Is it possible to be to romantic? my ex broke up with me because he said i wanted to much out of him i wanted things to be romantic all the time like candles by the tub / bed and a nice dinner with wine and candles. Isnt that how girls are suppose to be?
2006-09-06 08:53:48 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there's a difference between highly romantic and high-maintenance
romantic is when it's a luxury that you and he can afford without interfering with the rest of your lifestyle or everyday responsibilities
when it starts taking away time from things that a reasonable person should know need to be done, or when it cuts into the budget for utilities or automotive maintenance -- basic, important stuff -- then it's just nuts, and that's not attractive
if you have a list of requirements, it isn't romance. if you don't impose specific things on a guy, you'll be surprised at a guy's creativity and spontaneity in doing things that really are romantic.
my wife even told me that just doing ordinary stuff (like changing the kids' diapers and bathing them and putting out the garbage and mowing the yard) was romantic -- but that's kinda how a partnership works: you show respect for each other, by helping each other do the stuff that has to be done
and that makes room for the spontaneous stuff like candle-lit romantic dinners; marathon, mind-blowing sex sessions and a whole host of other big and little things that keep you slightly off-balance:
you never know *what* to expect, you only know that whatever it is, it's gonna be great, because it's his token of his love for you
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2006-09-06 09:18:50 · answer #1 · answered by wireflight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is how you are supposed to be, but to a point. Let's face it, that takes a lot of work, and while I think that both men an women should continue working at their relationship, how much work were you putting into it? Be honest with yourself. If you expecting all this effort from him and not doing anything in return he probably got tired of working so hard. If you did do your part, I then perhaps he is just lazy or doesn't want a girlfriend right now. Additionally, all guys are different. Some love doing this sort of stuff and some hate it. Accept that your ex doesn't like doing it and try to find someone who does. Good Luck.
2006-09-06 16:00:17 · answer #2 · answered by mildmanneredclarkkent64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not possible to be too romantic, but it is possible to over do it. You have to understand that for the most part, men are simple.( not dumb) If everything we do has to be supper romantic, we'll get a lil tired of it. Sometimes we just want a simple dinner and a movie (and maybe some simple sex). It's my personal belief that things like that, when done too often, take a little bit away from the... i guess "specialness" of the experience.
2006-09-06 16:05:41 · answer #3 · answered by knightkrawler81 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you to want that. A guy should make things romantic whenever possible. It cannot always be done nor should it be expected always, but there is nothing with wanting romance. It shows appreciation and thought when you do something romantic. Conversely, there is nothing wrong with you taking the initiative to do this too. Finally, remember that there are times when not being romantic is fun too. There is nothing wrong with getting down with a "quickie" or doing something sponteneous and new. The key is the balance expectations and give as much as you expect to receive. As pretty as you are I would expect your guy would go the extra mile to make you happy. If he does not, I suspect you can find someone else pretty easily.
2006-09-06 16:00:10 · answer #4 · answered by bulletman92002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Sometimes, boys love this in a girl - others hate it. You can never be "too" or "not enough" romantic. You just have to find the right guy for your personality. If he backs off, find another.
2006-09-06 15:58:10 · answer #5 · answered by Elizabeth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to a certain extent yes however guys want SEX all the time but that does not mean we are going to get it. That's waht satisfies you (romantic) and this is what satisfies us and I am generalizing a bit of course. It's understandable BUT you cant force romanticism. the best moments in life are not planned
2006-09-06 15:58:34 · answer #6 · answered by dulsurapropia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I'm a romantic love a few candles, log fire, glass of wine. mmmm!
2006-09-06 16:47:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want it all. at times a romantic lady. other times you should be a down and dirty slut. and everything in between. we all get bored with the same thing so mix it up... bring home your girlfriend!!!!!!
really he will owe you forever and you will be the best woman he could have ever dreamed of
2006-09-06 16:04:06 · answer #8 · answered by ken y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ofcourse it is possible to be romantic! The true question is why once you have someone like that women treat us like dirt.
2006-09-06 17:10:49 · answer #9 · answered by Sean S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no problem with spoiling a women,..it's great and most of them really enjoy it. However,..you don't want to be to demanding about it and make him feel like it is more of a job than an enjoyment.
2006-09-06 16:02:19 · answer #10 · answered by juslookin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋