She thought thats what she wanted ,but she is still a teenager. This is not what she wants for her future.
2006-09-06 04:52:05 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Its too late. I'm sorry. Call this number and tell them your problem...Toll-Free at: 1-800-Go-Guard.(Maybe they can help you)
http://www.1800goguard.com/parent/parent.html
2006-09-06 04:54:40 · answer #1 · answered by Questions&Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 17 when I joined and I had to have my parents permission just to sign up ... they signed paperwork just like I did with the recruiters ... !
Legally she's a minor and I think you can fight this one ... and if she hasn't left for basic and she still wants out whatever you do .. don't let her get on that plane .. talk to commanders, recruiters, anybody and everybody possible before she leaves ... !
Personally ... I think it's a great experience and I learned a lot from the military, but to join at this time with everything going on in the world ... she will be seeing some action for sure in the next 4 to 8 years ... yep 8 years ... how many years you sign up for active ... you do the same for non-active ... "ready reserve" ... they tried to send me to Iraq after being out of the military for over 3 1/2 years ... it's pretty scary ... I would have had to leave my 3 year old daughter behind while I "fight" in Iraq for over 2 years ... once you're out you don't think of the years down the road ... if she falls in love, has children, goes to college, has a career .. etc .. this will affect her whole life ... I don't think this is something to make a "life lesson" out of either like some of these answers ... this is her life ... if she can change her mind before she leaves for basic .. I say do it .. and do it now ... !
Good Luck with whatever happens ... !
2006-09-06 05:30:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
seems to me she did not FULLY think this through.She can fail the test if she has not taken it OR she can honor her oath she took and server her term.
I would ask her to Serve her term and honor the oath she took.
Coast Guard can be rewarding and gives you some nice benifits once you have served.She now understands her place and she is beginging to understand that in the service you MAY have to go to places you may not like.She should remember this ALWAYS , many of people have served their countries and they did not want to GO Fight BUT they answered the call and servered with HONOR.They fought and lost limbs and left behind some emotional scars they have to live with daily.Other paid the highest cost and gave their lives.
I tell you this so you can share this with your daughter , those people who served BEFORE her looked in the mirrior she nows look into and asked WTF did I do ? Is this a mistake ? And they answered the question with a big NO.Only she can come to terms with her choice.
I served 6 years and I have come to MOST of the issues I have seem while doing those 6 years.She needs ot do the Preverbal GUY CHECK and see if she wants to Honor her word or allow other emotions to take over her.
Either way she must live with her choice, BEFORE she makes it she should UNDERSTAND with a Dishonorable Dischagre you will CLOSE alot of DOORS that are open still and some employers will not employ her in the future.
2006-09-06 05:09:36 · answer #3 · answered by Glenn T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she hasn't finished basic training yet, she has the option to tell them that she has changed her mind and wishes to be let out. This happens a lot, and the military understands that people do change their mind, which is why the nat. guard units usually have a break in period of where the soldier comes to unit functions. Have her talk to her commander about her feelings, and worries, this is the best thing to do, there is nothing wrong with being scared about something like this ... I served for 15 years active duty, willingly, and I knew that at any moment I may be called to give my life for my country ... this is not something for everyone, and forcing someone to stay in when they are scared just makes for a bad soldier and makes the soldier miserable and ruins the experience. Like I said, just have her talk to her commander, and if she hasn't been assigned to a unit yet, have her talk to her recruiter ... because until she actually takes the oath of enlistment, she is not IN legally.
2006-09-06 05:02:17 · answer #4 · answered by Zenas Walter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't there a way she can get out of it since she is still a minor?
Did you sign something saying she could?
I am sure you could go to court, it is your daughters life. This isn't some social event.
Even the gov can't recruit you for duty unless you are 18. If her B-day is coming up you better act quick. Talk with a lawyer ASAP.
I mean today or tomorrow.
You can't get things accomplished in this life or death situation on yahoo.
2006-09-06 05:00:39 · answer #5 · answered by La Dee Da 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is" has she finished basic training"? If she hasn't, then she is not considered a soldier yet and if she doesn't go, she cannot be forced to. Even if she is in basic training and goes awol, she will not be arrested and sent back. If she has finished basic then hire a lawyer. Any contract can be gotten out of. She is still a minor. I was an MP with the army for 3.5 years.
2006-09-06 05:30:23 · answer #6 · answered by Milkman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The diploma requirement could be used to keep service to a minumum of 180 days - a high price to pay for a way out.
""The United States currently uses seventeen-year-olds in its armed forces, though not in combat situations. The United States military is based on voluntary recruitment, though minors must also must have parental permission to enlist (or permission of one's legal guardian in the absence of parents)... The United States military requires all soldiers to posess a highschool diploma or equivalent; this requirement may be waved for young soldiers for up to 180 days from the date of enlistment.""
2006-09-06 05:25:25 · answer #7 · answered by oohhbother 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont' join any military from any country. They just use you to fight wars so the rich and powerful can remain rich and powerful. Dont be a puppet! Do what ever you can to get her out of there, get a lawyer to help.
2006-09-06 05:01:03 · answer #8 · answered by sfumato1002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should have thought it thru a little longer sounds like she locked in now this should be a lesson not to make decisions too hastily or in a fit of rage guess now all anyone can do is PRAY FOR HER SAFETY, WHICH I WILL DO. GOOD LUCK
2006-09-06 05:01:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is nothing else wrong with her healthwise but her 'attitude' is 'defective' she may be dishonorable discharged. The military basically 'owns' your body but not your mind.
As a medic in the military I noticed those being discharged early in course were 'defective' in health, mind or behavior.
2006-09-06 04:56:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is she going to "give her life"? I do not get it. She should do the time she signed up for; if not, she'll regret it The benefits are too good to give up on.
2006-09-06 05:02:32 · answer #11 · answered by nflhandicapper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋