I'm so bored with playing with my son. I know its bad but there are so many things that I would rather be doin

Question

I'm so bored with playing with my son. I know its bad but there are so many things that I would rather be doing or that I have to do that I don't play with my son all that much. He seems happy most of the time and I do play with him. I'm pretty busy and my husband never plays with him. What can I do to make his playtime more interetsing?

Answer 1

geez, i don't know how to answer this. i think the problem is with you. i don't want to give a smartass answer. i loved playing with my kids all the time---from building blocks to tea parties to make-up parties (yes, i let my girls smear bo-po nail polish all over my nails------and fingers) to nintendo, to hide and seek to watching some tv, to going to chuck e cheese's, or to just take my girls and escape from my evil first wife to the mall for a while.

the years when my girls were small, before they began driving and not wanting to be seen with me, were the best years of my life.

my favorite picture that i have of my girls is where the two of them are holding a lion cub. we had escaped from the evil first wife and were at the mall. for $10 you could get your picture made with a lion cub. i've still got that picture and that's been almost 20 years ago.

both girls went through the 'i hate my parents' phase. my oldest daughter is now 25 and is one of my two best friends on this earth. my youngest daughter is 23 and is a peach.

these are the best years of your life. don't muck them up by wishing you were 'doing something more important'. there IS nothing more important than being with and enjoying your kids.

your husband needs to get his head out of his backside as well. don't waste these years--they are too precious for words!!!!

Answer 2

It depends on how old he is.

If he's younger than 3 this is pretty much going to be your life for awhile.

If he's older than 3 you can start to introduce him to playing for 15 minutes by himself and then gradually increase it depending on his age. You have to read to him or interact with him first then give him something to do or play with for 15 minutes. Make sure you can hear him because in 15 minutes he can get into a lot of trouble.

Your husband is not being a good father but at this point that's not going to help you. Maybe you can find a neighbor you trust with a child about the same age & have playdates once or twice a week. That will give you some free time

Answer 3

Don't feel bad, it gets like that some times, and anyone who says different doesn't have kids, or they do and don't take care of them......try and do some art stuff with him. I bought 2 kids paint sets (the one with 4 water colors and a giant paintbrush) and a poster board, put it down on the floor(that I covered with newspaper) and we painted together. He had a ball and it was actually a little relaxing. When we were finished he was so proud and he wanted to show everybody. Stuff like that makes it better. My son is 4, but if yours is younger there are other things you can do. The Disney Channel and Nick Jr websites has lots of activities for young kids to do with their parents...PBS kids site does too. And try to make up stuff that would be appropriate for him that you would like. I like to go to the arcade with my son. I play the games where you win tickets so at the end he can get a prize. I set a limit of 5 to 15 dollars and when the tokens run out we go to the prize counter. I show him what he can get and he knows it's time to leave after that....and it's fun. We don't do it very often, but when we do we have a ball. You'll find something.

Tell your husband you need help with your son...........he belongs to both......not just you.

Answer 4

Believe me, I know exactly how you feel. I play with my 15month old son all the time, and I enjoy it, b/c I know that he does, but sometimes we need a break. Children need to learn to play by themselves also, and that's a good thing. Even if you are sitting close by. I would love to join a playgroup, etc, but I don't have the money for that, so I do my best to do activites with him, take him outside, etc. and then I also encourage him to play alone as well.
good luck to you, and remember you're not alone. (and you're certainly not a bad mom... if you were, you wouldn't have the guilty feelings.)
P.S. My son just discovered scribbling with crayons, and he thinks it's so much fun. Just tape some paper to a table and let him go. It should keep him busy for a while, and give you a well deserved break, or at least let you get the dishes done!

Answer 5

You know ... I would love the answer to that, too! I have a two-year-old little boy as well and he does the same thing to me. "Mommy! Play!" I must hear that 100 times a day. Don't be too hard on yourself. It is not easy being the Mom of a toddler. You definitely need to take some time for yourself during the day. Secondly, try to remember that he will only be 2 once and enjoy playing with him as much as possible. These early years are really important to their development and they do need a lot of interaction with Mom and Dad. (Although we can't control the Dad part!) And lastly ... do anything that will get him giggling. There is nothing better than hearing my little boy giggle and that gets me in the mood to play more than anything else.

Answer 6

It can get boring playing with kids, Parenting magazine has an article about that recently, However I couldn't find it. You might want to start a play group or look on the internet for some easy toys to make to spice up his play time. Bottom line is you can just sit there and he will be just as happy. He just wants you there.
PS
Tell your husband to pull his head out.

Answer 7

It's not "bad" that you admit you're bored, if you're bored, you're bored!! I have 3 kids, ages 8, 6, and 4...my son is home with me all day and I get bored with him as well...sometimes a bit annoyed. He expects me to be his constant companion and although I do love playing with him, seeing him smile, hearing him laugh, sitting there amazed at all the new stuff he knows, I do get tired of constantly trying to keep him entertained. He surprises me alot though, with how his mind works. Kids are amazing. I get so excited just seeing him excited about his surroundings and new things. Kids minds are very curious and they love to explore. Why doesn't your husband ever play with him?? Does he ever just a little bit? The bond between father and son is so very important, as is yours with your child. Holidays are coming...maybe you and him could make your own wrapping paper to use this year at christmas....or get out some play-doh and make all sorts of things. Take a nature walk? Reading is never boring....there's a new adventure in every book.

Answer 8

I get bored playing with my son for a long time too, but I do it and 99% of the time I enjoy it because I know it's stimulating to him and it helps him to grow and learn.

Buy some new bright colored toys, and some toys that he can play with alone, like things that talk and make noise, or a drum set, so that he can bang around and make lots of noise. It will stimulate him, and might annoy you a little, but at least you can go do something that needs to be done while he's playing.

Answer 9

How old is he?

Play w toys, take him to the park, show him things.

My son is two. I like to take him places and show him things he likes, just to see the reaction on his face. It lights up! I wil always remember the first time he saw fireworks or a train.

Find other mothers and have play dates.

Also, remember. He will not be young forever and you will miss these times. Cherish them. This is your child and he loves just being around you. Never be too busy for your child. They are the most impt thing in your life.

Answer 10

Have him help you. He can carry a few pieces of laundry to the machines, help put them in, help take them out - fold a wash cloth. He can spray a cleaner (mild) & wipe the stove front or low window or wipe it down with you while you hold him up. He can probably put some kitchen utensils away when they are cleaned. All these little things include him in your life, teach him responsibility, new words, coordination. Let your imagination soar & you will discover more about your little man than you ever thought.