i have been living with my pakistani man for 2 months. he has been stressing me out. he wants me to work full time, care for our 3 kids, clean our large house everyday, do laundry, and cook twice an evening, once for the kids at 6:30pm then for him at 11:00 pm. i am overwelmed and tired. i can't sleep or rest. if i slack off by not moping one day or cleaning the bathroom he has so many excuses. i can't deal with it. Also he will curse at me and not allow my friend to come over, or for me to go out with them. also he don't talk to me and makes me like his slave. what's up with these guys. i think it is about them only. then after all i do, he is still finding things that i haven't done. what can i do to change this man and make him understand that i work full time, plus attend to him and my 3 kids, clean, and etc.. iam going crazy.. thanks.
2006-09-06 05:22:32 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetie, you need to grow more dignity for yourself. You are most likely, a lovely hardworking american women you shouldn't have gotten with this macho foreigner, I may understand that you love him but is he the father of your three children. You don't deserve to be this stressed out all the time. At least I would get it if you didn't work, he paid for everything and was a great Lover...but hell your working apporting to the home, defend yourself, let your voice and opinions be heard and if he doesn't like it ****, dump him!!! Hey girl, value yourself and you children, this is not a healthy relationship and it could be because of the cultural difference some couples don't want to realize that the root of all their issues is different backgrounds...God Bless and I hope everything works out for you...
2006-09-06 05:29:13 · answer #1 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Joeygirl is right - YOU ARE A SLAVE! This is not a loving relationship: you are under the influence of a control freak. Whether that's the accepted/expected form of relationship in his culture or not, it's not in yours and you don't have to put up with it. My advice is to leave him as soon as you can without endangering your children or yourself.
First step: walk to the mirror, look yourself in the face and say the following phrase: "I'm worth more than this"!!! Keep repeating it until you believe it then take charge of your life! Good luck and God bless!
2006-09-06 05:36:00 · answer #2 · answered by dragonwing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately for you, I think you didn't find a future good husband nor a good boyfriend. You found a very demanding father figure. I think it has nothing to do with where he is from but I why are you putting up with his S**t. Go to family members and get help. I would already be out of there. I do all that you do. I work full time take care of my son and boyfriend but I am appreciated, help, and understood.
2006-09-06 05:29:04 · answer #3 · answered by martica595500 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is the father of your 3 children?? Go back to him.
2006-09-06 06:26:08 · answer #4 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh...I think you really need to evaluate why you are with him. If he is so terrible...then why stay in that relationship? Do you want your children to grow up thinking that is a healthy, normal relationship? Cause if you don't get out, that's what they'll grow up thinking.
2006-09-06 05:27:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing you can do to change him.....leave him and you will feel so much better. Just take precautions....in-case he goes psycho when he learns that he has lost his SLAVE. that's how he sees you, unfortunately. LEAVE asap!!! this is not a loving relationship.
2006-09-06 05:26:41 · answer #6 · answered by Joeygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't change him! this is the only life he knows and this is what his culture find acceptable. if you can't reach him now you never will and it will only get worse. if you're not happy get out of the relationship!
2006-09-06 05:25:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
either leave him or knock the h ell out of him and set him straight
2006-09-06 05:27:11 · answer #8 · answered by firefightingexpert 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him... why r u allowing ur bf to control u, that's ur fault if u choose to stay
2006-09-06 05:25:02 · answer #9 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
check the answer on your yahoo messenger
2006-09-06 05:29:57 · answer #10 · answered by Life Coach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋