I've been in a relationship with this guy for a little over two months now. I make more money than he does, and we've both come to terms with that. However, I still believe that he should foot the bill ONCE in a while. I mean, I do a LOT for him. I've never fallen through when I said I would do something for him. When I suggest we should go somewhere to eat (like even to frickin' McDonald's or Culver's), and he'll be like, "I don't have any money.." or "No, I don't really wanna go.." but the second I offer to pay, WHAM! We're there! It's getting old, and it's been going on for quite some time. He's always like, "I feel so bad that you're always paying for me and I never pay for you," blah blah blah. I'm always like, "It's understandable, pay me back when you can," or something. & When he DOES pay, 99% of the time he only covers his part (if not less) of the bill. What threw it all in my face was this morning, when I had court for a traffic violation, and... (cont'd).....
2006-09-06 08:01:56 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
.... for the last week and a half, he's been assuring me that he would take me to the courthouse (because I got it outside of the county I live in, and I don't know where the courthouse is in the county I was cited in) for my pretrial conference, where I could get my citation and fine reduced. But last night, at about 10PM, he told me he had to work in the morning, and that he didn't have enough gas to get to the courthouse and back to work and back home again.
To me, it's like.. couldn't you have planned to ask off of work 1 1/2 weeks ago, when you were first informed? So I had to try going there by myself, I didn't find it at all, got totally lost on 1-way streets, and finally returned home in time to get ready for work. Because of him, I missed COURT! What should I do?
2006-09-06 08:04:55 · update #1
Keep in mind that this is the only thing I had been depending on him to do for me in return for everything I've done for him. Throughout the course of our 2-month+ relationship, as well.
2006-09-06 08:05:58 · update #2
u need to let him know that this ain't bk and he can't have it his way.. just cause u make more that doesn't give him the right to slack financially when it comes to ur relationship and if he feels that way then he needs to find someone that makes less then him..
what? does he think ur supposed to take a paycut or something.. stop paying for everything.. stop doing all the things u do for him since it's such a strain for him to do those things in return.. let him know that it shouldnt' be tick for tack but in ur relationship it should be 50/50.. u buy fast food one day and let him do it the next time.. let him know that ur not excepting it anymore and that it's causing a disruption in ur relationship.. now if he doesn't change then leave him and find someone who's more secure w/that financial status...
2006-09-06 08:07:04 · answer #1 · answered by Queen D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's taken advantage of a kind person so donut bother anymore it's only been two Months and you deserve someone better so go on and leave him trust me it will be the best thing you've ever done
not to be cold or anything of course i understand were humans and we all got feelings but then you have to watch out for yours
and ask yourself is this really the kind of guy you see yourself with and if no then don't why should you settle for something less
life is about goals and more than anything in a relation ship we should have the best OK well then hope you have a good day
and good luck to you...
2006-09-06 15:09:10 · answer #2 · answered by rm4real 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is exibiting characteristic that are not good if you choose to marry him down the road.
First, if he is not ever willing to pay for things then he may be the type that dumps the responsibilities of being the bread winner on you when you are married.
Secondly, if he is not willing to make any plans or foot the bill for a romantic evening then I would say this is how your marriage will go romantically.
It is time to dump him and find someone who is willing to be a partner in your relationship. Who loves you for you and not your money.
2006-09-06 15:07:27 · answer #3 · answered by rltouhe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he sounds like a losser. Maybe you need to stop telling him that you will pay when he says he has no money. When you ask and he says he has no money then say ok, we can eat at home. Stop telling him you will pay. I am not try to be mean here or take up for him but some of the problem falls back on you for doing that. He told you he had NO money, leave it be. For the court, maybe he took off work then they told him he counldnt? But yes, I say he is a losser for not atleast paying you back
2006-09-06 15:23:51 · answer #4 · answered by bigdog_0032 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, do us all a favor and get rid of the sponge! I had a friend like that, take take take take was all he ever did. Very rarely did he give and it had to be a full moon, with all the stars aligned and no clouds in the sky! save yourself the stress and bad relations and git with someone that can at lease meet you half way!!
2006-09-06 15:14:06 · answer #5 · answered by M D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is definitely a big time loser. Get rid of him now or it will really start to irritate you months from now. Don't marry him like this it would only get worst. It sounds like he is not even making the effort to please you in whatever way he can to make up for his lack of funds. Move on. Find someone who would appreciate you.
Been there. Know this kind well!
2006-09-06 15:16:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he trying to fix the situation like working overtime or maybe a raise. Does he waste his money on crap? If he's not trying to fix it or even pay once in awhile it sounds like you got a scrub. Ditch him.
2006-09-06 15:07:17 · answer #7 · answered by tpurtygrl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-06 15:12:53 · answer #8 · answered by Cherries 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a real loser, Ask him if he would mind paying and if he says I don't have ne money say Well I don't eather!
2006-09-06 15:05:34 · answer #9 · answered by azsxdfcgvbhjn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he obviously just needs a babysitter and a mommy topay for him. Move on girlie
2006-09-06 15:07:47 · answer #10 · answered by CE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋