My wife stays home and puts the family first. She could have been very successful at her career and she chose us FIRST. I have been able to rise higher in MY career with her taking care of family stuff. We started out slow with only one income, but it has paid off BIG now. We sacrificed in the beginning because we knew FAMILY should come first - not stuff.
2006-09-06 05:33:04 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I am there for every single game, play, or event my children are in. I work 8 to 5 or 6 and come home to do things with my family.
I never go out without my wife and I have been nominated for sainthood if that was your next question.
To those of you whose husbands stay home - good! A PARENT should be home with the kids. It doesn't matter which one.
2006-09-06 06:18:25 · update #1
Family should come first no matter if both parents are working or just one parent is working. My wife and I were not able to have either of us at home because we both needed to work. If your wife enjoys doing what she is doing then bless her heart. All our kids are grown but when they were younger we made sure that we went and watched them play ball or ballet or whatever school project they were involved in. So both of you keep up the good work, love your kids and have a great life.
2006-09-06 12:08:03 · answer #1 · answered by morris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it's better for the family for the mom to stay home. If the mom is home she can take care of the kids, it makes the kids more well rounded to know mommy is always there. It takes stress off the parents of having to worry about how their kids are being treated at the day care. We know all about the horror stories of day cares these days. Also, having the woman be at home and the man work is the way it should be. Men are providers by nature and Women are nuturers by nature. I think if moms started putting their families first and staying home that our kids would turn out a lot better than they have. My mom stayed home and took care of my sister and I. We never got into drugs and we got good grades in school. If she hadn't of been home to crack the wip there would be a good chance it wouldn't of been that good. I am a stay at home mom and I love knowing that my kids always have me when they need me and also that I am always here for my husband, because he needs me just as much as my children.
2006-09-06 12:57:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree with you that family should come first but its different for everyone i guess. i had 2 children by the time i was 20 and divorced at 21. with no help or child support i HAD to get a job and work 40 plus hours a week. i missed out on alot of the kids earlier years and had to put them in daycare. im turning 29 soon and have been blessed now with a fiance who is like you and would like me to stay home. i work part time while the kids are in school and after the marriage, we are planning to have a baby. i will then be a stay at home mom permanently. i would much rather have the TIME with the family than material things! yes, its hard at times on one income but it can be done and everyone can still be happy in the family :)
2006-09-06 12:43:51 · answer #3 · answered by tulips♥77 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Interesting way to put that.
So what would you say to a situation like mine...where I, as a mother and pregnant, have to work full time - because my husband can't work. He is disabled. However he stays home and cares for our children. For anyone who thinks disability is a good enough income...lmfao! It wouldn't take care of 1 person in this day and age.
I care for my children when I'm home, I do what I have to do to continue taking care of my family.
You are lucky that your carreer took off and you are able to care for your family. But with you putting so much into your career, how has your family suffered from loosing the time you could have spent with them?
When someone asks something this silly, all I can wonder is - do they take circumstances into mind? Does anyone ever consider that there has to be a balance? It seems to me it always has to be one or the other - you either work...or you don't. So why can't someone do both?
I work with a woman who has two very young children, and I'm impressed because she has continued to work full time, while her husband works, her children are in day care..and she is able to take time out of work in the middle of the day to care for her children as well.
Someone please explain why it would be a bad thing for a mother to work even part time during the day, while her children are in school if they are of school age?
I mean, awesome if you are successfull and all that..but what if you aren't? What if you are both middle class folk, diploma or equivalent, working the best jobs you can get, and because you have a larger family - you have no choice but to both work? Does that make you a bad parent? I certainly don't think so.
I for one am very gratefull that my husband is home with our children, because I never would want my children to be raised by strangers. But it doesn't necessarily have to be the mother that stays at home, and it doesn't mean one parent is better than the other. What is better for your family is that they are cared for .... period.
2006-09-06 12:48:19 · answer #4 · answered by saintlyinnocents 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's all good. Just make sure no one in the home is a meth, coke, or crack head? Ok? Be blessed and be well.
Edited to add: I think Saintly just made you look quite the blithering idiot, there, young querent. Walk a mile in someone elses shoes and stop being so quick to judge. Pray. God should come first. Then family. Then others. Then stuff. Dig it? Okay, I'm out.
Be blessed.
2006-09-06 12:47:14 · answer #5 · answered by Goddess of Nuts PBUH 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why is just mom's, what about dads. I think who ever wants to stay home, should and who ever wants to go to work, it should not just be the wife who does it. I work as attorney, and my husband who is between careers stays home with our baby. It works out really well.
2006-09-06 12:38:22 · answer #6 · answered by Rose 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think working is good cause it sets a good example for the daughters. They need to know that women don't have to depend on a man's income and that they also can be hardworkers and good parents.
2006-09-06 12:44:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
stay at home mom. i am going to home school my children. i stay at home with them so my husband can work we have two little ones and i love being home with them. i don't think i could go to work. i would miss them to much.
2006-09-06 12:40:57 · answer #8 · answered by christina 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stay home until they are old enough for school. After that it's best for mom to go back to work.
2006-09-06 12:35:16 · answer #9 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Fantastic! I'm so glad that your family was able to do this.
I prefer the stay at home option too.
2006-09-06 12:38:10 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋