so my friend has been trying to break up my current engagedment..he's pulled out every trick in the book. i've surpassed most of them. i've told my fiance, and obviously he doesn't like this guy trying to break us up. i still want to be his friend. but with his antics, i've been sitting wondering what if he's right? he told me i was making a mistake from the beginning...is this true? or is he being biased. i know you can't judge and give me the perfect answer w/o knowing itg all... but i can't help but to think what if? I feel awful for stating all this. how can i have these thoughts in having a fiance.... how could i do this to him.... etc.
I feel completely torn, and dont know what to do. i feel like I need to talk to this other guy face to face..but to be frank i'm scared bc i don't know if once i see him i'll get the old feelings back. what would you do? am i terrible? please be kind and no disheartning words or sAYING..YOU'RE AN IDIOT, wtf etc. i need helpful answers. thank you.
2006-09-06 07:58:00 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes i use to have feeligns forthis other guy. you see i was single...dating around...the guys both knew though. i was dating this other guy and my now fiance. my now fiance asked me out and i left went with him instead of the other guy..that'ss when the other guy started telling me his true feelings and the mistakes i was making.so here i am..i ignored his statements and went ahead w/ dating my fiance. he proposed i gladly accepted. and now this other guy has entered the pic.
2006-09-06 08:02:48 · update #1
First of all, don't doubt your decision to get married because of someone else; then you're letting your male friend win.
It seems to me your guy friend is a bit jealous that you're marrying another man and probably thinks you won't have any time to hang around with him. He may even have an interest in you... but he needs to get over it.
Don't allow him to change your mind; if you feel you love someone, continue to do what you feel is best. Follow your heart, nobody elses.
It is normal to be nervous and have doubt on a wedding day, every bride does BUT don't let your guy friends opinions stop you from marrying someone who could be your soulmate.
It's your life and you have to take chances. Marry the man you love without looking back.
2006-09-06 08:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a very tough situation, the one you are in. The first thing you should do is put your feelings in clear. Make sure that you really love this fiancee of yours and that what you want most in the world is to be with him. The best way to do this is to see your friend to talk to him and see what are your true feelings for him. A lot of people say that is not good to compare but i tell you compare your *** off. See what each has that makes you feel good which one gives the the most warmth in your heart and the butterflies in your stomach. And most importantly have in mind that no matter how much you try not everyone can be always happy unfortunately that is life. But you have to make sure that you are one of the few that are. Hope that my advice helps and i wish you all the luck!!!:-)
2006-09-06 15:09:17 · answer #2 · answered by andia2amat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume you are in love, since you are engaged. You need to ask your friend why he is trying to break you the engagement. It sounds as if he has some kind of agenda. I would listen to your heart and talk with the finance. the finance is the one that matters, not a friend trying screw you over some how.
My personal experience, when i was 23 years old, I was in love with this girl, we had talked of getting married. A friend told me lies that I believed, at the same time, her friend told her lies about me that she believed. We ended our relationship with a hellacious argument. We lost touch with each other, I ended up marrying someone else, but over time, I realized that even though I love my wife, my true love was my first fiance. 25 years later we met, we talked and realized that we broke up because of lies conspired by other people that did not really matter. Rather than talk the problem out, we fought. both of us, now married to others, realized that we should have been married. Talk everything over with your finance and go from there. If life together is meant to be or not to be should be talked over by both of you together without any outside influence. Please do not let others influence your feelings toward your finance. Good luck!
2006-09-06 15:12:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends have a way of becoming very jealous of a happy situation. It's sounds to me your friend is scared of losing you, so by getting rid of your fiance there will be no competition. If he is really your friend then he will let you live your life for you.
2006-09-06 15:04:19 · answer #4 · answered by Not Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you in doubt, wait. Marriage is suppossed to be a forever thing. Go see what this other person has to say, if it's all , "I still love you" stuff and you don't have feelings anymore or if there was a reason you split, then ignore it, but if he knows something that you don't, it might matter.
2006-09-06 15:02:40 · answer #5 · answered by jdecorse25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only logical explanation i can think of is that this guy wants you back!
2006-09-06 15:01:20 · answer #6 · answered by kareen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like you might have feelings for this other guy?
2006-09-06 15:00:32 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋