I drive myself crazy truing to make it work.I told my b/f from day 1 I would never yell and scream if I was mad I'ld just leave.It takes every last bit of me not to fight with him.I swear I am the only one in this relationship.Its suppose to be give and take but I give and he takes!I would give him the world but I don't think he feels the same.I just want to be treated the way I know I should be.I make myself sick with jealousy but not for only women he spends 98% of the time away from me.I use tonot be like this.He wanted to spend every minute with me.I feel more like his employee-I cook,clean,pay bill(with my money) and give him sex.Yes I enjoy it but my lifeneeds more then that.He says he's use tobeing single thats why he does things alone but I am sick of being single and in a relationship!I don't wanna let him go but I am sick of the empty "I love you's". How much longer can I take it?? Will it eventually change?? Advice please??
2006-09-06 10:57:21 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I will never figure out why girls don't get smart in relationships. Maybe it's because love makes you blind and stupid. Honestly, you need to leave him. Why in the hell would you stay in a relationship that you are unhappy with? That's ridiculous and irresponsible. Grow up some and take a look at what is going on. I'm not trying to be an a**hole about this, but you really have to quit thinking about other people for once and just think about yourself.
2006-09-06 11:02:35 · answer #1 · answered by Justin G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Matters of the heart are always hard. Sounds like you probably already know the answer to the question though. You ask, "will he change"... possibly, but more than likely not with you though. You've allowed it to go on and on, you've allowed him to treat you this way, why would he change? He can have his cake and eat it too.
You deserve better than this, and guess what!!! You can make it happen... how exciting!!! You have two options you can change the way you handle him or you can walk out. If you love him and want it to work out, talk to him about how you feel, if that doesn't work then give him a dose. Show him what it's like to be without you. Don't be there for him each time he calls, be busy. Washing your hair that night is busy, painting your toes is busy... or better yet. Make plans with your girlfriends after you tell him your busy so you're not at home wondering what he's doing!!!
If things don't get better, it's not meant to be in my opinion.
2006-09-06 18:09:51 · answer #2 · answered by Heather S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunely, this relationship does not sound healthy for either of you, mostly you. It seems that if you stay in it, you be used and emtionally abused as long as you do. I am a person who believes in relationships and doing everything in your power to work them out. in this case, it seems like you have done that and are at the end of your rope. Love and truth ALWAYS hurt and from what I can see, you should just let him be and move on. If it was going to change, it would of. Do not make yourself sick by trying to stay. In the ned you only end up hurting yourself...
2006-09-06 18:11:27 · answer #3 · answered by Optimus P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he don't want to change, he's not going to. I had went through the same ordeal and i finally got sick of it. everyone, no matter who you are needs to have a feeling of importants. i would tell him what you need out of him and see what happens. if he can't handle being with you and tend to your needs, i would move on. it may hurt at first, but your not always tugging wanting something that he isn't willing to offer. good luck
2006-09-06 18:04:02 · answer #4 · answered by KORD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think any thing I say will help you. I think you all ready know what you should do your just looking for reassurance and help get it from your Friends and family move out and leave that part of your life behind he needs you. You do not need him.
2006-09-06 19:12:25 · answer #5 · answered by mitch m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say this...but it probably wont...you'll probably have to break up with him to see if he really wants to be with you...and not some kind of break up where you are still doing things for him...like...stopping cold turkey...even then if they are 'empty "i love you's"' then you a good thing from getting away from that trouble in your life....i really dont know how old you are so i cant say there are plenty of fish in the sea....or some other cliche saying...but i can say if it doesnt work out, good luck.......
2006-09-06 18:08:52 · answer #6 · answered by narfanator 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need a new guy who will treat you better. Dump the boy.
2006-09-06 18:01:19 · answer #7 · answered by bluechick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey if it's really that bad dump him or sit and talk to him if he don't listen dump him
2006-09-06 18:00:45 · answer #8 · answered by Corona_14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him now right now
2006-09-06 18:00:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋