When my brother first got married everything was good with his new wife, but now she has turned into a total "B" (if you know what I mean) She has been rude to my mother and my father and for no reason at all. We try to be nice to her but sometimes it's hard. She is really putting a wedge between my brother and the family. She no longer even attends family dinners. She tries not to have anything to do with us and my brother feels like he has to choose and I don't think he should.
Do you have any suggestions for getting to ease up and realize that our family is just as important as hers?
2006-09-06 09:19:44 · 8 answers · asked by tnicb 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i feel for you - i have 3 sisterinlaws that are rude-i have found not talking to them is the answer
2006-09-06 14:07:13 · answer #1 · answered by cwgrlmeiniowa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean. I've got a sister-in-law that sounds much like yours. She thinks her parenting is better than anyone else's (this is a woman who gave her child alcohol at her first birthday party). Her mother outranks my mother-in-law in all things. She makes negative comments on other people's children and on their parenting choices... while her child is stingy and just plain mean. She has been ignoring my father-in-law for about a year now... where he used to get hello and good-bye kisses on the cheek, now she doesn't even speak to him.
My sister-in-law has been spoken to. My brother-in-law (her husband) has been spoken to. Nothing has done any good. Basically, what we have to do is wait... wait until she says the one wrong thing that's going to make one of us tell her where she stick her opinions on everything. Then, perhaps, something will change... but I doubt it.
Really all you can do is be patient and be careful not to put your brother in the middle. Yes, he married her, but it's not his fault she's a jerk.
2006-09-06 09:32:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a sister in law just like yours. She was evil. She was also mean to my mom and she would get so upset at my brother whenever he would go visit my mom. Thats ridiculouse!!!!! Any way she made my brothers life a living hell and they are now divorce and have an 9 yr. old son. But she was always mad with mean faces at everybody. She would get mad at my brother when he was having a great time with his family. She was very jealouse. I'm glad shes out . I quess if they get a divorce that'll be a salution.
2006-09-06 09:41:52 · answer #3 · answered by kookie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you that my husbands family see me as a MAJOR B.
I hate attending their family parties (they have one every sunday) and truly do my best to avoid them at all costs. It wasn't always like this though. I used to get along with all of them, and they are a lot. It all starts with one person and from then, it all comes down. Find out if someone has offended her. you may not be aware and she may not have confided to anyone about yet. Listen to her side of the story before calling her a B to her face. If she deserves the title, I highly doubt she would mind it.
2006-09-06 09:31:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart aches for you and your family. I, too, have a brother who married someone who was very insecure and controlling. That was about 40 years ago. Very little of the family speaks to either of them, their own (grown)children have very little to do with them. My brother use to be a very outgoing, loving, happy person. He has been sucked dry by this parasite. I just hope you have better luck with opening HIS eyes, than we did with my brother. The biggest problem, whenever she got mad at one of us, she would take it out on my brother. It bothers a lot of us, to this day, that he was and is such a weak man.
2006-09-06 09:26:03 · answer #5 · answered by janice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough one, may be you and your family should confront her and your brother and ask her if you all offended her or what's going on that she started acting like this. If this does not work, let her and your brother know this type of behavior (rudeness toward your parents) will not be tolerated.
2006-09-06 09:27:23 · answer #6 · answered by rab 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow some attitude and tell her about it! she acts this way cuz ya'll let her get away with it!!
Don't sugar coat anything either, be straight out about her nastiness and how it affects the whole family.
Most time people like that want someone to take a stand against them and show them whose boss! Be that person and things will either get better or she'll go away
2006-09-06 09:34:50 · answer #7 · answered by jelli_bean_36 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Invite her out for lunch/dinner and talk, find out what the real problem is.
2006-09-06 09:25:53 · answer #8 · answered by soapfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋