She's 5'5" and weighs 116 pounds. How can I convince her that she needs to back off on seconds? This has really affected our love life (making love is not the same as it was when she was 105 lbs.). I'm concerned and looking for helpful answers from my friends...
2006-09-06 08:48:50 · 27 answers · asked by slikk pikka 2 in Health ➔ Other - Health
she's five foot five and eight stone two!!!!!!
she's actually a healthy weight you dick!
it's gits like you that make healthy women anorexic and bulemic, I'm sure your wife would look wonderfully beautiful six stone with regurgitated food between her teeth!
how many of you ladies think this guy is a porker, them who slag you off usually are!!!
2006-09-06 09:01:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
At 5'5" and weighing 116, she may not be as svelte as she once was, but she is not overweight for her height, and definitely not a tub! Has she had any babies? Sometimes women have trouble getting back to their pre-pregnancy weight. If she is overeating, and steadily gaining weight, that's an entirely different matter, and she should consult with a dietician to cut down on her caloric intake. In the meantime, be supportive of her efforts and encourage her in some kind of weight-loss and exercise plan. Whatever you do, don't nag, criticize or make fun of her. That can only defeat your purpose. Tell her how beautiful she looks, and compliment her hair, skin and make-up. And finally, don't fail to recognize that true beauty comes from within. Good luck!
2006-09-06 16:02:44 · answer #2 · answered by gldjns 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that you are not being fair. She's 5'5 and 116, she's not 5'5 and 190. At that height she should be at 116 that's a healthy weight for her. Don't make her feel bad about herself.
Now about the seconds, just suggest that over time eating seconds all the time, she will gain a lot of weight and it will sneak up on her, depending on her age.
Good luck.
2006-09-06 16:18:33 · answer #3 · answered by jackiemjj_123 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever looked into what a HEALTHY weight is for a female body? If you really loved your wife, you should wise up and be more concerned about her health. Just like being overweight, being underweight has some serious health effects. 105 lbs is underweight. According to one of the weight charts I looked at, the healthy weight range for a 5'5" woman is 112 - 143, depending on size of frame.
2006-09-06 16:04:32 · answer #4 · answered by Nette 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow, worried about 11 lbs. You should love your wife whether she is 95lbs or 175lbs, dude. What's going to happen if she gets.... PREGNANT?! 40 lbs of weight gain isn't uncommon with pregnancy. How about you go walking with her or work out together instead of bringing up (*or whining about) a little weight gain. When her health is being adversely affected you can worry. Until then, don't worry about it. 116 lbs is NOT a "tub" by any reasonable definition. If my lovely wife were only 116 lbs I'd worry that she had a medical condition!
2006-09-06 15:56:08 · answer #5 · answered by writ_rrr 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
maybe she doesnt need to eat less, but get more active...i seriously doubt that she is a "tub" as you call it, but just because she's underweight for her height, doesn't mean she's healthy or fit. do you like working out?? maybe the two of you could go to the gym together. when couples get married, they usually gain weight together, but it's more accepted if a guy gains weight....if you're building muscle, you burn calories just sitting around...be her support, don't criticize. i dont think youre an idiot--its good to change living habits BEFORE they get bad (because she's not a bad weight right now)...but if it continues than it could become an issue. and secondly, YOU LOVE LIFE SHOULD NOT BE AFFECTED BY TEN LBS! maybe you have unrealistic expectations and are used to the things you watch on tv, etc. making her feel bad about herself is only going to have the opposite effect. support and encourage...don't criticize. that will help more than anything. also, it sounds like you're newlyweds kinda....there is a point in every girls life where her body changes to a WOMANS body...hmm...go figure!
2006-09-06 16:01:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Truthfully, it sounds like a case of BDD (body dysmorphic disorder) on your behalf. Besides you're probably a young man who is still attempting to come to terms with his sexuality and self gratification issues. Quit displaying poor model behavior by claiming to be happiest with a wife who looks like an anorexic "spine in a dress." It's ridiculous. According to BMI standards your honey is at the LOW END of normal; her 19.3 to the 18.5-24.9 standard. If she were to drop to 105, she'd be considered underweight; her 17.5 to <18.5. Although close to 70% of Americans tip the scales on a serious level, ponder the flip side of weight problems linked to anorexia and eating disorders. You wouldn't want your wife to be either one. Stop fueling her insecurities; love her for who she is and embrace her entire being and spirit -- not for her body only. Do a bit of soul-searching within yourself or get professional counseling if you continue to have intimacy concerns. Finally, as long as your wife eats a nutritious diet, exercises, is mentally stable, BESIDES adores you, (still?) then what are you complaining about?
2006-09-07 21:27:47 · answer #7 · answered by renaissance1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The sex must never have been very good if a few pounds is affecting it. Maybe if you would learn how to please her and stop going off in 30 seconds the sex itself would be good exercise to get rid of a few pounds.
But maybe she is gaining weight so you will leave her alone because you are so mean and heartless she doesnt want to have any with you.
2006-09-06 16:03:44 · answer #8 · answered by MrPurrfect 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is not a tub. Her weight is fine for her hight. If she weighed 155 lbs you would have reason to be concerned. It seems to me you have been brainwashed by all the magazine and TV adverts. Grow up !
2006-09-06 16:00:00 · answer #9 · answered by S.A.M. Gunner 7212 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Actually, for her height she is at the very LOW range of healthy weight. It's a shame that she's only acceptable to you if she's sickly and too thin. Perhaps she should find someone who wants her healthy and will love her the way she is.
There, was that "helpful" enough?
2006-09-06 15:53:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 0⤋