neither one has much education and they have alot of trouble with childcare. I am so angery and disappointed I don't even know how to repsond. I feel that they are short changing the other kids and making thier lives so much harder than it has to be.The rest of the family is going to flip out when they find out and I don/t know how to deal with any of this. Any advise? I know it's thier life but it effects everyone.
2006-09-06 08:19:52 · 8 answers · asked by autumnbrookblue 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My boyfriend and I got caught in the same situation with our families. He has a son from someone else and we have a son together. I didn't get immediate support or guidance from my family and neither did he and it made us both feel like scum. I actually had to try and hide my pregnancy from his family for as long as possible because he was so afraid to tell them. The only thing that we both wished for was that our families still excepted us and were supportive. We don't have a ton of money either, but we get by. As long as our children are okay and our families support us that is all that matters to us right now. You just need to support any decision they make even if you don't agree with it. Show your son that you are there for him if he needs anything, because if you let him down he might feel that it is okay to do it to his own kids later on. You wouldn't want that would you? Give yourself time to let it all sink in and I'm sure everything will be fine soon.
2006-09-06 08:47:51 · answer #1 · answered by sexy lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And the beat goes on.......it's indeed their life. Either support what has happened (which you or anyone else cannot change) or turn your back (not wise). Don't continue ridiculing them about not having made wiser decisions......provide them with guidance and support and prayers for a better life.
2006-09-06 15:28:48 · answer #2 · answered by Inquiring mind wants to know.. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats, you will be a grandmother again,if the children are not being abused then what is the problem? Help them as much as you can if you can accept it is their choice to have a baby, if not leave well alone.
2006-09-06 15:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by cheyenne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a child is a blessing and their are many people out their needed a child that can not have one talk to your son 1st about adoption. If they want to keep this baby for themselves you just need to be as loving and motherly as you can stand help them out with the kids! Remember though they will remember everything you say about this baby so dont say anything hurtful to them! :)
2006-09-06 15:25:11 · answer #4 · answered by Lauren D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The other kids will suffer as the one they have together will be the favorite. I'd slap him silly and tell him to keep it in his pants the next time.
2006-09-06 15:28:08 · answer #5 · answered by N3WJL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like they should both be fixed. why is it that the dumber you are the more kids you make.
2006-09-06 15:27:31 · answer #6 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's NON OF YOUR BUSINESS, YOU NEED JUST BE A GOOD MOTHER AND FOSTER GRANDMOTHER AND GRANDMOTHER, REMEMBER THE CHILDREN ARE INNOCENT.AND WHO KNOWES THEY MAY REALY LOVE EACH OTHER..
2006-09-06 15:33:35 · answer #7 · answered by larry B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I FEEL FOR YOU, BUT WHAT CAN YOU DO??? BE SUPPORTIVE AND MAKE THE BEST OF IT... GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-09-06 15:27:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋