we are always together and all the little things that never bothered me before are really getting on my nerves.... i am being a ***** to him... i dont want to be anymore but im goin nuts.... he says that we dont need space in our relationship... we need communication but i think that people need space to breath once in a while.. please help me find a way to explain this to him without him thinking i am trying to get rid of him...
2006-09-06 06:58:56 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just show him your nickname on Q&A and if he is Clarence he will swell with pride and probably be more willing to give you your much needed breathing space. You need to reassure him that you want to be with him but not all the effing time!
Best of luck to you.
ps if he isn't Clarence show him something else of a similar magnitude that touches him.
2006-09-06 07:07:32 · answer #1 · answered by groovusy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am having to same exact problem, I live at my parents house and my boyfriend lives here with me and let me tell ya, it gets really stressful being around him 24/7 so we have made a deal where once a week we go our separate ways and hang out with other people for the whole day, and let me tell ya it makes a big difference in the relationship, a good one at that, when you do have your space. Sit down and talk with him and explain to him you need some alone time you cant always be cooped up with him you feel like a caged animal and your slowly suffurcating, be dramatic that seems to work for me, heh.. Just try to talk with him. YOu really need some space.moh another thing if he cant respect the fact that you need space then he cant respect you
2006-09-06 14:04:25 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what I did. I told my husband (who I loved more than anything, by the way) "You're making me crazy!! I can't breathe!" He looked stunned for a moment, then said "honey you're absolutely right." And we could be in the same room doing different things and not even speaking, but it was ok. We both went different places and had some apart time, and we were so happy to be reuinted. If you loved him, just talk to him and tell him you don't want to drive him away but if you don't get a little space now and then you'll go nuts and drive a stake thru his heart!
2006-09-06 14:04:02 · answer #3 · answered by blondee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should get rid of him. He seems awfully "needy" ya know clingy. If so, he's most likely not going to change, because he's obviously insecure. People in relationships need a break every once in awhile. People that need to be "joined at the hip" have issues. I'd sufficate in a relationship like that. That's most likely why you're having issues. Good luck !
2006-09-06 14:02:33 · answer #4 · answered by jim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being together every single day is never good for a relationship. It's important to have separate lives and maintain your independence. Start making plans for lunch, dinner, or movies or other activities with your friends. He needs to realize that you have to be apart sometimes or else you will resent him, which is apparently starting to happen anyway with you being annoyed by him. Seeing him only a couple days a week should fix that right up. Good luck.
2006-09-06 14:10:27 · answer #5 · answered by Hpnotiq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through this with my boyrfriend as well. You need to tell him how much you love him but how space is good for a relationship... "absence makes the heart grow fonder." If he flips out (and he might) tell him you NEED space in order to be all you can be for the relationship. If he is still to clingy, you need to let him know that he needs to stop crowding you and get some friends to occupy his time.
2006-09-06 14:05:00 · answer #6 · answered by raingurl000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't need to say anything more than "we need our space to be individuals". He should know deep down if he doesn't feel the need for it or want to give it to you because you need it that is unhealthy. If he loves and respects you he will give you your space. Just assure him that you do still love him and you will miss him and enjoy the time you are together even more once you get some time you yourself.
2006-09-06 14:01:57 · answer #7 · answered by JenaMarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But you are thinking about getting rid of him, aren't you? You don't want to seem like a bad person but what you really want is your freedom. If you were truly happy with this guy instead of trying to make a broken relationship work you would see that you two are not a good fit.
2006-09-06 14:01:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
eveyone needs a little time away from each other if only a few hours just to go out with the girls or a little quite time appart that doesnt mean you dont love them or want to be away from them its only finding time for yourself. sometimes a relationship can grow stronger when you are appart more it makes you miss them and glad to see them when you are togather rather finding things that bother you when you,re togather all the time
2006-09-06 14:05:42 · answer #9 · answered by fancey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you both should find hobbies or something you each can do a few times a month, apart from eachother. for instance, you can go with a girlfriend to a movie or shopping and he can do something he likes to do, that way a little separation will make each of you want eachother more.
2006-09-06 14:02:37 · answer #10 · answered by SAChicky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋