can overweight people make good lovers?

Question

from an emotionally upset fat guy

Answer 1

I can only give this from a female perceptive, but before I do I have read studies that said just that...that big people tend to be better lovers.

I once asked many men on a chat line this question and only one said they had a bad experience with a plus size woman.

Some of the comments the men made were that plus size women they give the best bj's

they are highly passionate and sensuous

they love sex

they love pleasure and are very down to earth and rarely b.thcy like a lot of thin girls

they taste great

they are highly multiple and orgasmic

these are all the comments I remember..

As an overweight women, I cannot think of anyone that seemed to have a bad time with me and all were smiling when they left.

I have been told I am very unique in having extremely intense, multiple plateaud orgamisms.

Very loud, extremely intense and with "crescendos" some said.

Most said my org were beyond a 10. My last boyfriend had incredible endurance for giving oral sex and I had a fetish for it. He could go 4 hours straight..I let him stop at 4, but I could have went much longer...I came the entire time continually and I don't thin, most women--big or small-could come continually like that.

I also get compliments on bj's when I am into the guy that way.

I am told by almost all the many guys I went out with that I was a great kisser. I have had org. from breasts, spanking, kissing so I get turned on easily.

Men like my chest and also make comments on how I react. Plus I'm kinky as can be. Very creative mind as I am highly intelligent...etc.

I know I am a great lover from what men tell me and my own perceptions. I talk dirty when doing stuff and am also kind and considerate and sensitive lover and told I have a great touch...

Men who are predjudice against overweight girls ---it's their loss I think...as I have been told I am different and an incredible tirnon by how I react, etc.

I think after reading the studies and hearing what men told me when I polled them on a chatline (I didn't say I was overweight or looking to met at that time), that big women must be good lovers. Too bad men don't know or care as I (from what men told me in long talks) said that big girls are generally much nicer and down-to-earth.

Of course, this all may be because I am Italian rather than overweight, but I think it's both as my theory is that big girls have more estrogen and estrogen is feminizing.

As far as overweight men, I have went out with all types--thin, average, overweight, rich, poor, smart, not smart, etc as I don't care abotu those things..I look to the heart and personality, but I like the teddy bear type and extrememly thin men are not fun to hug.

I think big men are sexy and I think they overcompensate by being good lovers especially in giving oral to the female.

Don't be upset..if someone can't be kind and see all the strenghts you have and can't look beyond your weight, they are not worth being with, Work on your personality and heart and you eill asttract women and once they fall in love, they will work with you in bed. Ask them what they like, ask them to teach you and give you specific directions and feedback as to if they like or don't like something. All women are different so you need to find out what turns them on to be a good lover.

Even if you feel noone loves you, don't let it get you down..you know your good things and love yourself..keep looking as there are a lot of fish in the sea and you will oprobably find one someday. Try not to use women and don't just look for sex as most women hate that.

Don't be sad, teddy bear type, big men are sexy and have it far better than big women as women aren't as dricriminating that way. Just don't discriminate yourself like so many big men.

Answer 2

Get this:

Overweight people can do almost anything other people can do. Sex and relationships are part of this as well. I cannot offer a more detailed explanation than to tell the story of my wife and myself.

I am slightly overweight. My wife is also overweight, but hers is a medical condition (it isn't lack of exercise or bad nutrition; it's quite literaly a medical problem). For years I myself wondered if I could be up to the standards of what a good lover should be since I felt very insecure about my physical attributes. Then I met what would become my wife, a short & rotund cutey pie who not only had a libido to match my own, but also turned out to be the best lover I had ever had! In essence, I tried many other forms, shapes, and variants, but this one (my wife) turned out to be "the best" in all departments!

Although there are a few sexual positions which are a bit more difficult to achieve, these little challenges just end up spicing up our sex life!

So to answer your question, a good lover isn't determined by his weight, size, class, age, or any other physical attribute. It is HOW YOU USE WHAT YOU GOT that determines if you're a good lover. Worrying about it doesn't help either, so the only parting thought I can leave you with is this: chill out, take it easy, and just go with the flow; don't worry and don't stress about it since it isn't worth it in the long run, and worrying about things you cannot do anything about only results in frustration!

Hope this has helped you a bit!

Answer 3

You realize that you are overweight...why accept that?

I understand that some people are genetically predisposed to this....but I'm sitting at work next to my boss who used to weigh in at 350 or so during his football playing days. He now weighs right around 250-270 and actually looks pretty good for someone of his stature. You can do this too. Set your limits and hit them. Be strict with your diet and excercise, because to be honest, most girls want a fit guy. While not everyone can be a model (self included) you can make the most of what you are working with. Do this.

Plus, and this I swear is true...all fat guys are funny.

Answer 4

Lol are you serious? I don't think it has anything to do with your body size. I have been with guys that are in wonderful physical condition and don't know anything about the bedroom. Wow that made me sound like a total slut. Well anyway, I think you are only limited by your own inhibitions. Be the lover that you want to be and I am sure you will be great at it.

Answer 5

yes they can as it doesnt matter what size you are as long as you are doing brilliantly in bed is what counts, i am 2 stone overweight with a bit of abelly due to the fact i have had 2 kids and my man still fancys me and we have amazng sex, you just need some confidence, and anway my man says love handles are sexy as they are something to hold on to!!

Answer 6

Well, seems as in your other question you state you're only 13... you're too young to be making love anyway.

Sounds like you just need to mature and outgrow that awkward adolescent insecurity stage.

Answer 7

suuuuuure can! my man is 6'6" and 270lbs (considered overweight) but he HANDLES HIS BUSINESS......QUITE WELL!!!

You have to accept yourself for what you are, overweight, underweight, bald, short, tall..whatever. I could never be with a man that did not have confidence in himself...

remember love making is not only physical but mental.

Answer 8

It relies upon on what the guy likes. there is no thank you to generalize. One guy will inform you skinny and the different obese. in my opinion, I desire ladies that are healthful yet on the thin part.

Answer 9

no i don't think so recently Ive been on diet and i lost 40 pounds sex is defiantly better now i cant wait to lose More

Answer 10

body shape and size has nothing to do with it it depends upon sexual experience. also keep in mind over weight is up for disscusion too are we talking like some one meets the clinical definition (thick) or like a really big girl (obese). to be honest i got the best head I ever had in my life from a thick girl.