Why do woman are getting pregnant in such a old age?

Question

I am 26 and have 6 yr. In school I see all kind of older ladies with children of my age. In my opinion its disgusting and sad to be such an old mothers.

i MEAN THEY LOOK LIKE S***.

By the way, I was married when we decided to have a child. Also I havegraduated from university 2 years later with Bachelors. Later I changed My profession to the medical field cuz it was smth I was always interested in, I became a Nurse. So a child is not an obstacle to get education. The reason I making mistakes in building sentences is I wasn't born in U.S. and moved here only 6 years ago.

Majority of older mothers look like matrons, out of shape and obviously older, even those that are trying too hard to look young like wearing pink, fake **** etc.
It just very shocking how many older woman having such a young children and when your children become a teenagers and young adults they look like grandmothers.

Answer 1

I find your post insulting, judgmental, stereotyping and downright rude!

Do you live in a vacuum? It seems like you need to think outside the box. Your attitude isn't going to get you anywhere personally or professionally.

Women who have their children late include family doctors, obstetricians, gynecologists, lawyers. Some have spent many years in school and then working to pay off substantial student debts!

Now I'm not one of them, but I simply couldn't afford to have children any sooner than 35. I am 40 now and I am planning on having another child. I don't have to justify myself to you. I have my reasons why it is happening now.

That comment that you made criticizing other people's looks is very categorical. You are stereotyping and bashing older women. You think all women look like s*** who are 40? Or do you think once women hit 40 they might as well throw themselves in front of a bus? Just wait until YOU hit 40, baby! When it does happen maybe it will be your wakeup call!

I am happy with the way I look. I am not frumpy, wearing tons of makeup, or overweight. Looks are genetic and they also have a lot to do with how a person takes care of him/herself. As long as you don't smoke, eat healthy and exercise you CAN look good for decades to come. I plan on being one of those women.

Answer 2

My mom was 20 when I was born.

I gave birth to my first child when I was 28 years old. I was 30 when my middle daughter was born and 32 when my youngest was born. I'm now 35 (almost 36) and my kids are 7.5 years, 5.5 years and 3.5 years.

I chose to wait until after I had been through college to get an education. (From the looks of your question, who helps your child with his/her homework? Did you take English in school?) And I chose to wait until I had been in a committed relationship for a while and been married for a while. I chose to wait until I was prepared for the physical changes of pregnancy and the pain of birth. I chose to wait until I was mature enough to handle putting someone elses needs first all the time.

I guarantee you that if I had become a mother at 20 like my mom did and like you did, *I* would not have been ready and *I* would not have been able to be the mother I am today.

Some people assume that because a woman is a "young mother" that she's not a good mother. Being young doesn't make a woman a bad mother. It also doesn't make her a better mother. HOW she mothers has more to do with it than her age.

And being an older mother isn't "disgusting and sad" either. How can it EVER be "disgusting and sad" when the child is wanted and loved? Please explain why you think it's "disgusting and sad" because I'd certainly like to understand how you developed such a negative opinion about older mothers.

EDITED TO ADD:
One big advantage to getting an education BEFORE you start having kids is that you don't have to leave them to go to school.....you can actually be with them 24/7 while they are young. Also, I think older parents are most likely to be financially stable enough for one parent to stay at home to raise the kids instead of needing to pay for daycare so both can work.

AND ALSO....
What in the world does how a woman LOOKS or DRESSES have to do with how good of a mother she can be to her child? Life is not a fashion show for goodness sakes! And I bet if you ask all those children, they'll tell you that THEY think their moms are beautiful!

Answer 3

I am 22 years old and I have two children. A soon to be 3 year old and a 8 month old. I also have friends who are older mothers! They are fun to be around, and not to mention you can learn something from them.

It is their body and they should be able to do whatever they like with it. A baby is always a blessing, even IF the baby is given to an older person. You are never too old for a baby. Babies are wonderful and they make you feel younger, everyone enjoys babies.

I think it is sad you would call them disgusting. Obviously LOOKS matter a whole lot to you, not personality.

Answer 4

You are a very ignorant woman, I had my first child at 21 and honestly I wish I would have waited to finish college and was finanicialy secure. I give much props to older woman who have children because they are more likley to have stability in their lives for there children where most young people dont. If I could do it all over again I'd of waited until I was in my 30"s, and as far as it being disgusting, I think its disgusting when youg people have babies and have no stabiltiy or education to raise that child properly. Grow up and quit judging unless you are GOD and Im sure you arent. By the way I had my youngest son at 27 Im now 33 and as far as looking like **** I have not one strech mark, and Im slimmer and curvier now then when I was 21 years old so you obviously dont know crap

Answer 5

In my opinion, people like you are disgusting and sad. You are narrow minded and from what you wrote, a very uncaring person. Is it really any of your business how old the other mother's are? Did you ever stop to think maybe they had problems having children and tried for many years to have a child? You are being rude and your insecurities are showing. Oh, and you mentioned you went into the health field as a profession, do the rest of us a favor and keep your mouth shut then... I would hate for anyone to think you were typical of health care workers.

Answer 6

What do you consider too old to have a child? Did you get knocked up at 20? Most people who are 20 are still in college and decide to have children after they graduate and work for a few years. How is that disgusting or sad?

Answer 7

some people feel that a career is important to have and have certain goals they want to accomplish before havign a child. I know my mother broght me up to be stonger willed than she was and siad go to college get a career, make sure youhave money for a child. Don't live pay check to paycheck and make sure to have money to create oppertunites for any chilredn that I wished to have... Also when you are in the working world sometiems you don't find a relationship till much later in life cause you are out chasing your dreams!

So here I am 28 and don't plan on having any kids anytime soon. My mom was 22 when she had me and she said she felt like she missed out on a lot.

however each to their own, you are probably ready for akid and can give it the life it deserves.

Answer 8

many people have different views about it. The older ladies have had time to enjoy their youth without the responsibility of children, they could go out when they want, they could establish their jobs or careers. The young parent on the other hand has less freedom in their youth, but will still be young when their children are somewhat grown up. It all depends on what you want from life.

Answer 9

so you ahjd your daughter at 20. People are waiting to have kids till they are financially and emotionally more stable!!! Who cares how they look your not married to them! Most older moms are more prepared and have more patience than younger moms. And yes for most school is a huge obstacle with children unless you have help which many do not! I had my first at 25 and 2nd at 26 so I imagine you say thats too old? GOOD THING ITS NOT UP TO YOU!!!!!

Answer 10

Due to most do not want to settle down with a family at such a young age. Most now want money in the bank, nice houses, and so on. This maybe well and good, but mom and dad are now older, and may miss out on the grandchilderen. We have become a state of how much can I give to me before we bring in someone else to take my money and things.

We all have the right to live our lives the way we want, I too have a friends who are older then me, and have kids younger then my youngest grandchild. I do not know why, but maybe as we get older we have these dreams that our "perfect" mate will come along then mid 30's hit and we pannic, and realize that we need to do something fast, and settle for what comes along.

I was 19, too young to have a child, and I had 3 more after that, but now that all I have left are teenagers and two in their 20's (FYI, I am in my early 40's); one of them has 3 kids, and when they are all here I try to remember where I had all this energy to take care of the ones I had. Looking back I was glad I had my kids at a younger age. Yes their were things that I could not due with my friends back then, but now they are the ones with younger kids tied down, and I am the one who has freedom to go do things that I want and they are the ones who can not go anywhere.

In short maybe they just wanted to do more, and get things out of their system before having kids. People come into our live some times and they are great people, but we are not ready to settle down, so we allow them to leave; just to find out later we should have held on to them. That they could have made great mates, and parents, but owr own greed makes us say that we do not want to be tied down at this point in our lives. Thus we are older parents with lost of stuff, but no energy because we used it to get this great stuff, but not on our greatest asset, our childeren.