Hey yall guess what me and my mom fight all the time and scence I got a new boyfriend she thinks that he is hers too. Everyone has tired and tried to get her to stop talking to him when he calls me, but guess what she wont. So again I say....HELP ME..... If I back talk her I can't see him anymore and I really love him...a lot...... what do I do. She even went to my school and told my princiable that shes worried about me and bull **** like that. Shes just mad cuz he dont wanna talk to her. And I mean I could figure this out myself if there wasnt one lil problem.....I CANT IGNORE HER..... She drives me up a wall when she talks. So please please please help meeeeeeeee.
2006-09-06 09:53:13 · 7 answers · asked by 420 Rockstar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Based upon what you say above, I would need to know if what you say about your mother is true i.e. "she thinks he is her boyfriend, too." Also, if she actually went to the principal and said she was worried about you and "bull****" If your mother is that dysfunctional and, perhaps suffering emotional problems, then you have no alternative but to cooperate unless you want to involve the authorities.
However, you ruin your credibility when you say, "She drives me up a wall when she talks." Also, you say "Everyone has tried and tried to get her to stop talking to him...." Sounds like there are several other people in the house you live. Must be a circus around there. In a crazy making environment there are no solutions because no one is rational. Regardless, you have virtually no respect for your mother and therefore you would not "cooperate" with any compromise. Sorry, but you were clearly not brought up to respect parents and/or adults and your mother/father or whoever raised you is to blame. But, that said, you have to magically learn to compromise (look it up in dictionary) to get anything. At 18 you can legally find out what it is like to make 100% of your decisions.
Advice: Find an adult you can trust and who will not take advantage of you and ask for guidance. Not a handout, guidance to learn compromise. Boyfriends come and go, you might say they are "so yesterday." (Now that is a clever phrase. Don't you think so?).
2006-09-06 10:26:15 · answer #1 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop and breathe a minute. What's really important to you? The fighting all the time with your Mom? Or just getting to see your boyfriend? - whom you will probably see anyway. Now, hold on to your seat:.... She's a person too. Try to remember that when you talk to her. I can't believe how much my relationship with my Mom changed when we both realized that we were both real people. I still don't always agree with her, but when I lived at home, if I had just shut up sometimes, I think how my life would have been so much easier.
2006-09-06 10:12:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you something. I fought with my mom all the time. I threw fits when there really was no point to throw fits, I back talked her all the time. Now my mom is gone and I really really wish I could go back and treat her like she should of been treated. I wish those times i was mad or angry with her and not talking to her that I could of talked and talked and talked.
Trust me pick your arguments well. As my mom always said, if you wouldnt say it over their casket then dont say it at all.
2006-09-06 10:01:21 · answer #3 · answered by Keith Perry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why dont you sit down with your mom and you and her talk and ask her what the deals is between you two because yall fight all the time and you would like for it all to stop.tell her that you would like for yall to close like alot of mothers and dauhters are.ok.good luck
2006-09-06 10:19:25 · answer #4 · answered by bigmomma s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you only get one mom. and one time around with her.Please just love her,that doesn't mean that you have to be with her all the time but if it's just over a boy,then i say love your mom.
I wish my mom was here,but she passed and there are things i wish i had of done with her and i miss her.You could work around this uncompfortable situation by calling your boyfriend(not him call you)there is little things you could do to make things easier so please try.Moms,ya gotta love em.
2006-09-06 10:13:08 · answer #5 · answered by countrykarebare 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to look from her point of view. I have my own issues with my mother but I know we are both in fault. BUT boyfriends are temporary whereas mothers are not.
2006-09-06 10:10:20 · answer #6 · answered by applejuice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why want see boyfriend
2006-09-06 10:09:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋