2006-09-06 05:54:47 · 7 answers · asked by Shadow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I wish I had some to give, I dont though. I just wanted you to know how proud I am that you are al least trying to find a way to help your mother. Try looking for a drug counselor in your area, almost all places have one. Talk to them about ways to handle and speak to your mom. I wish you all the happiness in the world and don't give up I know you will find it. You are in my prayers.
2006-09-06 06:03:55 · answer #1 · answered by Sonya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming that you recognize that she has a problem and she denies that there is anything wrong. There are three C's to the situation:
You didn't Cause it,
You can't Cure it and
You can't Control it.
I admire that you have recognized this is an issue. I didn't check your profile and age or don't know if you're living with her or not. If you are and you're old enough to leave, I would suggest it. I know it's tough. Another thing you have to realize is that SHE must hit her rock bottom before she gets help and there is nothing you can do or say that will aid her into turning around before she hits rock bottom. She might even say she hates you or something similar to tear you down. Just know that she is not your mom at this point in time. She is a shell of what she used to be. She needs help, DO NOT ENABLE her. You tell her you love her and you will help her help herself and that you will not be an enabler, you will not pay her bills, you will not drive her anywhere but to a doctor or psychiatrist or treatment. Good luck, been there, done that, REFUSED to buy the t-shirt!
2006-09-06 13:04:21 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Proud of you because you are trying to better your mom. Unfortunately if your mom don't see her problem is very little that you as her son can do or anyone else by that means. I have been begging my sister to quit smoking and drinking for years to no avail. She is now 50 and still with the same habit as 20 years ago. People like her need a rude awakening but it hasn't happen and I don't wish it upon her either.
2006-09-06 12:58:47 · answer #3 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. There isn't anything that you can do to help her. Like I'm sure you've heard, "She needs to help herself." It's true. My mother-in-law has a BAD drug problem and luckly we live across country. She has lost her children, which we have one of, lost everything including her freedom (jail). She says that she will clean up now but we'll believe it when we see it.
If you live with her, I would leave and leave with someone else. Let her know that you will not be dragged down by her behavior. She will be pissed, but you have to stand strong.
If you don't live with her, DO NOT GIVE HER MONEY FOR ANYTHING. We made that mistake. Rent, utilities, Christmans presents, food, NOTHING!
She has to do it on her own.
2006-09-06 13:04:21 · answer #4 · answered by jdecorse25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try calling or writing Oprah she may be able to get you some help. I saw a special on Methaamphetamine users on there once and she seems to really care
2006-09-06 13:00:41 · answer #5 · answered by ewtaylor2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better call and get some help. Call a drug helpline, or seek some counseling.
2006-09-06 13:01:03 · answer #6 · answered by Pauly W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she won't share....is that the problem?
2006-09-06 13:15:01 · answer #7 · answered by nameseekr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋