I can't seem to trust new people in my life because I'm afraid that they will repeat what other's have in the past and cheat on me.
2006-09-06 05:17:44 · 7 answers · asked by shorty tacos 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
healing is a long process to some, when you move to a new relationship, it doesn't mean that you have healed from the past relationship. that's making it difficult. change how you react because we shouldn't assume, you can ask the person when something is bothering you. remember it doesn't start with the other person, trust starts with you. how willing are you to open up. everything in love is a risk. we keep on hurting but we need to trust someone step by step in order to change the feeling. it's smart not to trust anyone right away but what if he's worth it and you can not trust again? i'm afraid but you have to let him go. yes don' trust too much because anyone can break it but it's such punishment to yourself if you don't trust enough. i hope things will work out for you. men these days!!! geeesshhhh :D
2006-09-06 05:39:55 · answer #1 · answered by поцелуй 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I have also had this problem, as do a lot of people so you aren't alone. The best advice I could give you is to not jump into anything right after being hurt. Sit down and think about what you NEED out of a relationship and go from there. Also, think about who cheated on you and what he was like, then steer clear of any guys that act like him. You cant always tell whats inside a book by reading the cover, but sometimes there are little hints that you may not have noticed.
Either way, you are right to not trust new people, they have to EARN it first. But you have to be willing to put yourself out there again to be hurt or have something great. No one will be able to tell you that but you will find someone who respects you enough and loves YOU more than sex.
2006-09-06 12:29:54 · answer #2 · answered by cheerbarbie729 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Action and reaction. Each new person is 'new' and not the person that hurt you in the past...just remember that. However, if youre attracted to someone with basic similar behaviors off the get go, you know that you may be on course to 'react' the same. Check yourself for patterns of reactions and try to change those early on in the relationships so you dont repeat yourself.
2006-09-06 12:24:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can relate....
An ex-girlfriend had cheated on me for a while before I found out about it. Her kids knew before I did, which added to the punch in the gut when I found out. I became a royal a$$hole with woman after that relationship, and I didn't realize it until a friend pointed it out to me.
It's hard for scars like that to heal. In fact, I still have those scars. It took me a long time to drop my guard enough to love someone back. You need to make a conscious effort to soften up, and give yourself some time to adjust.
2006-09-06 14:57:00 · answer #4 · answered by MojaveDan 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
how true is this! i am thinking of the same thing over the last few days! i can't trust people because i was hurt in the past...
2006-09-06 12:20:01 · answer #5 · answered by tttpsunshine 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have the same problem. You have to let the past go or else it will haunt you in everything you do.
2006-09-06 12:21:11 · answer #6 · answered by Lindsay 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
move on.......
2006-09-06 12:20:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋