I have been in a relationship for 6 years with my boyfriend, and he has gradually started to change his behavior towards me in the past few months. He calls me less, gets upset and critical towards more things that I do, lately has stopped saying I love you back to me on the phone (he claims that he doesn't anymore because he wants to say it "when its least expected"), and after a fight last week, hasn't called me since (5 days). I tried to talk to him about our fight last week, and he told me he loved me, etc, but then he hasn't called me. I don't know what to do...its making me feel terrible because I don't know whats going on.
Please Help!
2006-09-06 07:55:47 · 22 answers · asked by Ginger 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like he is having doubts or issues with the relationship. I wouldn't say he does not love you anymore,(only he knows that) but maybe in his mind he does not know where he wants this relationship to go.
Maybe there is somebody else who has caught his eye. Which would explain why he is not giving you the same attention as he use to. I would give him some space for a little while (or forever) depending on what the reason is. Let him think things through. It will either make him realize that he misses you and want to work things out, or make him realize its time to move on. Either way you need to know.
If you had a fight and he has not called you in five days, he is not even trying anymore to make things right. And about him telling you he loves you, if he tells you he does not love you anymore, then he will not have his safety net to fall back on if he decides he made the wrong mistake by leaving.
Like I said, let him go. You both might find out something about yourselves. Hey he might decide to come back and you might find someone else in the meantime and not want to go back. You never know. Good luck.
2006-09-06 08:06:32 · answer #1 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your man is having his cake and eating it too. When I say this, I mean that he seems to be keeping you around because the two of you have had such a long relationship and it's not easy letting go but that he is also trying to move on and is probably out with other girls as well.
I love you should be said whenever, not just when you least expect it. Since his behavior is changing, he is probably interested in other women; that's what I am concluding.
If I were you, I'd have a one on one conversation about your relationship and where it is going. When you love someone you don't argue with them and not call back for a whole week. He needs to either put love and time into your 6 year relationship or let it go.
2006-09-06 07:59:10 · answer #2 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know it always surprises me how freely people use the word "I love you", it almost loses it's real meaning, and becomes a cliche. You mentioned that your boyfriend has changed his behavior towards you in the past few months...to be honest it sounds as if he has lost interest in you, it sounds like something else has taken up his interest, and you need to find out what that is, if you are really seriously thinking of staying with him...but what i find unacceptable is that he hasn't called you for five days, and even worse still refuses to discuss your argument which is really important to clear up...this is a clear sign that he really has lost interest, he's using the words i love you too casually, to keep you quiet, it means nothing, those words are empty...sorry love maybe it's time for you to love yourself more than him, and move on fast. Good Luck.
2006-09-06 08:08:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well girl i had the same situation a few months back. he didnt talk to me when we made fight he didnt call me for 5 days, its true its very rare he to say that he loves me but still i know he is not sincere tome and i have deep pain in my heart knowing that he never loved me but still its going on dont know where and when it will end, but prepare ur mind for it, u should accept the truth, if he loves u he will never make u to cry if u feel u want him make a phone call, disturb a lot like giving so many calls, or go to his place where he stay say that u were sorry for wht happened in the past and say how much u love him and if he is ok give him a kiss and hug him and he will know how much u care for him... if he didnt hear u just think he is not the one for u and prepare ur mind that u need someone to love u back so u have to find a person who is willing to understand and love u.
2006-09-06 08:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by ann m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm informed by extra beneficial than 10 credible components (none of whom comprehend one yet another) that the quickest thank you to make *any* guy head for the door is to confess which you like him. that would desire to be your reason. he's scared. He wigged out. he's seeing his existence flash earlier his eyes. he's finding down the line and thinking you have chose toddlers and Clark's station wagon. it is possibly he discovered yet another woman. good success with it and don't tension approximately it or him too plenty (he's in simple terms no longer nicely worth it).
2016-12-12 03:39:49 · answer #5 · answered by suire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds Like Mind Games to me i been there use to do that myself honestly and it's just a thing we do to get you insecure but the truth is we do care at least in my case i did but i don't know about him So Six years Later this is where your at so I say i cant help you cause i know what your going to do since you love him keep holding onto him even though you know he dosen't love you
So good luck with it i guess and hopefully everything turns out alright
Just know my opinion says its mind games and this kid seems kind of foolish to do that you and if he really dosen't love you you don't need to be with Him Love should be reciprocated and not just given OK bye
nuff said*
2006-09-06 08:03:40 · answer #6 · answered by rm4real 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is questioning the relationship, I am sorry to say.
Hopefully he will be honest with you and will get together the guts to do so. Perhaps that is why he is staying away. Ask if he will meet you somewhere neutral, like a restaurant or for coffee and in a nonconfrontational way ask him to lay his cards on the table. It is not fair that he is leaving you hanging. Then at least you would know for sure and can get on with your life, however it is meant to be. Good luck to you.
2006-09-06 08:00:51 · answer #7 · answered by momofboys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa. Well, you're going to HAVE to brace yourself up for it and have a serious talk with him about it. Tell him you still love him, but given the way he's been acting, you have to ask him if he honestly still feels the same way about you. Otherwise you'll just go on living in uncertainty.
If the answer is the scary one, it's going to be really hard at first. Most important: make sure you have friends to help you through it. You are loveable. Trust me.
Jesus.
2006-09-06 08:03:15 · answer #8 · answered by serengetimonster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well six years is a long time and maybe right now he has feelings of what is me missing out on, or he is overwhelmed with the relationship, or cant help to think that hes been with you longer that most marriages now -a- days be strong but keep the thought that it might be over in the back of your head so that you dont get steamrolled by it. sorry sweety
2006-09-06 08:01:57 · answer #9 · answered by bigmj75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, he should always tell you he loves you. yea it's cool to hear it at unexpected times, but when you are the only one saying it then there's a problem. I am actually in the same situation as you right now. i just talked to the guy and had him tell me the truth. But anyways, if he really does love you, he will want to be with you and talk with you. Obviously he probably doesn't know what he wants to do, or he really doesn't know what love is.
2006-09-06 08:00:31 · answer #10 · answered by CE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋