soon....We have been 2-gether for 4 yrs. We talk about marriage a lot and he says he loves me always and he does see me as his future wife and one else. Don't you think its about time I get a serious Commitment?? PS: He says when he's school, but don't you think I deserve to be engaged if he's That serious??
2006-09-06 10:35:08 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh heck why not...If your already making plans whats the ring and setting goal going to change...This way you are both on the same page and commited to one another....
2006-09-06 10:41:04 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why are you in such a hurry? There is no time limit on love, his love doesn't get stronger because you are now engaged. I think some women think that just because you now have a ring and an engagement that things are gonna somehow be perfect all of a sudden. That is NOT reality. Life is not a cinderalla story or snow white where you finally marry the man of your dreams and live happily ever after.
You must be in a hurry to get engaged for some reason, what is it? So you can tell your friends? So you can show off your ring? Things would be different if every time you told someone you were engaged, you said "Look at my ring, I gave him a time limit so he asked me" Do you really want to live with that? The fact that you told him that you "deserved" to be engaged and he didn't see it himself?
Enjoy your time with him and let him ask you when he feels the time is right.
2006-09-06 10:49:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I don't see anything wrong with formalizing your relationship--and it's more than a ring on your finger. When you say the words and perform the rituals that go with engagement and marriage you realize that this relationship is for real and it is no longer about just playing games or playing house. It's a commitment to a real life together, to a real person, and the possibility of real children down the road.
That's why so many people put down the "realness" of marriage. If they can convince their "partner" that it is not important than they can stay little kids forever. They never have to grown up, they never have to accept responsibility, they never have to make a real commitment to the person they say they love. What could be better, all fun and games, no maturity! Peter Pan forever!!!!!!
2006-09-06 10:46:17 · answer #3 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess it relies upon on your cultural heritage even if that's ideal for a lady to strengthen the concern. In mine, i'd urge you now to not be terrified of bringing it up. 4 years is a substantial time, and could advise some aspect of committment above the casual. you've the right, as someone, to have a voice on your man or woman destiny. He has a duty to allow you to recognize even if that destiny contains him. in case you care that a lot for him, it really is time to gently enable him do not ignore that you would opt to spend something of your life with him. Say that you'll opt to grace him with the call "My husband". he's a guy like me; which will flatter him. Be prepared for the worst, yet anticipate the most proper. If the worst - he has no objective of ever marrying you - it really is time that you do not ignore that so you might settle for, regulate and move on. we've a affirming: there are an excellent variety of alternative fish interior the sea. If this one isn't proper, you nonetheless have time to forged your information superhighway after yet another. If he solutions convinced, he's pleasant, set an organization date between both of you and then both one among you publicly announce your betrothal. i'm confident you'll understand what to do from that aspect on. You pass, lady. You deserve a strong and honest guy.
2016-10-15 23:17:55 · answer #4 · answered by venturino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definatly sit down and talk to him about this. 4 years is a long time to be dating and not recieve a commiment. Talk about all aspects of what you envision your future to be like, and let him tell his also. You guys are at a point now that you need to decide where you are heading in the future or it is very likely one or the other will get frustrated and split.
2006-09-06 10:42:31 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old you are. I don't think any young women or young man should be in a committed relationship. You might run him away while he's trying to get his education. Stop sound desperate. Let the man approach you for marriage.
2006-09-06 10:42:36 · answer #6 · answered by sicwidit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 years is a long @ss time to be together and not be engaged ask him if he not ready he is not the right one for you there are plenty more guys out there that would be good for u
2006-09-06 10:54:53 · answer #7 · answered by Rochelle w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. What difference does it make? at the end of the day its just a ring on your finger. You should wait until its right, which is when he will ask you. Otherwise you are just forcing him to do what you want.
2006-09-06 10:37:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to discuss this with him. If he is not fully committed to the relationship find someone who is.
2006-09-06 10:38:10 · answer #9 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dont push him. me and my husband got married after knowing each other for less than a year. we have two kids now and have been married for 8 years. it is hard when BOTH of you are not ready. it dosnt matter if you are ready or not if you push him it may just jeopordize your whole relationship
2006-09-06 10:38:12 · answer #10 · answered by jengoodwin05 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋