Help! Just got engaged?

Question

I don't even know where to start. Any ideas, like how to organize all this crap, what to do first, web sites?
I'm at a loss here.
Thanks for your help!!!!!!

Answer 1

There are a few really great websites you can visit that will give you a jump start at the planning. www.theknot.com and
www.weddingsolutions.com But the first thing I would recommend would be to take a deep breath and relax. Planning your wedding should be fun, not tramatizing:) These sites will give you checklists to follow so that you don't get lost. If you want to Wedding Solutions puts out a wonderful wedding planner that you can purchase for like $21.95. I would also recommend that you delegate as many of the resonsibilities to trusted loved ones as possible. Mainly mom, and sisters, if you have some. Best Friends are useful too. Don't do everything by yourself and make sure you give yourself plenty of time to plan and pay for everything. Weddings are more expensive than you may think. And no matter how much you plan something is bound to go wrong, so budget time in for error and all will be well. Smile :) This will be fun trust me! Get a few girlfriends together and start brainstorming.
Colors:
Dresses/ Styles:
Potential Reception Sites:
Decoration:
Flower Favorites:
Limos:
Cakes:
DJ vs. Band
Photographer--No matter what someone tells you, go with a professional, it may be expensive but your photos are all you will have once the wedding is over and you'll want some good ones.!! (That has to be my most important peice of advice)

The websites I directed you to will have pics of flowers and links to helpful sites.
Good Luck:)

Answer 2

Pick potential dates. Decide on a loose budget.

Then decide on where you are having the reception and decide on your date based on when its available. . Decide on a number (and stick to it) to invite, which will determine what you can afford to serve and things like open bar or beer wine and mixers.

Then make a list with two columns. One is MOST important, the other is COMPROMISE.

Then put down all the things you need. Dress, number of bridal party, music, photographer, flowers, favors, place for ceremony, invitations, cake, everything you can think of. Then working with your future husband, decide what is most important to you and where you will spend your money, and what can be compromised.

Get a good wedding planner from the bookstore, or Penney's registry will give you a great one when you register. Use it to keep track of everything.

Start planning a year in advance (many popular places book at least a year in advance). Don't be afraid to change your mind as you have to.

Be prepared for the unexpected, put some money aside for the things you won't think about, shoes, stockings, wedding lingere, gifts for the wedding party, tips for the help, all those things add up.

Set the tone with your parents right off the bat. If your parents are paying for everything and your mother has been dreaming of this day all of your life, then you are going to have a struggle if you don't have the same dreams. DO NOT COMPROMISE ON THE IMPORTANT THINGS YOU WANT, but don't sweat the little stuff.

Your wedding lasts about 30 seconds and then its on to the hard stuff, a marriage. Do what you want, and enjoy yourselves.

Congrats!

Answer 3

First, find a ceremony and reception location. Once you have identified both, then find a date that works for each. Then take care of the big stuff, like finding a photographer, DJ, choosing your wedding party, etc. Start shopping for your dress about a year beforehand. Everything else will start to fall in place and people will tell you what they need from you. It seems incredibly overwhelming at first, but you'll figure out what you need to do. Don't be afraid to ask for help! Good luck.

Answer 4

I was married in June of this year, I was so excited when I first got engaged but i was also really scared because I had no idea where to even begin. So my husband and I went out to a bookstore and bought a wedding planner book (we couldn't have planned our wedding without it) and I also used www.weddingchannel.com and www.theknot.com But start with talking with your parents and your in-laws about who is paying for what and talk with your fiance about what your budget is. Then you need to decide how many people (attendants) you want in the wedding. Then decide what your colors are going to be, and whether you want an indoor or an outdoor wedding, and you need to start booking things. When are you getting married? You need to pick a date. You should give yourself at least a year to plan, large vendors tell you to book a year in advance, like DJ (or bands), Caterers, Photographers, Videographers, wedding directors and so forth. Good luck but have fun planning your wedding. Don't get too stressed out because then it is not fun!!!

Answer 5

Buy and read the book: Miss Manners on Weddings. You may even be able to get a discounted secondhand copy from powells.com or half.com or something. Hands down, it is the absolute best thing you can read before starting to plan a wedding. Written by an actual etiquette authority, as opposed to all the bad advice (garbage) that's out there these days.

Answer 6

I am in the exact same boat as you and asked the exact same question. My friends and family have been so much help thou. I havent even been engaged for a month and I have already been in a wedding dress. My friends have planned an engagement party and for us I wanted a destination wedding so we have booked the trip and started telling people how much it is if they want to go. You dont have to jump right in like I did. It depends on when you want to get married. If you want to do it sooner then later. If you want something next summer lets say I would start booking things now. Most of my town is already booked.

Answer 7

Definitely theknot.com. You can get very organized here. You can create a website, online guest list, and budget calculator. I got engaged June 7th and am getting married June 7th, 2007 in Hawaii! I am so excited. Congats and good luck!

Answer 8

Hey! I'm recently engaged also (June 14). My wedding is June 2, 2007. I live on www.weddingchannel.com, www.theknot.com, www.usbrides.com, and www.weddingsolutions.com Good luck and happy planning!

Answer 9

This is one of those times to bond with your mom (or future mother-in-law) and ask them for help in planning; traditionally, this is their part to help with.

Answer 10

first get the church or venue where you are getting married, and then get the hall for the reception, adn let them help you get teh other things, they may be able to get you discounts