Okay so this cute guy has been really interested lately. And he wants to date. But here's the down side. He has three kids by three different females. (Never been married) I don't mind the kids but it's alot for him to be 26. Also we get along great and we work together. But downside, He has stood me up four different times already and we've only been talking for about three an a half months. Help please I'm so confused.
2006-09-06 06:16:50 · 57 answers · asked by SweetClue 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Walk Away
2006-09-06 06:18:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I have been in your shoes. what if you want kids on day that makes more than just his four...if you dont want kids then you can just love his like your own even tho they are not. the standin up part cant not be help most men do that at some point in time. express your self to him maybe he can give u a reason y it happened. yes confusion would be the best way to put it from your purspective but if step back for a minute look at the situation from a different angle you will find your answer there. If you take care of your self and your happy anything that he does should not affect you if it does tell him the truth and maybe as a couple things can be worked out!!! Best of luck....if u wanted to know what happend to me i ended it with him because he used his children to hold me in the relationship that isnt a good feeling!!!
2006-09-06 06:36:45 · answer #2 · answered by Shocked 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK I would suggest that you never date anyone at your workplace b/c if it goes sour do you really want to have to see this person around the office....and what if they tell others your business?
Second 26 years old with three different baby mommas...not a good sign. I would think that he is a bit troubled, why have his past relationships not worked out? Plus three kids at 26? after he finishes paying child support he will be lucky if he can treat you to McDonald's...that's if he doesn't stand you up AGAIN. Do you really want this for yourself? I think not.
But I think you already know he will not be good for you, please don't give in b/c you think he's "cute" ......b/c cute doesn't make a relationship last. YOU DESERVE MORE THAN HE CAN GIVE YOU ;-) Good luck sweetie
2006-09-06 07:42:22 · answer #3 · answered by Miss J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl!! what are u thinking. three kids, three different mothers, and he stood u up four times. Dont be number five!!! You need to be the bigger person and look the other way the next time u see him. I am sure there will be others that can treat u with better respect, and not have so much baby momma drama!
2006-09-06 06:20:54 · answer #4 · answered by deshay187 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of guys in the world, so don't think that if you feel connected with this that he is the only guy for you. Plus he has already stood you up many times, and the three other women don't exactly work in his favor. Anyways, as always the decision is up to you in the end. Good Luck!
2006-09-06 06:26:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont be blinded by physical appearance. Him having 3 children with different woman at his age is a clear indication that he is a player... would you want that to happen to you? Be pregnant and watch him walk away?
Let your mind work over heart in this case. If he stood you up 4 different times in 3 1/2 months there could be something worst than than if you let it continue.... move on... there will be a better guy for you.
2006-09-06 06:21:13 · answer #6 · answered by spam 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What is there to be confused about? He is an irresponsible PLAYER! 3 kids by three different women? Bloody hell! That is insane, especially at the age of 26! Not to mention he has stood you up so many times! Unless you want to be Baby Momma #4, I would forget about him.
2006-09-06 06:19:46 · answer #7 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he was really interested in YOU he would NEVER stand you up unless he was hospitalized or dead! (these are the only two excuses you should deem appropriate for anyone!!) He has a great lack of respect for woman (or so it appears from what you've written) You deserve better, there is no confusion....he's "acting" all interested so he can put another notch on his belt! It's really is that simple. Don't let your emotions steer you wrong here! I think you know that if you took how you "feel" about him out of the picture, you'd see that he's playing you. Best wishes...I know it's not easy!
2006-09-06 06:22:57 · answer #8 · answered by Joeygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all let him know how you feel about him and what he's done to you as far as the not showing up thing. Then if he really is intrested in you like it sounds he should go out of his way to get babysitters for the kids so he can see you. If not you should take the other answerers advice and move on. Be his friend but move on find a man who's not so "tied down".
2006-09-06 06:22:35 · answer #9 · answered by dave_83501 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, run as fast as you can..the guy is a commitment phobe...never been married with 3 kids at 26? Another problem is that you work together. That usually never works along with dating. You are around each other too much and tend to have jealousy attacks if the other one talks to someone that you deem an inappropriate way. (been there done that)
2006-09-06 06:21:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is a good thing you are looking at all his baggage and behavior before you jump in. It appears he has a problem sustaining relationships and jumping into some serious ones (children) without much thought. He may be a good friend, or he maybe doesn't last at them either. Take your time. Continue to be friends as long as it seems healthy. Put the other stuff on a back burner, you need to see what this guy is about and how he is over time before you risk more
2006-09-06 06:21:00 · answer #11 · answered by Julia 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋