Help me out please? im lost...?
yea so heres how it is... every summer i go to visit my cousin. this year i hooked up with her best friend. sure the sexual part of it was awesome...
but i had a really awesome time with her.. we chilled, and went to the movies and i really enjoyed spending time with her. now the problem is that my cousin lives 12 hours away. i only go visit my cousin for two weeks out of the year. i know this sounds really lame or whatever, and ill prolly get called a p*ssy for sayin this, but im havin a really hard time not being with her. we talk all the time on the phone, but i had such an amzing time with her, i cant stand not being with her... WTF do i do?
2006-09-06 07:59:52 · 14 answers · asked by togaparty456 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im a junior in high school
2006-09-06 08:05:32 · update #1
Wow! That stinks that you guys live so many hours away. Unless your willing to move or shes willing to move, I'd say its kind of unrealistic. Life is all about taking risks and so you guys took a risk and you fell for her. Dont know how old you are or if either of you are married or what the full story is but hey, anything in life is possible. See if she feels the same way about you. Just do some soul searching and ask yourself do you love her or are you in love with her. She might have had an expectation that when you guys were sleeping together, it was only to sleep together and thats it. You might have to come to grips that its not going to be anything else...but ask her. Love does hurt, you are right about that. Wish there was more to say. Maybe you could keep in touch via email and such but still, 12 hrs. is not around the corner. I have trouble not seeing my boyfriend whos only an hour away from me. good luck and who knows, maybe you can work it out somehow. If love is truly there, anything is possible.
2006-09-06 08:08:39 · answer #1 · answered by Uncertainty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I'll say it: you are a p*ssy, and quite horny and misdirected I should add.
Seriously though.
Think about this: there are thousands of Soldiers living across the globe for a year or longer without sex or even being in regular contact with thier loved ones. Some get to make a PHONE CALL once a year.
You are worried about a 12 hour drive and regular phone calls?
Weak man, weak.
Ok, If you REALLY do want her, then you have to have dedication!!
Don't be lazy, ATTACK life!!
Drive 12 hours after school on a Friday and 12 through the night back on Sunday so you can see her every weekend and still make it to school. Work a night job on weekdays after school so you can pay for the gas and time together. THAT would prove that you really do miss her. If you don't have a car, then buy a cheap *** $1000 beater with your first couple pay checks.
There are solutions, but do you have the self-discipline?
Or is she not worth all that?...
2006-09-06 15:29:37 · answer #2 · answered by AJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how old you are? If you are a teenager...with parents: Long distance relationships can work. You just have to make adjustments that you are not used to. Such as, telephone (check) got that one taken care of.....Visit at holiday times when you have time off from school and she can visit you. Must have a really good parttime job because of gas expenses today, but it's dooable. Also, internet cam viewing...for instant bonding.
Now if you are older, consider moving where she is...take a job with a company/business that you are used to. Or maybe, start your own. You have fallen head over heals for this gal...MAKE SURE she feels the same about you. Lay it all out on the line, talk to her like you are really willing to spend the rest of your life with her. And don't leave anything out.
(if it's just the great sex you had..then well, you will find that again. Give it time...) Good luck let me know what you think...
2006-09-06 15:07:06 · answer #3 · answered by chatterella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honey, try and take it easy or you will loose it. At least you talk with her regularly over the phone. All you can probally do is wait. However If you are scared to loose her cause of the distance or that she might find someone else because you cant see her more often, don't be. Hey that means she wasn't for you and believe me there will be someone else sometime. I'm sorry it you don't like the answer but if she really likes you, she will be the one. GOOD LUCK
2006-09-06 15:09:40 · answer #4 · answered by ladydi9red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well baby...I feel your pain. I really do. My boyfriend lived about 10 hours from me, and it was hard. We chatted online daily, and took turns calling a couple of times a week. And we visited when we could. The difference is, I am older than you. You're kind of stuck on your parents coattails financially. You'll just have to do the best you can, and if it's meant to be, it will be!
2006-09-06 20:40:54 · answer #5 · answered by persnickety1022 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For now to don't get mad, make a plan when you will come to her at your earliest convenience.Then focus on this trip, how it will be then also you can talk with her about your plan and you'll concentrate on thoughts of intending how you'll be spending time with her;)
I hope that it could help, for me it was the only consolation when i felt this same some time ago.Be strong and take care :)
2006-09-06 15:16:32 · answer #6 · answered by Czary_Mary S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can advise is to stay in touch and see where things go. Maybe you guys could meet halfway every now and then for a date.
2006-09-06 15:02:58 · answer #7 · answered by Toga748 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in love.
There's nothing to do.
But have heart - the pain will fade every single day until you can feel better.
You're not done feeling this way either.
It'll happen again.
2006-09-06 17:20:09 · answer #8 · answered by Alexander Shannon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chill dude! u'll be fine jus keep talkin to her and make the most of the time u do spend with her.
2006-09-06 15:04:28 · answer #9 · answered by Deni T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is keep in contact and find a new girl to hang with that's close to you.
2006-09-06 15:03:17 · answer #10 · answered by tpurtygrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋