i cant handle my rejections by men its just one rejection after another .?

Question

i feel so bad and unwanted

Answer 1

I feel the same way. It seems like every guy I have ever loved is taken or in love with someone else. Sometimes I wonder why God allows us to fall in love with someone who will never love us. That's the worst and almost unbearable feeling in the world. *sigh* :)

Good luck with everything, you may never know who likes you, don't let any guy ruin your confidence. Be strong and be yourself! God bless! :)

Answer 2

I think women handle rejection from the other sex better than most men do.... Men usually ridicule, dismiss, and "move along", whereas women handle it with more "class" than most males I have seen.

I think that (like most women) you may be attracted to a type of male which doesn't particularly dig your own type. Let me try to re-phrase this. We all have our specific tastes in the other gender. Us guys are usually easy to predict, although you would be surprised by what some of us consider to be attractive. Same goes for women; different women are attracted to different types of males; it is quite simply only natural.

The problem arrises when we confront each other. We can't handle rejection from the ones we are attracted to, so we blame ourselves for not being up to the "standards" imposed on ourselves or society's "image" and "expectations". The problem is that no matter how open minded we like to imagine ourselves to be, we still judge people by their looks and exterior. Again, this is normal, even though it is a recipe for disaster since we miss so many opportunities because we judge people by what they look like.

The only suggestion I can offer is simple; try and try again... Eventually you will find the right guy because I strongly doubt that all males are stupid enough to reject someone such as yourself! If they are (stupid enough to reject you), then let me know so I can update my book on male stupidity!

Seriously an emotionally-depend friend of mine has been seeking a gal pal for about two years now, constantly being rejected (I know why HE is being rejected, I just won't bore you with the specifics here and now), and although he finds it difficult to deal with, he still goes about it and isn't giving up yet. I know this will sound harsh but if he can do it, even if he's going about it all wrong (and for the wrong reasons) I think anyone can.

So don't let your feelings of rejections and "inadequacy" let you down because there are some good males out there who would be happy to be with a girl like you.

Now the question is this: do these males DESERVE to be with you? That's a queation for another time, isn't it?

Cheers, hope this helps you a bit!

Answer 3

Why are they rejecting you?

Dating is complicated. Talk to a guy friend and a girl friend and ask them for blunt, honest answers. Ask them to critique you and ask for improvement tips. Sometimes a small change will make the difference.

Many guys are insecure and are intimidated by smart, capable women. Avoid these men unless you are willing to dumb yourself down. On second thought, avoid these men, regardless. Many men are superficial and want to date supermodels even though they aren't supermodel bait. Avoid these men too. Many men will date you only if you "put out." Scratch these guys off your list. See? We've eliminated 75% of the men already!

Don't throw yourself at these men just because you're lonely. Respect yourself! There must be CHEMISTRY for anything to work out. Move on if you know he doesn't feel the spark too.

Good luck!

Answer 4

The worst senarial is that something is wrong with you and you don't know it ! But in reality checks...you most likely have low self-esteem, for whatever reason..I don't know ..but if one was rejecting you, I would say go back and research the evening to see if you can find something...but if every one is rejection...then
you need to open up to a friend or get some personal counciling to define first what your problem is or if in fact you keep choosing a negative..non-compatable relationship.

Answer 5

It time for you to give up men for a while and be just you! For what ever reason, you feel u need a man to be complete and that needy/clingy-ness is picked up by them so they reject you as men can't usually handle that.

Get in touch with yourself for a while and set goals for yourself to achieve. Once you're happy with yourself, men will be after YOU instead of the other way around.

Answer 6

Relax, we all go through stages where rejections seem to come one after another. Hopefully soon that will be replaced by a string of too many men wanting your attention for you to handle.

Answer 7

Life is full of rejection. It is how you learn to deal with it and what you learn from it when you move on to the next thing. Try not to get too discouraged you will find the right one. If those guys rejected you then they dont deserve you anyways. Good luck

Answer 8

Either you are choosing the wrong men to begin with or you are behaving in a way that either turns men off or drives them away.

You may want to visit a therapist for some insight.

No one on the internet can give you an honest answer without seeing you in action.

Answer 9

You'll get over it... Meanwhile, it sounds like you need to take a break from men and explore other things life has to offer. Get a new hobby, hang out with friends, read a good book, get a pet. You'll feel better once you're having fun!

Answer 10

Stop your whining about rejection and stop feeling sorry for yourself. Do you want to what rejection really is? Its being turned down at the altar! Now get over yourself already.