We are both in our late 30's, both are divorced after 10+ years of marriage. We have been dating for 3 months. I think she is gods gift to me, totally perfect in almost everything she does. From the way she treats me, her beautiful smile, and hottie body!
We have been making very passionate straight up love for about 6 weeks. Some secessions have lasted for upwards of 3 hours but always lasting more than 1 hour. We can completely get into each other.
Last week she said she would prefer I was a little more rougher with her, that she liked sex to be rough. She said she really enjoyed anal, and her nipples pinched hard, but she was too claustrophobic to be tied up. She said that the harder I pounded her butt the better it was.
So, I had my 1st experience with anal, it was good ... OK, extremely good! But what else can I do? What else can I offer to make her scream? If she can come out of the blue with this what's next? Anything else can I do to stay a step ahead of her?
2006-09-06 08:56:47 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
so you did anal!!!!! can't stay much more ahead than that.....but you can start your usual nice and easy and on top and then switch it up on her, flip her over (roughly) get in from behind grab her hair gently but not too gentle and start 'banging' her from behind.
do oral, WE LOVE THAT!!!!! bring some toys and gels and sweet food into it....make it interesting, but be romantic at the same time. maybe cook her a nice dinner one night, get some flowers and candles and make her a bubble bath and let her relax for awhile then work your way in and DO HER GOOD!!!
2006-09-06 09:20:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two need to go to the toy shop together. She can guide you through this...no need to experiment. Rough sex needs safety words, etc. to prevent anyone from being harmed. And she isn't asking for this all the time...rough sex is a fantasy, not real. Some pain goes a long way, you need to learn the limits quickly, and she needs to teach you..don't be prude...just get into it. There are so many forms of fun. Pull her head back by her hair..not really hard, just enough to let her know she is being pinned. Hold her hands down to her side..play rape. IF you start biting, be very careful that you do NOT bite too hard...just enough to know that it could hurt a lot, but a little can be great. Again, she needs to teach you..open you mind up to learning new things ... and do NOT show any kind of shock about what you are going to learn. Go with it, if YOU don't like it, then you cannot play the game...you BOTH must like it. Good luck, and love. AND one more thing..the SAFETY word must be something other than "stop", for that word can be fun to ignore...choose a ridiculous word, like "Uncle, " whatever...one that you BOTH know means STOP....TOO MUCH. Give it a chance and you will find a happy ground.
2006-09-06 09:05:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first, rougher does not equate pain. Be mindful of where your hands and legs are. She may not just mean rougher in that area. Hard grabbing, maybe some forceful pulling and pushing (like on her back if she is bent over or shoulders) You can also use your legs to hold down her legs in certain positions. Make sure you put yourself in a position that gives you good leverage, otherwise you will not be able to get enough motion to be rough. Other than that, you will have to figure out what it is that she wants exactly.
2006-09-06 09:03:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you used "mature adult" movies yet? They sometimes help have get in the mood inspirations. How about martial aids/adult toys. There are many types if you check websites like www.mypleasures.com You might find answers on there website too. They have advice and educational section besides the many "Aids" you can use on her. Never mind doing anything you will feel guilty about later. Should be good for both of you not just one! You didn't mention if she had any orgasms. If not that should be your next goal. The toys can help you with that if you are not equipped. Maybe that will satisfy her w/o the rough stuff.
2006-09-06 09:13:10 · answer #4 · answered by edleforce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always thought tickling leads to sex. It seems to turn a girl on. But who knows what your friends deal is. Maybe she is not in a secure relationship so she doesn't get the enjoyment out of sex. If she's still a teenager maybe her boyfriends don't know what they are doing during sex. I don't really think what she said is particularly abnormal.
2016-03-27 00:31:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spank the sh!t out of her! Drive her head against the head board, throw her on the floor etc. LOL Rough sex is kinky and usually really good!
2006-09-06 09:01:11 · answer #6 · answered by bad_dog76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start biting her, pull her hair, smack her behind, get rough.. through her down on the bed, rip off her clothes, pinch her nipples... when ur having vaginal or anal, lay her on her back and force her legs up as far as they'll go and she should enjoy that alot...
2006-09-06 09:02:18 · answer #7 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to be specific with what she likes and make sure she knows it's new to you and though you may not be comfortable with it to begin with you may grow to like it.
If you think you're bein too rough, ask her. Just find a degree of roughness you're both comfortable with and go at it.
2006-09-06 08:59:51 · answer #8 · answered by eternalpsyche 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
go to the place in your mind that you can only dream of going and do it.not all the time cause nice and easy is good to. rough is fun and you just have to allow your mind to go there. come up with a safe word!!!!!
2006-09-06 09:02:08 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sWatch porno together dealing with rough sex. (Or watch alone if you want to surprise her) Then steal some moves from there.
You could also ask her is a mean demanding way what she wants you to do to her.
2006-09-06 09:02:22 · answer #10 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋