I have a girlfriend that i absolutely adore and love and is just absolutely gorgeous. Just imagine a dominican barbie. But for some odd reason every time we try to get intimate i get nervous and this anxiety builds up in me and i cant get intimate with her. The weird thing is that i can get aroused by other girls really easy, because i dont care about them. In bed i just wreck them, i dont care how they feel, if they are satisfied (by coincidence they do get satisfied), or if they like what i am doing to them. But with my girlfriend its different. I care about everything that i do to her and it just gets me nervous. all i want to do is just demolish her and i cant. this girl already thiinks that i am not attracted to her, and this just adds to it. i tell her that i think shes gorgeous but she doesnt want to hear it because i dont want to have sex with her. but i do want to its just that i start thinking and just get nervous. and i dont know what to do.
2006-09-06 10:13:01 · 15 answers · asked by nyconfession 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you were to just sit her down and explain to her the way you explain to us, if she really cares about you she will understand. She might even respect your decisions more if you tell her the truth.
2006-09-06 10:17:04 · answer #1 · answered by Beatriz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to calm down when u are with her, do not think about how ur gona do it or what positions ur gona use. relax even try some music. u get nervous because u care about her so much that u dont want to mess up during sex, or ur jus to worry that if ur gona satisfy her. confidence is ur best friend in this case, the rest (positions, foreplay, and etc) will come out naturally!!!
2006-09-06 10:17:28 · answer #2 · answered by el_oso_candeloso 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm yourself and man up. She's a woman with the same thing that other women have. Sure, you care about her but in bed we want a man who can care about us while he's putting it on us. Psych yourself out. Tell yourself that it's no big deal and that if you have seen one, you've seen them all. Start off with some petting. Get very familiar with her body. Don't go in for the kill yet. Just wait it out but be sure to please her in other ways....be resourceful. Gradually progress to penetration but don't make a federal case of it. Just know that she loves you and is ready to receive you. Your mind is playing tricks on your manhood. Get both of them on the same page and it'll be all good. Good luck.
2006-09-06 10:18:57 · answer #3 · answered by intentionalmasterpiece 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's getting mad because she thinks that u don't want to have sex with her confess,tell her how YOU feel .if you're nervous when u try to get intimate just think..... this is what she wants!Don't be scared to give her the love that she wants and needs!
Please take my advice!
Good luck!!!!
2006-09-06 10:22:35 · answer #4 · answered by sasha_lover_boo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a decision that you will not have sex with her until you are married--then that will take the pressure OFF.
Peace
2006-09-06 10:16:04 · answer #5 · answered by Plus-Sized &Proud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down and take your time. Explain to her how you are feeling when you guys get together she will understand.Good Luck
2006-09-06 10:17:32 · answer #6 · answered by JACKIE M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably just need to relax. Anxiety can cause that sort of problem.
2006-09-06 10:14:49 · answer #7 · answered by Becky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't think too much that she's very gorgeous, just imagine that she's just like some other girls. just relax and enjoy.....GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-09-06 10:17:19 · answer #8 · answered by whitesilk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a couple of drinks and get the wisky dink going...lol
2006-09-06 10:16:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go on the defensive, tell her if she can get it hard you will make love to her!
2006-09-06 10:17:52 · answer #10 · answered by sosaysme9 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋