I split up with my ex a few months back, he finished with me and I then found out he had been cheating behind my back too. Then he decided he'd changed his mind and wanted to come back - you can imagine my response - er no thanks. This was followed by hundreds, and I mean hundreds of texts and general harrassment.
I gave him his stuff back and now things have gone quiet but I've just found some signed CD's and a digital camera that belong to him, should I give them back?
Bear in mind this is a guy whose response to me having a miscarriage was to say I was making it up and after this when I refused to speak to him anymore he threatened to have damage done to my car and home, nice coming from someone who knew me for ten years!
Am I wrong to think Ebay is the way ahead for his stuff?
2006-09-06 07:09:34 · 65 answers · asked by Holly2007 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi just to add a little more details (for the benefit of No M mainly) we were friends for 10 years and dating for 2. During this time I found texts from another girl on his phone but I chose to work it through with him. I wasn't looking for any excuses to break up, I loved him and thought he was my soul mate. He knew all about the pregnancy and I chose not speak to him anymore after he sent me a text saying 'what was the babies name?'. Hope that clarifies!
2006-09-06 07:43:52 · update #1
ebay
2006-09-06 07:11:13 · answer #1 · answered by flirpityflirp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had a unique experience and it is hard to judge the things you say had happened. What I have learnt is that nobody is perfect and people do make mistakes. Not to have him back after a ten year relationship seems a little abrupt. It seems like it was the excuse you were looking for to finally get rid of him. It's like an informal marriage, and should have been treated as one - you should have tried to work through the issue together.
The miscarriage issue is also a tough one because you probably didn't tell him you were pregnant in the first place or include him in any test you may have had. But again I don’t know all the circumstances.
You were childish enough no to speak to him and he lashed out by threatening to damage your possessions, not you I might add.
Now you have found some of his stuff (in reality it is probably both of yours) and you want to sell it in spite, keep the money and some how repay a debt you believe he owes you. He has obviously let go, where you still haven't.
Best of luck in you decision.
2006-09-06 07:28:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think that he is going to use those items as an excuse to come back around and harass you then send them back to him and get it out of the way. But send it don't go over there and if he tries to contact you avoid him at all costs. But if it is that you think he wont come back around using the stuff as an excuse to torment you further then i say ebay it is. Another option would be to keep them in a box handy in the event that he comes around talking **** and you have to throw it behind him. Asses the situation you know the individual your dealing with and should know what is most likely to take place and which response to take to him. Sounds like he is a *** hole and your lucky to be rid of him. Good move on your part not taking him back! Your better off without him.
2006-09-06 07:24:15 · answer #3 · answered by candylishus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah keep it all or bin it or sell it, he caused you enough pain and cheated on you.. I am a male and would never cheat on anyone, they say if you cheat on someone then you obviously are not happy with them and it is time to call it a day. I have split up with my ex I did text her a lot and she said I was harrasing her but all I was doing was replying to her text and phone calls. Do not be soft and give in you suffered a miscarriage and you deserve someone a million times better ! I am single...... sorry just trying to make you smile
2006-09-06 07:18:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the less you have to do with this crazy man, the healthier it will be for you.
Good for you that you didn't cave when he first asked to come back after being such a rat! I've known of too many women who say they "feel sorry" for the guy, give him the "benefit of the doubt" and get dumped on again....and sometimes even a third time!
It's like that saying: fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.
He had his chance. He blew it, period.
I hope you get tons of money (and even more satisfaction) unloading his stuff.
2006-09-06 07:29:34 · answer #5 · answered by pat z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ebay the lot. Then spend the profits on something totally indulgent and pointless. Like shoes or a day at the spa or wine and chocolate. Have some fun with it.
2006-09-06 07:18:55 · answer #6 · answered by arwen4838 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way sounds like my ex !! Give it back that way he cannot take you to court over it like mine did . Just give it back and say goodbye . You will be gratefull that you did in the end . Good Luck
you will find someone so much better for you. Also have you contacted the local law enforcement in your area . He made verbal threats against your property where i am that can land you in jail. Good Luck to you
2006-09-06 07:15:07 · answer #7 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's rude or worse, it does not mean that you have to be too. On the contrary, try to do what you'd like him to do with you. (Or what you have wanted him to do with you in the past.)
Be genereous and close the whole story with a nice gesture and then forget him and never ever let this period of your life to come back.
2006-09-06 07:13:27 · answer #8 · answered by Butterfly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah possibly he needs you back. or perhaps he ought to be your pal. You 2 must have shared alot of issues at the same time. So throughout the time of those 7 months he may have missed you and idea shall we see what can ensue now. bypass out to lunch with him and word whats in his ideas. yet u might want to act completely threat free, dont placed ur expectations severe, because u may finally end up hurting urself back.
2016-11-25 00:44:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
eBay it, save the money and get a space on a big billboard telling how an asshole he is and he is very not worth it. put a small line on the bottom saying that the cost of the ad came from his stuffs that was sold on eBay. i hate assholes. they deserve the worst and need to learn how to respect and love.
2006-09-06 07:15:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that these are his possessions, not yours, is what should be considered. He may be a complete ***, and it sounds as if he was, but the fact remains, these are his things. Give them back. Not only will you sleep better, you will attract a more deserving partner, spiritually speaking of course. Peace.
2006-09-06 07:13:54 · answer #11 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋