I am getting married next July and I wanted to take the kids on our honeymoon. What should I do.
2006-09-06 07:49:28 · 30 answers · asked by april j 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
For the people who are sending responses saying that it is a family vacation, let me explain further (before I end up cursing the rude people out). He drives trucks and his only home one week a month. He doesn't get a chance to spend time with the kids the way he would like, that is why I wanted to bring them. They are 8 and 5. We have been together eight years and we have done all the wild stuff and still find time to do it when he's home.
2006-09-06 08:39:46 · update #1
You and your spouse have probably already been married for years and already know each other pretty well. And yes, you've probably had the wild sex and other honeymoon like vacations. If he's home that little, you probably don't get to vacation much. If you want to take your children, and it sounds like you do, take them. Have a good time. I would suggest somewhere that has kid friendly entertainment/care so you can leave them to their own devices for a few hours a day. People don't realize that vacations cost a lot and taking a honeymoon and a separate family vacation in one year is damn expensive, money you may want to spend on food and your home. Or maybe you just don't have the vacation days to do that. If you love your family and you and your husband think spending time as a family is great fun, don't let anyone tell you that you can't.
2006-09-12 02:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by KeM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids or no kids.....well what does the groom say? I really think it's a wonderful idea, and will help in the bonding of the family together, but you are still a bride and groom and you still deserve a honeymoon. So, how about taking the kids for a couple of days, then dropping them off with Grandma or someone and then you 2 recover from all the family fun by yourselves....Or, you two go spend the wedding night alone and maybe an extra day, and pick up the kids and go have a family vacation together. I know several couples who took the kids on the honeymoon, but each of them wished they had done something alone. My cousin just got married, and she married at Graceland, so all the family and friends that traveled to the wedding stayed and we all went site seeing together, and just had lots of fun....She and the new groom are leaving Friday night for the honeymoon of their dreams, on the beach...so they had the dream wedding at Graceland's little chapel, and now they are having the beach honeymoon...She called me a few minutes ago, and she is just as excited as her wedding day, so break the 2 up. Let the family have this time to bond together, and then the 2 of you plan something special, when you can really enjoy it together.....by yourselves..............
God bless us all............
2006-09-06 08:24:05 · answer #2 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without. I see it as you can have a "Honeymoon" without the kids or a "Family vacation" with the kids. Which do you & the hubby want? Will you regret not taking a honeymoon? I know the whole family is important but if mom & dad don't have their own time together the relationship can lose the love : ) That's how you got the kids in the first place - loving, alone time ; )
2006-09-06 07:56:27 · answer #3 · answered by Steph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None of your explanation matters. This is the first day of the rest of your life together. Even if your honeymoon is only a long weekend, you have to spend it together.
Parenting is wonderful, but in 10 years those kids will be not want to be seen with you, and then it'll be too late to have an adult relationship.
Find a small secluded cabin (if you don't know one, and are around Missouri, email me and I'll will tell you about one I use), and just go and get to know each other all over again.
Be greedy about your time as grown ups and the beginning of your lifetime relationship.
If none of that make any sense to you, consider what advice you would give your daughter in this situation. Would you really advise her to give up her honeymoon to spend it being mom and dad?
2006-09-06 16:35:17 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, you two do what is best for yourselves and as a family unit.
Technically, it isn't a honeymoon. It is a vacation. Have to define honeymoon v.s vacation.
Yet, what it is, is what it is.
If you two wish to take your children with you, than no one has the right but you two to decide this.
I believe in a family unit. If he isn't able to spend that much time with his children nor you, I would take the opportunity.
I do disagree with the fact you two are not taken this opportunity for yourselves. should also have time alone and him being on the rode is not an excuse to not have time to spend with his children, let alone with yourself as your husband.
You can take a short 2 to 3 day honeymoon by yourselves as grandparents/uncles/aunts or so can watch the children. Then can spend the next 2 to 3 days at home as a family unit.
One week is not enough and I STRONGLY recommend that he finds another job or drives locally. Trucking is majorly on both sides of my family. My mom drove, my step dad drove, his brother's drove, my siblings dad drove, aunts and uncles. My brother in law drives cross country with my nephew 9 and niece 5 at home. I pretty much understand the reasons behind it.
Yet, family matters more and there is jobs locally he can do.
2006-09-06 09:19:26 · answer #5 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY? Okay, if your fiance agrees, and you decide to take them, then let's not call it a honeymoon...it's a family vacation. If I were doing this, well I wouldn't do this, but if I had to, I'd take a nanny or someone so I could have evenings free or be alone with my husband sometimes.
This is a time for you and your husband to enjoy each other's company, alone, away, together. Without other people's needs. Just the two of you, really enjoying the time together as a couple. Don't you want moonlit walks? Don't you want to have crazy sex? Don't you want to sleep when you want? or eat someplace that doesn't serve macaroni and cheese?
If it's hard for you to be away from your children, I understand--take a shorter trip. Please don't take your kids, they aren't marrying either of you, they will have plenty of time to spend with you when you return.
2006-09-06 08:02:47 · answer #6 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say don't take the kids. You're honeymoon is supposed to be just you and your spouse's time to have sex and get to know each other better. You should wait and take the kids on a family vacation later. Or if you want to take them now, then call it a family vacation.
2006-09-06 07:57:23 · answer #7 · answered by Kellybug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats tough since he doesn't get to spend as much time as he would like with the kids. maybe you and the hubby could take a little weekend trip alone for the honeymoon and for the rest of the week go on a family vacation.
or
maybe you could go on a cruise, they have kids centers and stuff to occupy the kids if you guys want some alone time.
2006-09-06 08:56:56 · answer #8 · answered by TN girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the Kids at Home!!! This should be a relaxing time spent with your husband, not the kiddies!!!! Take a separate vacation later on with the kids, the honeymoon is for bride and groom only!!!!!
2006-09-06 08:11:01 · answer #9 · answered by **hope/faith**1744 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it! We had to wait a couple of years to take our honeymoon and had a one year old when we finally did get to go. I wanted to take her with us so badly because I had never left her and we were going to be gone a whole week. They made me leave her at home and I have never regretted it. We had an awesome time together and got to spend the entire week spoiling each other and getting to know each other again. It was wonderful and I can't wait till we get the chance to do it again.
2006-09-06 07:54:32 · answer #10 · answered by MommaOne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋