..i want her to learn to be responsible...It's actually got me wondering if she really loves me or i'm just someone she can use to clear off her debts from before i even met her.
2006-09-06 07:22:47 · 15 answers · asked by Rajan S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
that's is not cool at all she is trying to give you a guilt trip about not helping her when she needs you, that's called manipulative and sneaky, user, lair, all sound like very attractive qualities to look for in a mate right, dont be a fool.
2006-09-06 07:29:43 · answer #1 · answered by bigmj75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she thinks that, then you have some serious issues in your relationship. I should ask, are you adding to her debts? Maybe that's why she thinks you should help? If you guys each have your own expenses and debts, then those should be worked out on your own. The fact she expects you to help her, or has even asked you to help her, is not right. You need to step back and look at the situation. Is it going to be more of the same in the future? In my opinion, yes, it likely will. As such, you really should move on to something that is healthy for you. The right woman for you will assume her own responsibilities. And you haven't actually met her yet? Back up and get out! This is completely unreasonable for her to ask/expect this of you, and you are going to be deeply hurt if you continue on this path.
2006-09-06 07:30:56 · answer #2 · answered by Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paying her debts doesn't have anything to do with loving her or not loving her. Don't allow yourself to be pressured into paying off her debts. It is probably a scam.
2006-09-06 07:28:08 · answer #3 · answered by rchbrk6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been with this girl?
Just because you won't help her pay off debts that SHE acquired does not mean you don't love her.
She sounds really selfish; you may want to reexamine things.
2006-09-06 07:25:29 · answer #4 · answered by nowimrelaxedicantbesure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To make sure, just plan this: For now on, the relationship and money do not mix. How would that go? Then, stick to your guns, and you'll see her real motives. If she wants a loan, that's different and ask her to sign a promisory note.
2006-09-06 07:29:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is playing some serious games. Whatever you do, don't pay off her debts. She'll probably vanish if you do.
2006-09-06 07:33:48 · answer #6 · answered by M K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is looking for a sugar daddy. Every one should be independent enough to handle their own situation. I don't blame you if you tell her to hit the road. You are not her money source.
2006-09-06 07:33:13 · answer #7 · answered by blonde0001-999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she is in love with your money and not you. Move on.
2006-09-06 07:24:16 · answer #8 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because she's a gold-digger only interested in ur money. save ur money & find someone else who loves u for u.
2006-09-06 07:28:56 · answer #9 · answered by lady sixx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help her to see your views
2006-09-06 07:30:08 · answer #10 · answered by kareen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋