my bf is in the coast guard he said he would call but hasnt yet should i be worried/ upset? he is sationed in the states but hasnt got a home phone set up yet where he is at. he said he would call but hasnt yet. its been almost a month. should i attempt to try and call his cell which he told me he wouldnt be answering cuz he doesnt have long distance?? i know he can be very busy working i 3 days on base and then two off and so on. from what ive heard he hasnt talked to anyone even his family and his best friend of like 18 years. what would you do? and do you have any tips for how to deal with a long distance relationship espc. a military based one?
2006-09-06 09:59:58 · 5 answers · asked by theskyispink v 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey there... It is not easy. communication is they key, or just trusting the person. I was in the AirForce for four years. Just got out beginning of this year. I don't know how my GF of the time dealt with it. I know she was worried sick and cried a lot when I was deployed out to Baghdad and stuff. It is not easy. Just relax a lil bit if you can. Take it a day at a time. Sometimes there just isn't a means to communicate. Erm, and there is a possibility that he hasn't talked to any of his bosses and told them that he hasn't called anyone at home for a month. The first two months at any base as a single person is very hectic. If you try very hard you can get by and find the means to get in touch with family. But it isn't easy, your in a new place, and you don't know what is a good question or not a good question. It is a different society with its own rules and regulations. Everything has a pattern, and finding that pattern is not easy until you get into the swing of things, which can take a long time. I know from my experience, for the first 3 months at my new base even though I lived 75 miles from home and had weekends off, I didn't bother to go home just 'cause I was tired after working 12 hour shifts, and usually I felt brain dead with the new information they were cramming into me. So take it easy. He'll manage to get in touch. Be patient.
Now the long distance military based one... hmm... patience trust. In any relationship you need to build trust, and hold it at a certain level. If you both say you'll talk at a certain time, do your best to talk at that time. Don't bail on him to go out with friends, or shopping or something. Eventually that will wear down the trust. Erm... he might have to bail on you though due to being given an order to get his *** into work now 'cause there is an emergency or something, or a training being done in the middle of the night, or any numerous reasons. In those cases he should drop you a message somewhere you will get it and then head out. Or at least make it up to you when you get back. Erm... TRUST is very very important. Do not do anything that might make his trust in you go down. That might in certain cases even mean haveing friends who are boys. Or getting a ride to school/college on a daily basis from a guy. Erm... I don't know what else I could say, but talk to each other about everything openly, don't hold secrets. Both of you will sence the secret and want to know and well it can get bad. Anyways good luck to you. I commend you on your courage to stick through this. Keep stickin' to your guns, and I wish you all the best.
2006-09-06 10:13:59 · answer #1 · answered by Rivan81 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im here for you dont be upset or worry yourself just say a prayer everyday and night and ask GOD to keep him safe. Its difficult to get to phones and computers when you are in the fields or on a outside job. he just might havent had the chance. Always think positive and hope for the best. Everything is going to be fine.
2006-09-06 10:05:06 · answer #2 · answered by cupcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call his job. You may want to get a new boyfriend to.
If he paid for long distance on his cell phone he could
reach everyone. You think he would, being stationed
away like that. He can afford this, it's important.
2006-09-06 10:11:46 · answer #3 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey. i was going thru the exact situation as you are now. my boyfriend is in the navy...and he said the same thing. i would just call him..and see whats up...and if he loves you..he wouldnt worry about a long distant call from you since its been almost a month since you last talked to him. and i hope nothing bad happend to him.
2006-09-06 10:05:03 · answer #4 · answered by AdioSurfChick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy is prolly fighting in Irak
2006-09-06 10:03:40 · answer #5 · answered by carlosofia2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋