WTF?? i care not. he says i have made a wreck of him. what's going on here? i told him i can't help him + he'll have to get on with it. what shall i do and what does this say about him? what does it say about me?
2006-09-06 07:59:00 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Firstly...
tell him "well done, you've admitted you have a problem AND you know where to go to get help - of the psychiatric variety..."
then say...
"you do know I am not a psychiatric doctor, don't you?".
Then ask him if he would like you to call his parents to let them know you're worried about his apparent mental health problems... that should sort you out nicely...
Call his parents and tell them you're worried about his mental health - they'll soon step in.
2006-09-06 08:04:24 · answer #1 · answered by ShowMeTheLite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had that same problem some years ago. Do Not talk to him no matter what, if you do he will continue to believe that you still care for him and that there is hope of you two getting back together, do not allow it. change the number. eventually he will get the message, be asertive.
P.s It says that he's a jack *** and that you know how to keep a man locked down are you sure you did not get lessons from me? lol keep keeping it real.
2006-09-06 08:07:31 · answer #2 · answered by DivaByNature,B*tchByChoice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg he sounds either REALLY attention seeking or seriosly in trouble with himself
if i were you i would tell some1 that knows him that could help him out if he is actually needing help bcoz this person would tell if he did and then could help him without getting you draged into the situation......
if he gets the help he needs then you can feel you have done the right thing without getting involved too much but if he was only pretending then you need to him to stop right now or else you could sue him for harasment (this is just to scare him off)
then if he still doesnt tell loads of people nd eventually he should leave youn alone but if not then you might hav to make that warning actually happen.........
your not doing anything wrong hes being stupid or needs help
anyways good luck :)
2006-09-06 08:19:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It says that he is trying to get you to stay in his life by playing the blame game and having a pity party, which is pathetic (because if he needed help he should not be looking to the person he said caused the damage). As far as what it says about you, not giving in to this pathetic attempt at reconciliation is that you are strong, and smart for not falling for this foolishness. Unless you can request/suggest a good therapist for him, there is nothing you can do for him, so hold your ground girl and stay strong. You are doing the right thing by yourself.
2006-09-06 08:07:39 · answer #4 · answered by btdt65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well initially, when I read your question, I was preparing to tell you that it's not your fault and not to let him make you feel guilty. However, after reading the rest of it, I think you may be a little cold hearted. "You care not," if that's the way you feel it's a good thing that you broke up with him. There was obviously some feelings towards him at some point. I just wonder what he did to make you feel nothing at all for him.
2006-09-06 08:06:24 · answer #5 · answered by str8tequila80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it says nothing bad about you, most wouldn't answer the phone (caller i.d.) the more you answer, the more he will think hes still got a shot. if hes drinking(which is probably why hes calling,pitty party for himself) it wouldn't surprise me if he threatens suicide next. if hes mentally stable he will get over it in time,if not, you don't need that kind of drama in your life noways. you cant controle other people, the only thing sounds to me you did wrong was to keep answering the phone, if no is not an answer to him,(stalking) you may, as a last resort, call law enforcement. hope it doesn't come to that. luck.
2006-09-06 08:27:32 · answer #6 · answered by cycodad69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing mind games with you, just be strong and tell to get over it and get on with his life, there is really nothing you can do, don't feel sorry for and go back to him, if you don't love him. I f he has a drink problem, tell to go t AA, and if needs psychiatric help tell to go and get it, its says that he is just trying to get you back through sympathy, and about you, will you must have had your reasons for dumping him. good luck and god bless
2006-09-06 08:30:18 · answer #7 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is using reverse phycology on you. he wants to make you sorry for dumping him so he can get back together with him. I dont know why you guys broke up but if its for a small reason you should ignor small things and look at the bigger picture. What you sacrafice might not be worth what you are giving up in the end.
2006-09-06 08:04:15 · answer #8 · answered by unkown 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, he's admitted the drinking problem and that he's psychotic and needs help. So, what does he want you to do ... pay for the shrink? I agree with the others, don't answer and change your number. But watch your back...you never know what a psychotic drunk will do.
2006-09-06 08:08:52 · answer #9 · answered by gpatrick10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your ex has a drinking problem, it probably has very little to do with you. Don't feel guilty. You should just wish him the best of luck and go on your way.
HTH.
2006-09-06 08:01:32 · answer #10 · answered by Toga748 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋