why cant i get a bf?

Question

I have a question.. please refrain of making fun or making "obvious statements" I want to know why I cant get a bf, I have been told that I am not ugly, I am a nice person.. i am chubby though, but even ugly, Huge fat women get men why cant i? the only requests or attention from guys is the "lets go to bed no strings attached" and if they are like that with me means i am not that bad looking right? but why cant i get a serious men interested in me? why is it like this? seriously not even one guy has been serious towards me, and I am not an easy or s*utty looking woman, I dress modestly not even cleavage.. any help or comments help.

I am 24 yrs old

Answer 1

Where are you going to look for men? Bars, clubs etc. are not places to be looking for men for a serious relationship. I'm sorry if I offend anyone, but its the truth. Those guys are looking for one thing and one thing only, s**! Where do you work? Are there any available guys there? Do you have friends who could set you up on a date?

Where do you live? I have a good friend who is 31 and looking for a nice girl. We live in AZ, and he is in Med. school.

Answer 2

hmm. This is tough, not knowing you or even what you look like.

Things that make men take women seriously:

1- Smile, positive, happy attitude and conversations.

2- When you are having a conversation with a man, look into his eyes, and pay attention to him, and what he is saying. Laugh at his jokes, relate to his conversation. Repeat some of what he said back to him - "..you know how you said that you hate sashimi? Well this friend of mine talked me into trying it, and I almost lost it..." Be interested. It's flattering. And if he's just not interesting, he's not the guy you should be going out with anyway.

3- After you've made a casual friendship, the NEXT time you see him, say hello to him - [DON'T hug him! That's a friendship move if done too soon or with the wrong body language.] touch his shoulder, his bicep, or forearm. Reach out and touch him and again, eye contact, smile.

4- Don't be afraid to ask HIM out on a date if you want to. It's the 21st century. Find something you both like [if you've been listening to the conversations you know] and ask him out.

5- You can test the water by fishing for a compliment, but only once! More than that sounds like you're insecure. And point the fishing rod directly at HIM. "...I'm trying this new scent. Do you like it?" or "I got new shoes... Do you like them?" But always with "Do YOU like..." It's a way to let him know you're interested in HIM.

Men arent all that different from women in this department - we like to be around people that make us feel good. So stroke our delicate male ego a bit. If he returns the stroking, then he's interested.

The chubby thing is difficult to gauge. Frankly, it really is difficult for men to deal with - not impossible - just difficult. Depending upon the age of the men you wish to date. Younger means less mature and less likely to notice a wonderfully attractive person in a slightly chubby body. [sorry love, the words young & dumb go together for a reason.]

The fact that you're getting propositioned means you're probably already doing some of this. Men are finding you attractive regardless of the chubbiness. That's great! Now try some ego boost. And be careful how you push away if it comes down to the no strings thing. Try to do it in such a way that you leave the door open a little. If you're good at this, you can even spin a turn-down into an ego-boost. "that's really tempting big guy, but I want more than that." and wink. It's a stroke and a brush off all at the same time.

I think as you develop the skill of stroking a mans ego [and get some of that in return] you'll discover that men propagate towards women that make them feel good. No doubt.

Try that. Let me know how it works out. Best to you.

Answer 3

Sounds like you're attarcting the wrong type of men. You need to ask yourself how you're meeting them first - is it at bars? Over the internet. Maybe you need to find a new way of meeting potential boyfriends where they will value you. You also said you dress conservatively - maybe you need to spice it up a little by wearing some cute jewelry and some bright colors. Also try and see how you act and look in public - do you smile? You might think you do but in reality you could be sending unapproachable vibes. And when guys ask you to go to bed with them tell them - hey you know what I'm worth more then that - and then you actually have to believe it.

Start being confident and it will pay off.

Answer 4

There are 2 secrets to getting someone. Pay attention as I will now disclose them to you:

#1. Inmense confidence. You have to be sure of yourself. Never doubt yourself. be cocky (not arrogant). Approach people as if its a good thing to get to know you. You can't say things like"I have been told that I am not ugly, I am a nice person.. i am chubby though". That just shows how you like confidance. You are who you are, the more comfortable you are with that, the more approachable you will be. Confidance is way more sexier than looks. A woman who believes she is hot is very attractive.

#2. Approach everyone with the intent of making a friendship. During college, my roommate and I went to many parties. We would leave at the end of the night, and I would have talked to 2 or 3 people whereas he had talked to 20 people. He ended up getting many more calls. He always approached everyone with the intent of making friends. And he did. Many. And many GFs as well.

That's it. I hope it works for you. Good luck.

Answer 5

Its probably because you're looking at the wrong type of guys. You said yourself all the guys you get attention from are sleezy types right? well maybe you should start looking for better guys than the ones you seem to be interested in. I used to have the same problem where only my guy friends really knew who i was. It was finally when I stopped looking for a relationship did one come knocking at my door. Maybe all you need to do is show your colors and let love come to you not the other way around.

Answer 6

This is your problem bottom line up front what do you have to offer? Ok You admit you dress conservativly eventhough you call it modest. You say you are a chubby girl and you are not easy. OK you are trying to catch a boyfriend by personality alone. Well there is nothing wrong with that route but you must understand if you go that route then it will take longer to get a boyfriend. The reason is someone has to get close to you to get to find the good thing about you(your personality). If you do not catch a person's eye then you have to let them get close to you in order to know you. The big fat women you refer to may have a out going personality and is not afraid of rejection. So they are willing to try and try again to get a person to like them. And sometimes that mean the sex no strings attached in order to get a person to like them. Yes there is a lot of bad things that go with that but don't compare yourself to them if you are not willing to walk in their shoes.

Answer 7

The old wise people says "What ent meet you ... ent pass you"
You will meet someone nice in God's timing. Just be patient and continue being your nice self. Some people get married at 15,20,25,30,35 even 40. Thats when they meet Mr. Right everybodys timing is different. Best of luck.

Answer 8

Good for you for not giving in to superfluous attention. Perhaps you are hanging around with the wrong crowd too much. No man of integrity would ask you for mindless sex. Surround yourself with people of character and just be your kind self... He will come along soon enough. And even if it does take a while, maintaining your purity and integrity is more worth more than you know. Best wishes.

Answer 9

do not hassle about it, you'll discover someone. you're surely 15 so it truly is comprehensible you've not discovered someone yet. basically take a even as, develop into friends with many of the lads and that i'm particular one will like you and ask you out. i do not imagine the reason you may't get a boyfriend is visual attraction appropriate because you're fantastically wonderful.

Answer 10

The most male attention I ever got (and I got some junk in the trunk too hunny) is when I wasn't looking, and felt really confident. Girls seem to think bashing themselves in front of men is endearing. It's not. Don't let them paw at you, be bitchy and fun. Smile often, and ignore them if they interrupt you. Men are completely useless anyway. They can't do anything right, and you should revel in your time spent without one.