My Husband is on a base in Iraq where a guy he knows was emailing and talking nasty to women online other than his wife. One day he left his emails open on his laptop and some of his non-friends of the unit forwarded them to his wife. Amoung those emails were some to buddies at home about how he was sleeping with a Female Naval Photographer on base {There are two} and cheating on his wife. I am curious,How often does this stuff happen,and what are the usual consequences for it.How many woman are on a base with these men? It makes me kinda worry about my husband being there,and lately he seemed very distracted and busier than usual. I know it gets lonely and believe me I know you get horny,but that is why I have batterys!! What do these guys do,do they really go a year without? .How common is this? Should I be worried he is screwing other Military Woman? I don't think he is,but this whole thing with these two woman and his buddy screwing them and getting caught is freaking me out!!
2006-09-06 07:58:04 · 25 answers · asked by Holly 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Oh trust me,I send him all kinds of pics and videos...He is not neglected on my part for that. I even opted for a wireless internet sex toy,haha! One he can control from his laptop. I am trying to make sure he can "relieve" himself when needed. Even bought us webcams,but the signal out there sucks so we get shut off.
2006-09-06 08:12:18 · update #1
Yes we trust each other,and are madly in love,I just also know how horny people get,and being over there,and it being around him just might be tempting to him. I am just trying to be more tempting to him.
2006-09-06 08:14:17 · update #2
I am in Kuwait at this time so I will give this a shot and my wife has asked questions like these. At our camp there is about a 20:1 Male to Female ratio. The distraction is more than likely caused by dealing with 5% of the problem children in your squads or companies 90% of the time. Plus our work load for everyone in the theater has gone up, with the old saying that we can do more work with less people. I know alot of units here and up north that are working anywhere between 12-16 hour shifts, plus you still have to conduct physical training and common task training. So our days are pretty much filled.
Next Question: Consequences aside from destroying your marrage, is that adultery and fratinization is punishable under then Uniform Code of Military Justice (U.C.M.J.) Definetly a career killer as well as one hell of away to lose a lot of money!
Next question: Yes most of us do go with out it for a year. We got leave while we were here, so you don't go with-out it for a whole year.
Next Question: I don't know about your husbands camp, but here the only ones I see getting any are ussually the younger guys, but even that is only rumor, but I am sure on some level it is going on.
Next Question: I wouldn't worry about your husband cheating. If you had a strong relationship before he left, then it will be alright. I haven't met a Joe over here that is willing to through away a family or military career over a fling. His buddy was more than likely an un-professional ****** who got what he had coming. So I wouldn't worry about it if I were you.
2006-09-06 08:30:21 · answer #1 · answered by grunt82abn1931 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I don't think we can tell you if you should be worried about your husband cheating on you, only you can answer that. We don't know what kind of person he is or if he's ever given you a reason to make you think he would cheat.
It seems that a lot of people are under the impression that just because someone is in the Military, they are cheaters! I've said this before, but being in the Military isn't what makes a person cheat. They cheat because their disloyal and obviously have little respect to their husband/wife. You could take the person in the Military who was cheating and put them in a civilian job where they are never away from their spouse, and they would still cheat!
They cheat because they want to, not because they are away from home.
I don't believe for even a minute that my husband would ever cheat on me, even during the times the Military has taken him away from home for months and months. He has never given me a reason to think he would mess around on me. And to be honest, if you have trust issues in your relationship and always worry that he is cheating on you while he's away, then you never should have married someone in the Military. You will drive yourself insane every-time he leaves.
If you're truly committed and in love with someone, you can make it work even when they are away. Sure, it takes a lot more effort to maintain a healthy marriage when you're so far away from each other, but it can be done.
You said your husband seems busy and distracted...Look where he is at! I'm sure he has a lot on his mind, and being in Iraq is pretty stressful!
Your husband is always going to be stationed with women. Rather it's in Iraq or back home in the States, and it's going to be like that his entire Military career. There is nothing that can be done about that. Just because his friend has cheated on his wife, doesn't mean your husband is going to do the same.
2006-09-06 13:13:19 · answer #2 · answered by Naples_6 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my husband was in Iraq he told me stories like that too, my neighbors husband just got back and he has stories too. The fact is that it does happen, and now that you know about it, your mind will start coming up with all sorts of thoughts. I even thought about it. But you cant let it get to you or it will drive a wedge between you too. If he was going to cheat he wouldnt be telling you how its done. Trust him and love your soldier because you never know what could happen out there and if it does you dont want your last memories to be I wonder if he cheated on me. Remember a military wife had the hardest job in the military!
2006-09-06 08:29:06 · answer #3 · answered by ArmyWife 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Soldiers do cheat but this does not mean your husband is cheating. There are good men that stay faithful and if he is a good man, he will be faithful to you.
I am in Combat Service Support, so females were present while I was in Iraq. Combat Arms are lucky to have females in sight.
If you trust your husband, continue to trust him. Even support him and ask if he needs any "magazines". If you are adventurous and trust him whole heartedly, send him a few pics or a video....I won't say what kind.
Make sure he knows you love him and always email him.
Good luck and let him know he's in prayer
2006-09-06 08:07:47 · answer #4 · answered by Q-burt 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The fact that your Husband told you of this incident leads me to believe he was on the side of the guys who forwarded the emails to the cheating guy's wife. So I doubt your husband would be cheating on you. The answers to this is not in whether military men cheat or not, or how many other women are on the base or if the other women are military or not. it has to do with the INDIVIDUAL and whether they would cheat or not.
Do you and your husband have a good relationship, do you trust him, does he trust you. Have faith in your husband.
There are lots of people who cheat. Both Men and Women, Both Military and Civilian.
But for every cheater there are many more who are faithful.
2006-09-06 08:11:03 · answer #5 · answered by CG-23 Sailor 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Men or women in combat situations are far away from home for a long time,usually under heavy stress. It's pretty normal that they find a relief for this stress. Try asking any Vietnam Veterane if he was faithfull all the time in Vietnam. You'll be unpleasantly surprised. The only advantage you do have is that Iraq is not the most liberated place as sex is concerned. So little chance of finding prostitutes. But as for the women on base well
2006-09-06 08:04:43 · answer #6 · answered by peter gunn 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Trust him, you are going beyond what any military wife has done when their husband's been deployed. Why would he want to ruin a great relationship & lose a great wife
Yeah, some men are pigs, was stationed with one that would cheat on his wife when we deployed. But, guys like that are few & far between
2006-09-06 11:23:18 · answer #7 · answered by Ghost_Target 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it does happen. The motto is "What happens on TDY stays on TDY." My husband was deployed many times during his 24 years in the military. If you truly trust him, you shouldn't have anything to worry about. All the doubt and wondering and worrying will only serve to push him away, and perhaps feel he may as well cheat since you already think he is.
2006-09-06 08:05:53 · answer #8 · answered by AzOasis8 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
RE: Do the squaddies have a lot of intercourse in Iraq? i became into basically questioning if the squaddies in Iraq are able to have intercourse with ladies many times or are all of them deprived. purely a curious question!
2016-10-14 09:35:12 · answer #9 · answered by saleh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about it. That kind of stuff is pretty isolated. If you have a solid relationship with your husband there is nothing to worry about. Just get a lot of sleep before he gets home. I don't expect either one of you will be getting too much sleep for a few days. lol! Good Luck!!
2006-09-06 08:06:04 · answer #10 · answered by The Mick "7" 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋