My son is 3. He very well behaved (this coming from outsiders, not just me). Recently, he just got a new teacher in his daycare/preschool class. She is very timid and all of the kids have had behavior problems since she has arrived. Example: when my son won't do what she says, she says "I ask him to but he says no". Now I am having to sign several behavior reports. I discipline my son for his actions, but I have a meeting with the daycare to let them know that they need to do something about his teacher. They can't expect kids to behave if the adult isn't going to make them. My question is: how do I get this across without making it sound like I am making excuses for my son. I am still disciplining him for the things that he does, but they need to step it up a notch to get him and the other kids back in control. Please do not tell me my son is just bad, because he isn't, and if you insult my 3 year old boy, I will report you.
2006-09-06 06:22:06 · 9 answers · asked by mcnees79 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I am sorry for those who take offense to me saying not to insult my son. I don't mean it as an attitude, I have had questions posted before about one of my kids and as you all know there are sickos and jerks on this site and some of them have said some mean things. I will not edit that part just because someone took offense. I just want people to know that I won't tolerate sickos or jerks towards my kids. Also, I should mention, I have spoken with the teacher several times, she is very nice and I have no problems with her personally. She is a sweetheart.
2006-09-06 06:35:15 · update #1
I would offer the teacher a book about toddler behavior first of all (like Supernanny's or Dr. Sears books) and explain to her that children absolutely need limits and guidance. They will run all over you if you don't provide that. Then I would maybe say to her "when you need to have the children do something perhaps you need to phrase it like "we need to do this now" instead of "will you do this now?" With most children using different speech patters can make a huge difference in whether they do what you ask them to. It's not fair to you to have to sign bad behavior reports when you know your son is well behaved normally so if trying to help the teacher doesn't help, I would refuse to sign the reports and talk to her superior about why. Hope that helps.
2006-09-06 08:56:39 · answer #1 · answered by hawaiijos 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you said other kids are having problems to with this teacher. maybe talk to some parents and storm into the principal office and plead your case maybe if more people complain something will be done. it stinks you have to go threw this b/c for me education is so important and it starts now.dont want to give him the wrong impression of teachers and learning. i would think if you got somemore complaints someone has to listen. you sound like a good mom so be persistant and dont give up. fight for your childs education. we need another einstein . i have the first women president in my clutches.lol wish your son the best
2006-09-06 06:51:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your frustration, ask some of the other parents if they are having the same issues, if so then you can all go to the daycare.
You could also sit in on the class or watch it from outside to see what he is doing.
2006-09-06 09:28:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't seem as though this new teacher has a lot of experience. if she is timid or shy, it may take her a bit more time to adjust. he is only 3 and still learning and he only has 3 years experience in life so far. i think the best person to talk to would be your childs new teacher, give her some clues on the methods you may use at home and perhaps she can apply them. they live what they learn
2006-09-06 06:31:22 · answer #4 · answered by leolady0765 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was going to offer advice, and none of it was going to be negative toward your son, but then I read this part..."Please do not tell me my son is just bad, because he isn't, and if you insult my 3 year old boy, I will report you.". Are you serious????
Sorry, but if you want some real advice and answers, maybe you should edit your post. Because most people won't be inclined to help someone with an attitude.
Good luck to you!
2006-09-06 06:27:23 · answer #5 · answered by Girl named Sue 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
ask that some teacher aid sit in the class room to observe the class.... also ask ur son whats going on true we know our kids so u should sit in class without the kid knowing u r there u will see both sides of the story
2006-09-06 06:26:39 · answer #6 · answered by 1plum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that the teacher needs to stop ASKING the kids to do stuff. That gives them the option to say "NO" to her. The teacher needs to start TELLING the kids what to do. Frankly, I'd talk to the TEACHER first and not to her superior. By going above her head instead of talking to her first, you may create friction.
2006-09-06 06:30:42 · answer #7 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
look i'm neither for or against spanking fairly i think of this is truthfully as much as the be certain. nonetheless subsequently it ought to no longer be precisely the main suitable punishment on your son, as he's already showing warning signs of aggression, at this sort of youthful age. assembly violence with violence (as quickly as returned no longer judging, this might additionally be taken as anger/aggression/yelling) is probable no longer the terrific thank you to coach your son he's doing the incorrect undertaking. possibly confer together with his college councillor or a newborn psychologist to be certain in the event that they might help you hit upon a punishment that suits this actual newborn, like outing, having specific priveleges or commonplace issues taken away for a sequence time or some thing. and dont forget approximately to advantages sturdy habit besides as punishing undesirable habit, to make create a stark distinction between the two.
2016-10-14 09:31:14 · answer #8 · answered by canevazzi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if all the parents say something then they will know that it is not just you defending your boy
2006-09-06 06:35:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋