my daughter died in 1992, she was stillborn and she was cremated in headington cemetry, i would like to know where her gravestone is as ive never grieved properly or visited. i hope this is enough info. her full name was naomi jayne deavins, it would be a big help if you can help me out.
thank you
2006-09-06 05:59:24 · 21 answers · asked by karen mills 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Call the caretaker for the cemetary. They should have a map of all the plots and should be able to help you find where the gravestone is located.
2006-09-06 06:00:46 · answer #1 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you I really do I lost a Son who was stillborn in 1996, I think the best thing for you to do is to go to the reception and just ask,
If you can't remember the time as it was so traumatising, ask your family about the time explain to them that it's time for you to grieve.
I know it's hard I live 100 miles away from where Dylan (my son) was cremated and I only get to go there once a year on the anniversary of his death. I only have two lines in a book of remembrance but I don't let that bother me,
You could do what I have done and put aside a small area of your garden for remembering Naomi, I have a stone with a lovely verse of it says
Baby
A Tiny flower lent not given
To bud on earth and bloom in heaven
I bought this at a garden centre and planted roses around it as they grow more and more each year I think for my baby.
I am only trying to help you here so don't be offended but you have to try to let go and think as we all do that your child was much to good for this cruel world of wars and famine, I say to my two other children that god needed a special angel and he chose Dylan. I still cry for Dylan 10 years later but I sometimes think I cry out of self pity because if he were meant to be here he would be.
Hope you find what you are looking for, keep smiling
:-) Sarena
2006-09-06 13:43:40 · answer #2 · answered by pink_sarena 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Generally the historical societies in your area will have the cemetery records. I know 1992 does not seem that long ago, but it's worth a try. I'm so sorry about your daughter. I wish you all the best and I do hope that your find her grave so that you can grieve properly. Good Luck Hon.
2006-09-06 13:06:49 · answer #3 · answered by Yvonne D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi If your daughter was cremated, the chances are her ashes
are on the Garden of Rememberance, unless she was intered and a gravestone erected. Either way the records of the Church
will most certainly have your daughters remains accounted for..
Good luck and God Bless ...
2006-09-06 13:08:15 · answer #4 · answered by landgirl60 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she was laid to rest in a cemetary the cemetary would have a record of which plot she was buried When my grandma died in 1987 he wish was to be cremated and buried with my grandfathers ashes, he died in the 50s so we went to Jarrow Cemetary (Newcastle England) and they showed the exact plot where his ashes were and even marked it for us and cut some of the turf for us to scatter our grandmas ashes.
I hope this helps and helps you with your grieving.
2006-09-06 13:04:22 · answer #5 · answered by bellybuttonflasher 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the town office and ask them at the Cemetary Dept. for the location of the gravesite. They will have all burials listed on a map, and they will even meet with you at the cemetary to show you exactly where your daughter is laid to rest.
Sorry for your loss.
2006-09-06 13:03:24 · answer #6 · answered by John M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My uncle died in 1987 I was VERY close to him and it took me a bit to find him since I didn't know the name of the cemetary, but finally I found it and went to their website and plugged in his name and it said he was there and they had a map as well. It took a bit to find it but I found it. I tried to find the cemetery on the internet but without knowing what city or state you live in it's difficult. I'd try looking up their website. It worked for me!
2006-09-06 14:01:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go to the cemetery they keep records of all cremations and burials. All you have to do is give them date and name they will show you where she is buried. We did same thing when looking for my husbandds fathers grave, they are very helpful. Good Luck
2006-09-06 13:11:03 · answer #8 · answered by di 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is always a list or map of who and where people are in cemetarys, so you could ask your docotr which cemetary if u do not know, and then I'm sure the person in charge can help you find her by looking through the records.
2006-09-06 13:06:56 · answer #9 · answered by Kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the cemetary and ask the caretaker. They usually know the general direction of where to point you. The caretaker here knows where every child is buried in his cemetary. He says that it's tragic they had to die so young and he has a special place in his heart for them. So he remembers their names.
2006-09-06 13:03:35 · answer #10 · answered by jenpeden 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋