Why are guys so heartless? This guy (who I thought was a good friend of mine, we've been friends for almost a yr) was always telling me to get rid of this loser I was stuck on forever and that I deserved so much better. We talked about everything, he would confide in me about his ex, and even when he stopped working with me, he made me swear we'd stay in touch. And we did. He made the effort too. People thought he cared for me alot, even as more than a friend. Then, one night, while hanging out, he makes a move on me, and we end up getting caught up and sleeping together. He knows that I have feelings for him bc he knows I'm not "that kind of girl" who just sleeps with anyone. And now things are basically the same, he hasn't shown me that he wants more, but I want more. How do I react to this? He says I deserve the best, and then he goes and does this to me? Are guys all the same deep down? I swear, he had me fooled.
2006-09-06 05:38:13 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The problem with my ex wasn't that as soon as we slept together he dipped, he just treated me like crap, I'd leave, he'd beg me to come back, and he'd do it all over again. So dont' insinuate that I use sex to try to make a relationship or that I sleep around.
2006-09-06 05:56:08 · update #1
I think if all he wanted was sex, he wouldn't have hung around and been friends with me for a year. He's cute, he could've gotten laid alot quicker by someone else.
2006-09-06 05:59:59 · update #2
OK, then tell me what has he done to you? Other then win your heart. Does he know you want more? So far all you have stated is that he knows you have feelings for him and he has feelings for you he is just better at holding them in. Try talking with him you have already stated nothing has changed so then you both still talk about everything. Tell him you want more. After that then you will have a real reason to react the way that you are. Unless the feeling is mutual.
2006-09-06 05:48:21 · answer #1 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, this sucks but clearly YOU are the problem, sweetheart. You are making yourself too accessible to men to railroad all over you. If you KNOW you are going to get caught up when you f*ck a guy, DON'T F*CK THE GUY. Make sure he commits to you BEFORE you have sex with him. Yes, he probably used you.
Now what you do is you DON'T CALL HIM. Delete his phone number from your cell. When he does call, answer the phone after like a week and a half of ignoring him, and tell him the sex was great but you're more interested in someone who can provide you with a commitment so the friendship is over.
Stop being so needy/clingy! Learn to get over men by yourself, don't fall for that trick ever again. Men always do that trick - being the shoulder to lean on while a girl cries over another guy - just to get laid.
From now on, make sure that a dude commits to you BEFORE you have sex with him if that's what you truly desire. SEx doesn't create the bond if it isn't already there.
Come on, girl!
2006-09-06 05:46:16 · answer #2 · answered by caribbeanbabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um... sorry sweetie, but that's what some men do. They down your boyfriend and agree with you about all the bad things. The they swoop in when you're vunerable and make their move. You just got learn with experience that everybody isn't always honest in this world. Even those that you may consider a friend.
2006-09-06 05:48:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one.
You might have started too fast. And his brain might still be trying to catch up.
Then again, he could just be slime. Depending on age, some boys can't handle these situations well.
For now, pull back a little and let him chase more. That'll help determine his true interest.
So he may or may not be able to deal with it, but hopefully it'll all work out.
2006-09-06 05:41:19 · answer #4 · answered by Know it all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont go jumping into sweeping conclusions ok. talk to him first and clear things up before anything else. i think you are way too upset today to think straight. take some time to think about the past events (ive read your other questions). then have an honest talk with him. if you'd rather write it down on email or a letter then do that. whatever works for you. good luck!
contact me at YM if you like
2006-09-06 06:10:28 · answer #5 · answered by theNthEreWasyOu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some times Sex is just sex, nothing more. did you talk to him about it and tell him what you want.
maybe he just wants to be buddies, sounds like a crappy thing to do, but you sound younger, this is a huge grown up expericence, it sucks and it might happen to you agian. I would on.
lots of men out there, not even be his freind, if not it could turn in to one of those freinds with bennifits, and that is a waste of time for all.
chalk it up as a bad situtation and move on
2006-09-06 06:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by bkbarile 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you should'nt have let the situation go that far.just about all men want the same thing sex.but not all of them!all men out here want to play a game of chase.i guess it makes them feel some top god or something.there are guys out here ,that the min. they find out you like them,they change.why i don't know.try to turn the situation around and let him chase you.when you act like you are not intrested he will come around.some guys out here like a woman to be their best friend.but the minute you let your guard down this is what happens i think they want to see how far they can take it.be a happy go lucky person and be his friendand maybe go off ,but don't let it happen like it did and watch him then.one more thing all guys are not like that.there are some good guys out there.
2006-09-06 05:55:51 · answer #7 · answered by rusty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 points
2006-09-06 05:40:06 · answer #8 · answered by (....^^^^^^.....^^^^...) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing that is hard about this is that he is ur friend. When u have someone as ur friend its hard to take it to another level. Weather u guys sleep together or not. When u try to make ur friend ur boyfriend its not going to happen because he is not meant to be ur boyfriend he is there to be ur friend.
2006-09-06 05:54:42 · answer #9 · answered by thickjuicey2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make yourself less accessible to him.
2006-09-06 05:40:43 · answer #10 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋