2006-09-06 07:31:26 · 30 answers · asked by naughty5477 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hell yeah. Wait until you are at least 30.
2006-09-06 07:33:22 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That depends on several things. Are you happily married? Have you had some time for the two of you? Have you both finished your education? Do you have jobs? Your own home? Do you pay all your bills without help? Do you have family health insurance? Can you financially afford time off from your job when the baby is born? Have the two of you agreed that you're ready for the responsibility of parenthood? Are both of you totally committed to each other, your marriage, and any children you may have? Are the two of you of the same faith? If all these issues are solved, then you might be mature enough for a baby, but you're still very young and might decide to wait a couple of years.
2006-09-06 08:10:56 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if you and the better half have been together for along time and both of you don't have any issues, such as money, religion,etc. Otherwise this stuff will take its toll on a young couple and then you will be dealing with who's weekend is it now. Kids are alot of responsiblity!!!
And they deserve the attention of both parents..Not one!!
Ask any child who's from a broken home...And please don't give attitude that this time will be diffrent, it won't!!!
And please I was married at 16, first child by 18...I look back and still stand behind what I'm telling you, you are never ready....You and your better half need to find yourselves first, let grass grow underneath your feet first.
At this point in time what can u offer your child????
Do u really know everything??? Are u secure enough???
Really think hard, there is lots of time to still have kids!!! Not only the cost factor at first, the bigger they get, the more $$ for there toys and everthing and if you are not prepared watch out, you never get out of the whole u make when u have kids young!!! At 20 I'm sure your not
wealthy.... If u have a choice WAIT,PLZ YOU WILL BE HAPPY U DID !!!!
2006-09-06 07:44:08 · answer #3 · answered by Nanniekc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Your body (male or female) is still undergoing changes up until you are 21 years old. Generally, your funds at 20 are lower than they would be after you've gotten some older and put some money back. It would be extremely difficult finaniciallly, psychologically and emotionally to do this. Is it doable? Yes. However, it is definitely optimum to wait until you are better prepared financially and emotionally and YES, psychologically. I say that you'd be better off waiting to start a family until you're in your mid-to-late twenties or early thirties. The later the better. Go to school, get your degrees and all your wild 'oats' sewn before you commit to a family. Once you have a family, that's it. That becomes your end-all be-all and the most important. :P
2006-09-06 08:12:25 · answer #4 · answered by moonprincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are pregnant now: It is not too young. You will have lots of help believe me, and you will fall in love with the little bundle of joy that you created!!!!
But if you are not pregnant yet, i would suggest analyzing your situation, do you own a home, are you in a stable relationship (married?), are you living paycheck to paycheck? Think of all those things because a baby can be very expensive. Think of all the diapers, wipees, accessories, clothes, doctor's visits, pediatrician visits, $$$ not to mention toys, stroller, car seats, ... It all costs money, and that's just the baby stage...then there's school age stuff. (don't forget about the thousands that it costs to just have the baby....unless you have good insurance...it is around 2500 for a vaginal birth, c-section is way more.)
It is very worth it if you are READY. Financially, emotionally, physically (your body, are you taking prenatal vitamins?, are you eating well and avoiding smoke, drugs, etc.?)
Good luck. My first boy was a surprise and i felt that i wasn't ready. BUT i was...and i became ready very fast. And now, i could not LIVE without him. :)
Take care!
2006-09-06 07:43:54 · answer #5 · answered by K Z G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just clicked on your profile and read some of the questions you have asked and I would say in your case you are way to young and I hope you are not planning on getting married to someone in the military. I feel by one of your questions that you would be marring just for the benefits and not for true love. Being a military wife or better yet spouse or in a military family will not be the bed of roses you might think it is. It is the toughest job in the military.
2006-09-06 07:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by Papa WILL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has a right to their own feelings on this, but I had my first two weeks shy of my 20th birthday. I don't regret having him, but I sure wish I had of waited. Even if you don't plan to go to college or university, there is still so much life to live at your age before you settle down.
I tell you, as a mother of two (and two step sons), give yourself a little time to life first. Live for you and only you. Decide what kind of life you want to lead. Figure out who you are, what your own hopes and dreams are, and try to fullfil some of them.
Once you have a baby, your life is not your own anymore. Your own hopes and dreams take a back burner to the baby. Everything takes a back burner to the baby. It's worth it, don't get me wrong, but don't be in such a rush.
2006-09-06 07:44:37 · answer #7 · answered by Allycat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no I think that is a great age thats the age I plan to start a family my husband is 5 yrs older than me and doesnt want to be too old when they are born 25 is the oldest he wants to be I think I could be a benifit being a younger parent cause you can watch them grow up and get to be grandparent and all most of my friends are like 23-24 and their parents are all on the verge if you know what I mean they wont have a chance to meet their grands! : (
2006-09-06 08:35:08 · answer #8 · answered by Lauren D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married when I was 19. Had my daughter when I was 20.
I wouldnt' take my daughter back for the world, but for selfish reasons I wish I had waited. You'll see your friends going to parties, and running off to college, and you'll wish you had waited.
But when I did it, nobody could have talked me out of it. So I'm not going to try to talk you out of it. My daughter is the best thing that ever happened to me. She's my whole world. And no matter what anyone tells you, you're never ready for a child. And as soon as you have one, your whole focus and direction in life will change.If you want a baby, you'll have one. And nobody can tell you any different.
Good luck!
2006-09-06 07:40:20 · answer #9 · answered by still waiting 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be ready, have an education, Money, a home of your own, a car, a good job. I family is nothing you and change your mind about its very serious and a step up. Think about the freedom your giving up and things you'll have to sacriface for your family. Give your self tiem to enjoy your life. Im 21 and I love being able to spoil my self and get what ever i want.... If you have a child your working for ur child and its well being. Enjoy your self and give this major decision lots of thought.
2006-09-06 07:38:36 · answer #10 · answered by slimwithgoodies 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont think there is any good age to start a family what i mean is there is never a right time to start a family.iam 26 and ive not had one yet depends on the people involved
2006-09-06 08:23:30 · answer #11 · answered by lovely girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋