and I) jst broke up, Im over it, but not yet ready for the dating world, but soon will be. Youll be fine, she is just not the one, if she is, she'll be back.

Answer 8

I been in your shoes it takes time but all the crazy thoughts and feelings you are having will go away I suggest you hookup with your female friends and talk to them, Good Luck

Answer 9

The best way to forget someone is finding a new person to love.

Answer 10

i haven't been in a relationship that long, but i wish to be on one. yes you can fall in love again, but won't be like your first time. be careful and good luck. you should give me an advice how to keep a relationship so long e-mail me: [e-mail]